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Message edited 7/17/2007 11:34:19 AM.

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if the shower is supposed to be a surprise, you really can't say anything.

otherwise, I would ask that she not be invited.

Message edited 7/17/2007 10:31:22 AM.

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Ouch! This is a tough one..... it is a shower for you, and she is a good friend of yours so I think she should come. Will your sister and the girl be civil to eachother or will they get into it? If there is going to be a huge problem by her being there, you might want to exclude her. If it is just a matter of them not being too fond of eachother, I think they can both push their issues aside to celebrate a happy occassion for you, just for one day.

Ok wait....is she not a good friend? Oh sorry, I think I read that wrong. If she is someone that you just hung out with a few times, I think its ok to not invite her

Message edited 7/17/2007 10:36:44 AM.

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I would ask that she not be invited....

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Honestly, I know you said you've hung out with her a few times and like her, but unless she was a very close friend, I probably wouldn't invite her. I think your sis being comfortable at her own sister's shower is more important than someone coming who you've hung out with a few times, JMO.

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Whether or not it is a surprise, you should have a say in the guest list. I mean you know someone is going to throw you a shower. Thus I would say something to your mom about the guest list - who you would like there and who you wouldn't. That being said the new gf should not be invited. I think this would be uncomfortable for your sister & unfair. Plus you aren't that close with the new girl and all gfs don't need to be invited. Not to mention would she even know anyone else there?

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I think its going to make you uncomfortable and you don't need that at your own shower. I say tell DH that you really just don't think its a good idea. I understand that she might be a nice girl, but the other girl involved is your sister. That's where yours and your DH's loyalty should lie.

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I would ask DH to back off having this girl put on the guest list. There's no need someone you don't have a very close relationship should be invited at the expense of your sister's comfort.

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yeah... i agree. i don't think she should be invited. i think it would really be uncomfortable for your sister... and she's family, so she should be comfortable. i'm sure the new gf wll understand....

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I agree with the others. I don't think she should be invited.
You want to enjoy your day, not worry if your sister and the friend are getting along or not.

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I pretty much agree with what everyone said. I didn't know if I was making a big deal of it or not. Thanks for the feed back. I'm gonna talk to DH.

Thanks.

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