Can I do a little WR venting (not my own wedding)

Kinda long, sorry:

DH is part of a wedding party this weekend. Everyone that I know that will be at the wedding will be IN the wedding party. The bride & groom have mentioned to us in passing at least 3 times over the past year that "significant others" who are not part of the wedding party will be in the limo from the hotel to the wedding venue.

At the rehearsal dinner tonight, I (a "significant other") was told that I could drive the car to the venue and leave it overnight. Nothing was mentioned about going in the limo to the place. Normally, it wouldn't be a big deal, I wouldn't think twice about it, IF it hadn't been brought up earlier that transportation would be provided. Now, I would NEVER ask to go with the bridal party as I'm not a part of it, but do you think if plans had changed, they should have mentioned it?

I know sh*t comes up, and plans get changed and things get costly, but as it was offered previously, don't you think it would have been nice to bring up the change in plans? I can't and would NOT bring it up to the bride & groom, but I just think that it's not considerate of others to make this change and not inform anyone. I'm not the only one who feels this way. There are at least two others who were left "out in the cold" thinking transportation wasnt an issue, only to find out a day ahead that it was.

I feel guilty for being annoyed - it's THEIR wedding, and they've got plenty else to worry about, but to say you're going to provide transportation, and then take it back...the day before, kind of weird, no?

I guess I'm more annoyed at the handling of the situation than the situation itself.

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Well, wait, if they're telling you to drop your car off tonight and leave it overnight, I would think they mean that because you'll be in the limo on the way there, but need a ride home. Right? Maybe I read wrong.

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So, wait, do they have transportation for you on the way home? I would think that if they're telling you what to do with your car, that means they have a plan for you. If not, that's just weird that they're telling you what to do with your car, no?

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Yes, it is weird. That's my point. They're telling me to drive there, and they'll transport us to the hotel. Meanwhile, up until a couple of months ago, they were telling me not to worry, they'd transport me FROM the hotel.

Not just me, mind you, other spouses of people in the wedding party.

My point is, I feel like they're flaking out. I'd never say that, I'm just venting here, because where else can I?

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Stupid, backasswards people! Let it out all you want That's plain bat nutty!

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Stupid, backasswards people! Let it out all you want That's plain bat nutty!

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I don't think you are being selfish. They told you that you didn't have to worry about transportation... and now they are saying "Oh yeah... you probably ought to worry about transportation."

They PROBABLY ran out of funds or whatever and realized that their initial plan was not feasible. And in that stupid wedding brain fever thought "I bet nobody REALLY expects that SO's will be allowed in the limo's! I bet nobody even remembers we offered it!"

It's a rotten way to to things. They are attempting to Jedi Mind F*ck you. Instead of manning up and saying "Listen - I am really sorry, but we just didn't realize that our initial plan would not be possible.." they pull that whole "You will do this and not remember we offered that..."

Eh. People. A lot of them are just plain screwy.

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Maybe you should call them and verify what they mean...it doesn't sound right.
Either they are providing transportation to the venue and want you to have your car there to come home or they are taking you home from the venue but not taking you there?
Either way it doesn't make any sense and I would double check.
Maybe in the whole hullaballoo of last minute crap they got screwed up.

It happens - our friends never arranged for transportation from a venue ( we were both in the wedding party) and when the next wedding came in and we were still hanging around my DH went and paid the limo driver for the new wedding to take us back to the hotel.
People get confused sometimes with all the wedding planning.

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the whole thing is screwy. i know for our wedding the few people that had so's, we had them go with the bp after the church. whether or not they chose to use it was up to them.

honestly, i 'd find my own way there and back. the bride and groom definitely seem flaky.

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I can't believe that they don't mean for you to bring your car the night before the wedding to have it there for after the wedding. I think you should definitely check with them to clarify because the whole thing makes absolutely no sense. If what you're saying is accurate, it is the strangest thing I've ever heard and I would be aggrevated as well.