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LightUpOurLife
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Bonnie-Jean
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My 2 Cents for the week
If you find yourself typing the words my <insert GF,BF,DH,DW,SO> would be so embarressed if they knew I was sharing this online, then please DON'T SHARE IT!!!!!!!
I have read this statement numerous times. and I just sit and shake my head. I also try not to share any thoughts on what you are typing, because that just bumps up the thread of something that shouldn't be spoken about.
Is it worth sharing something that is so obviously personal? Do you not care that you are violating the trust that this other person puts in you?
Gripe finished.... anyone else agree?
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Posted 8/22/07 6:06 PM  |
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headoverheels
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Re: My 2 Cents for the week
i don't necessarily agree... i think this forum is a place where we should be able to share those kinds of thoughts. we are all virtual strangers, most of us anyway, and it is often helpful to get some anonymous, objective feedback from someone not close to us. embarassing or not, sometimes we all need a little advice - or a shoulder to lean on/cry on/laugh with!
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| Posted 8/22/07 6:12 PM |
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LightUpOurLife
Totally in love
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Bonnie-Jean
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Re: My 2 Cents for the week
To speak about DH with anyone in a way that is embarrassing to him or I is a violation of trust. I just don't get what the person is gaining.
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| Posted 8/22/07 6:21 PM |
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leighla
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Re: My 2 Cents for the week
Posted by BJandDan
To speak about DH with anyone in a way that is embarrassing to him or I is a violation of trust. I just don't get what the person is gaining.
Then YOU shouldn't do it.
But as headoverheels said, some people need the outlet.
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| Posted 8/22/07 6:29 PM |
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LightUpOurLife
Totally in love
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Bonnie-Jean
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Re: My 2 Cents for the week
That's why I labeled it MY two cents. It's my opinion. 
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| Posted 8/22/07 7:04 PM |
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emilain
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Re: My 2 Cents for the week
I get what you are saying, since this is a public forum, what you say and validate that your loved one would be embarassed about can be viewed by MANY people. So...I'd have to agree with you
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| Posted 8/22/07 7:10 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Leslie
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Re: My 2 Cents for the week
Im with BJ on this one. SO's and various family members may not read the site but other's do. There are certain lines I will not cross. It is disrespectful to my husband or anyone else in my personal life to gripe about things that could or would embarrass them. Anything that I may think twice about posting, I may either ask DH first, or say "Ya know, that wouldn't be too smart." There are MANY lurkers here who look at pictures, recognize people and revel in the information they obtain. I would never put relationships with family members in jeopardy because I need to vent.
For example, we may not like what an in-law does, but that in-law is still part of an SO's family and regardless of personal feelings, that SO deserves the respect of keeping that private. Maybe they would be embarrassed by their own family's behavior. Why bring ANOTHER person down?
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| Posted 8/22/07 7:16 PM |
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itkocak
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Re: My 2 Cents for the week
Message edited 11/10/2011 7:59:27 PM.
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| Posted 8/22/07 7:20 PM |
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Superkat
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K
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Re: My 2 Cents for the week
Posted by imthekevinofcindyandkevin
Posted by Goldi0218
Im with BJ on this one. SO's and various family members may not read the site but other's do. There are certain lines I will not cross. It is disrespectful to my husband or anyone else in my personal life to gripe about things that could or would embarrass them. Anything that I may think twice about posting, I may either ask DH first, or say "Ya know, that wouldn't be too smart." There are MANY lurkers here who look at pictures, recognize people and revel in the information they obtain. I would never put relationships with family members in jeopardy because I need to vent.
For example, we may not like what an in-law does, but that in-law is still part of an SO's family and regardless of personal feelings, that SO deserves the respect of keeping that private. Maybe they would be embarrassed by their own family's behavior. Why bring ANOTHER person down?
ITA
I agree as well. I wouldn't want my private business talked about online whether people I knew read that site or not.
Also, I don't find the opinion of a stranger to be more helpful than the opinion of a friend. In fact, my friends know me, so they know my life and situation better than any stranger would and can provide better information based on that knowledge. That is why I will FM my friends for advice before I would request advice in a forum.
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| Posted 8/22/07 7:52 PM |
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SPECIALNEEDSMOMMY
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Barbara
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Re: My 2 Cents for the week
Yes ... I agree.
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| Posted 8/22/07 10:34 PM |
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nyteacher13
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Re: My 2 Cents for the week
I agree, but it's fun to read it. I wouldn't post something like that myself though. 
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| Posted 8/22/07 10:39 PM |
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: My 2 Cents for the week
Posted by Goldi0218
Im with BJ on this one. SO's and various family members may not read the site but other's do. There are certain lines I will not cross. It is disrespectful to my husband or anyone else in my personal life to gripe about things that could or would embarrass them. Anything that I may think twice about posting, I may either ask DH first, or say "Ya know, that wouldn't be too smart." There are MANY lurkers here who look at pictures, recognize people and revel in the information they obtain. I would never put relationships with family members in jeopardy because I need to vent.
For example, we may not like what an in-law does, but that in-law is still part of an SO's family and regardless of personal feelings, that SO deserves the respect of keeping that private. Maybe they would be embarrassed by their own family's behavior. Why bring ANOTHER person down?
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ITA!!! Well said.
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| Posted 8/23/07 6:07 AM |
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Maathy317
Grammie's Little Man
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Re: My 2 Cents for the week
Posted by Goldi0218
Im with BJ on this one. SO's and various family members may not read the site but other's do. There are certain lines I will not cross. It is disrespectful to my husband or anyone else in my personal life to gripe about things that could or would embarrass them. Anything that I may think twice about posting, I may either ask DH first, or say "Ya know, that wouldn't be too smart." There are MANY lurkers here who look at pictures, recognize people and revel in the information they obtain. I would never put relationships with family members in jeopardy because I need to vent.
For example, we may not like what an in-law does, but that in-law is still part of an SO's family and regardless of personal feelings, that SO deserves the respect of keeping that private. Maybe they would be embarrassed by their own family's behavior. Why bring ANOTHER person down?
Have to agree with this. I would never put anything out there that would hurt or embarrass anyone. I really don't see the point in doing that.
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| Posted 8/23/07 7:49 AM |
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Re: My 2 Cents for the week
Thank you!!!!
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| Posted 8/23/07 8:21 AM |
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KGools
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Re: My 2 Cents for the week
I agree... I don't discuss my FH on these boards (I dont' do it on LIW either) because I know he wouldn't appreciate it being the private person that he is.
That's not to say I think everyone should follow that rule and not speak of their SO, but to start off a thread saying "My SO would be so embarassed if he/she knew I was writing this..." is wrong, I think.
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| Posted 8/23/07 9:00 AM |
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Shelly
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Re: My 2 Cents for the week
I definitely see your point, and for the most part I agree with you.
But sometimes you just need to vent or get another perspective on an issue you are having with DH/SO/etc... .
I would discuss it with a bunch of strangers rather than to someone who really knows my DH. I would never speak badly about by DH to our friends or my family. But sometimes if you are having an issue with DH and you need to talk to SOMEONE about it, I understand why people come on here.
Message edited 8/23/2007 10:02:02 AM.
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