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LovingLife
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Who is suppose to plan it?
Who plans the baby shower?
For your consideration ... we want a Jack and Jill shower and we have almost 200 guests on our list. Most of which are my family and friends.
Thanks for any info you can give me.
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Posted 9/26/07 3:13 PM  |
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longford73
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Re: Who is suppose to plan it?
I think it depends on your situation. For me it's my mother, mil & two of my best friends who were my MOH & BM.
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| Posted 9/26/07 3:15 PM |
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Calla
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Re: Who is suppose to plan it?
OMG 200 guests? I've never heard of one that big. If its mostly your family, I'd think your family would be responsible. His family shouldn't have to deal with that.
There isn't a standard rule -- it depends on the situation. With that extreme of a guest list I think that whoever is demanding that many attendees would cover the bill - whether you or your parents.
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| Posted 9/26/07 3:18 PM |
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LovingLife
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Re: Who is suppose to plan it?
Posted by longford73
I think it depends on your situation. For me it's my mother, mil & two of my best friends who were my MOH & BM.
My issue - I had a pretty big wedding that was possible thanks to the help of our parents and his sister. So now I feel like it should be DH that plans it...but our finances won't allow it ..especially since we have to prepare for our baby.
So confused
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| Posted 9/26/07 3:18 PM |
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LovingLife
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Re: Who is suppose to plan it?
Posted by Calla
OMG 200 guests? I've never heard of one that big. If its mostly your family, I'd think your family would be responsible. His family shouldn't have to deal with that.
There isn't a standard rule -- it depends on the situation. With that extreme of a guest list I think that whoever is demanding that many attendees would cover the bill - whether you or your parents.
I know...I have to blame it on my My Big Fat Latin family...
I could honestly say that 100 guests is just my aunts, uncles and cousins.
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| Posted 9/26/07 3:21 PM |
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Theresa05
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Re: Who is suppose to plan it?
I am having about 100 people!
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| Posted 9/26/07 3:52 PM |
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Theresa05
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Re: Who is suppose to plan it?
Posted by LovingLife
Posted by Calla
OMG 200 guests? I've never heard of one that big. If its mostly your family, I'd think your family would be responsible. His family shouldn't have to deal with that.
There isn't a standard rule -- it depends on the situation. With that extreme of a guest list I think that whoever is demanding that many attendees would cover the bill - whether you or your parents.
I know...I have to blame it on my My Big Fat Latin family...
I could honestly say that 100 guests is just my aunts, uncles and cousins.
You guys can have it at a VFW or a knights of columbus and have all the family cook.. that takes the $ down!
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| Posted 9/26/07 3:52 PM |
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Kelly9904
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Re: Who is suppose to plan it?
WOW, thats bigger than my wedding!
With that amount of people I would suggest you and DH take care of it, unless your families really want to do it. I have a big family (not nearly that big) but I really cut down for my shower. I dont want it to be too overwhelming where I dont have time to say hi to everyone or open gifts.
In my case, my mom passed away, so my brother and MIL are planning it and my dad and MIL are paying for it.
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| Posted 9/26/07 3:52 PM |
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Karen
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Re: Who is suppose to plan it?
honestly, since you want it that big - I think it's only fair that you and your DH take care of it. I don't think it would be fair to spring such a big bill on someone else.
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| Posted 9/26/07 4:13 PM |
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nadia
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Re: Who is suppose to plan it?
Wow...200 and my mom was complaining about 60, but we're just having women.
My mom and cousin are throwing mine. MIL lives in Florida.
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| Posted 9/26/07 4:17 PM |
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LovingLife
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Re: Who is suppose to plan it?
Thank you ladies.....for your responses....
I feel the same way...my DH should take care of it from our savings.
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| Posted 9/26/07 4:28 PM |
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munchkinbugs
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Re: Who is suppose to plan it?
Posted by Karen
honestly, since you want it that big - I think it's only fair that you and your DH take care of it. I don't think it would be fair to spring such a big bill on someone else.
I was going to say the same thing. My mom and MIL are planning mine, but they are in charge of the guest list. It's very close family and friends. 60 people were invited. I wouldn't expect them to pay for 200 people. That's another wedding without the DJ.
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| Posted 9/26/07 7:17 PM |
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mrspetunia77
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Re: Who is suppose to plan it?
I don't know that it's anyone's set responsibility in the way the bridesmaids usually take care of bridal showers. In my group of friends, we have been throwing the showers for each other with moms sometimes helping out. speaking for myself, if the guest list were that large, i would feel uncomfortable asking anyone but my husband to cover the cost.
eta: i just reread your post. would you consider having it be just women? that would really cut the number, i bet.
Message edited 9/26/2007 7:38:22 PM.
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| Posted 9/26/07 7:37 PM |
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Heather617
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Re: Who is suppose to plan it?
I think it is usually a combination of the two families. I am actually going to have two because my family lives here with me and DH's family is back in NY. So my mom is doing one and his mom is doing one. If we were still in NY, my mom and his mom would have probably done it together.
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