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I don't know if this belongs on a different board or not - but I figured I would start it here.

We just moved into our house in Dec.
Well, now that the weather is getting nicer and the kids are getting out of school, my neighbors have been outside more often now. Well, at least the kids are.

The way our house is situated is that the back of their house faces the side of our house (they are a corner house).

Well the use the back door alot, so we plan on putting some type of bushes there so they really can't see into our backyard too much.

Well, that really isn't the problem, the problem is the cursing that goes on.
It's the kids, sometimes even the mother.

Is there anything that I can do about it - I really don't want my daughter picking it up - especially right now - that she is a year old and learning everything right now.

They are always yelling at each other and then you hear F-this and F-that. And so on. I don't know what to do. It's not fair for us to have to take DD inside when it happens.

Also when we are inside - they actually yell at each other loud enough that it wakes DD up from her naps (even with the air conditioners on)

Would you say anything?
Any advice?

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If you find out a way let me know please

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Yup, I would say something.....I'm not sure you would have a friendly relationship with this person afterwards, but who cares they sound disgusting anyway by how they talk......

I would tell the mother the next time you see her outside, that you would appreciate her not cursing so loud outside her house, you don't want your daughter hearing these words!! I would tell her that you also hear her and her kids inside sometimes, that's how loud they are. Hopefully she will say sorry and that will be the end of it, but who knows......

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I would probably call the cops when they are screaming, maybe they will get the hint.

Have you spoken to any other neighbors about them?

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I would walk over there and voice your concern... bring your DD over there to show her what a cutie she and her foul mouth children are potentially corrupting... I would focus more on the kids language rather than her own... you don't want to come off as attacking her.

If she gives you a problem, refer to the thread containing the article about the neighbors who tattled on their next door neighbor's children's loud mouths... just kidding

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that is a tough one & because they seem like rough people it will be hard to handle.
Can you try to be friendly with them, like go out of your way to talk to the parents? Maybe if you're able to become "friendly" with them, you can tell them your concerns & they won't tell you to "F off"
Its not funny, sorry you ended up with neighbors that curse like sailors

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tough call

totally see your point

you have a right not to have your daughter hear those words

but i have a feeling that she's gonna tell you that what she says and how she acts on her property is her business and her right - as long as she's not in your house doing it - that's gonna be her argument

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Posted by Marcie

Posted by QuoteTheRaven424

tough call

totally see your point

you have a right not to have your daughter hear those words

but i have a feeling that she's gonna tell you that what she says and how she acts on her property is her business and her right - as long as she's not in your house doing it - that's gonna be her argument

See that is what I feel will happen.

They are very nice people, but quite honestly - I really don't think they would respect us and stop.

We have been outside (even the baby was outside) talking to her over the fence and when she was done she yells over to her side neighbor and says - 'what kind of f-ing music are you listening to - it sounds like $hit!'
And we were right there.

I think if I said anything it would mean nothing in their eyes

I don't want a potty mouth little girl

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Posted by Marcie

Posted by QuoteTheRaven424

tough call

totally see your point

you have a right not to have your daughter hear those words

but i have a feeling that she's gonna tell you that what she says and how she acts on her property is her business and her right - as long as she's not in your house doing it - that's gonna be her argument

See that is what I feel will happen.

They are very nice people, but quite honestly - I really don't think they would respect us and stop.

We have been outside (even the baby was outside) talking to her over the fence and when she was done she yells over to her side neighbor and says - 'what kind of f-ing music are you listening to - it sounds like $hit!'
And we were right there.

I think if I said anything it would mean nothing in their eyes

I don't want a potty mouth little girl

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Posted by npbride

Posted by Marcie

Posted by QuoteTheRaven424

tough call

totally see your point

you have a right not to have your daughter hear those words

but i have a feeling that she's gonna tell you that what she says and how she acts on her property is her business and her right - as long as she's not in your house doing it - that's gonna be her argument

See that is what I feel will happen.

They are very nice people, but quite honestly - I really don't think they would respect us and stop.

We have been outside (even the baby was outside) talking to her over the fence and when she was done she yells over to her side neighbor and says - 'what kind of f-ing music are you listening to - it sounds like $hit!'
And we were right there.

I think if I said anything it would mean nothing in their eyes

I don't want a potty mouth little girl

Maybe that can be your opportunity to say to DD (in front of pottymouth neighbor) something about not using bad words like that. But, come up with a cute or funny way of saying that! Sorry, I'm no help.

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Unfortunately, I believe that saying something will not only NOT resolve the matter, but will probably make it worse My mother made the mistake of making a similar request and now has an awful relationship with her neighbors. I think the poster above has made the best suggestion. Good luck!!

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Posted by JennCo

Posted by npbride

Posted by Marcie

Posted by QuoteTheRaven424

tough call

totally see your point

you have a right not to have your daughter hear those words

but i have a feeling that she's gonna tell you that what she says and how she acts on her property is her business and her right - as long as she's not in your house doing it - that's gonna be her argument

See that is what I feel will happen.

They are very nice people, but quite honestly - I really don't think they would respect us and stop.

We have been outside (even the baby was outside) talking to her over the fence and when she was done she yells over to her side neighbor and says - 'what kind of f-ing music are you listening to - it sounds like $hit!'
And we were right there.

I think if I said anything it would mean nothing in their eyes

I don't want a potty mouth little girl

Maybe that can be your opportunity to say to DD (in front of pottymouth neighbor) something about not using bad words like that. But, come up with a cute or funny way of saying that! Sorry, I'm no help.

I think that is a good idea!! I would use an opportunity like that one (when she curses in front of DD) and say something to DD about not using bad words and how we don't speak like that. This way then you're not having to confront her on it, but you're still getting your point across.

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I dont have any further advice than what was given above but when did you move in next door

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While I think it would be wonderful to let your neighbors know that they are being rude and exposing your DD to language that is not appropriate, I just don't think it would work.

We had neighbors growing up that my parents approached about a subject. They had been good friends and of course the kids all used to play together. Once my parents approached them on their concerns (I think I remember it being the bad behavior of one child) things ended up getting nasty.

So if you do approach them, please realize it could really make an uncomfortable living situation (worse than you are already dealing with).

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Can you try to make a joke of it?

The next time your neighbor curses in front of you & your little one is nearby say something like "sssshhhh- we have a parrot over here- I don't think daycare would appreciate her sharing anymore new words..." and then laugh?

this might get your point across without a big confrontation.