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waterspout4
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OH MY GOD!!!
My sister just called me to tell me that she is going to be a grandmother!!!!!!  
Her son, my nephew, got a girl 'in trouble'. So, within a few months, she'll be an aunt and a grandmother. She is in utter shock. The problem is: we come from a very Catholic family. So she's afraid to tell the rest of the family. I don't want to be in her shoes.
But there's a part of me that is kind of angry. My parents were so excited for me to get pregnant. They felt like they had lived their lives to the fullest. Their children were having children. Now they are going to become great-grandparents. My sister wants to go over pregnancy things from me to them. How do I get over this anger?  Am I a bad person for feeling like they've taken my 'spotlight'?
More of an explanation below.......
Message edited 3/8/2007 12:52:17 PM.
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Re: OH MY GOD!!!
no...I can def see your point.
I would def look at it diff though. They def won't be getting good spotlight.
WHat a shame...How old are they?
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| Posted 3/8/07 7:01 AM |
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05mommy09
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A baby is always a blessing- family should support them at this time, not be embarassed...
As far as your "spotlight" I dont think its the same- Your child is gonna be extra special to your parents... Because YOU are THEIR child... Be grateful your child will have a cousin to grow up with, and be so close in age with!
How old are these "kids" anyway?
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| Posted 3/8/07 7:13 AM |
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: OH MY GOD!!!
Posted by Princessmaris
A baby is always a blessing- family should support them at this time, not be embarassed...
As far as your "spotlight" I dont think its the same- Your child is gonna be extra special to your parents... Because YOU are THEIR child... Be grateful your child will have a cousin to grow up with, and be so close in age with!
I agree. Well said!! I cannot understand why you are angry. Each child will be very special and each one will get their own spotlight.
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Porrruss
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Re: OH MY GOD!!!
Ugh- I don't want want to sound mean, because I GUESS I understand..... But I can guarantee that your sister/nephew would love nothing more than to NOT be in this situation. It seems that they need your support right now. You can't help how you feel I suppose, but you should likely keep your feelings to yourself- as you'll look a bit selfish.
Geez- makes me wonder how my SIL felt when I announced my pg (six weeks after she did). The last thing I was thinking about was stealing her thunder.....
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ARIELSMOM
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Re: OH MY GOD!!!
Posted by BellaPaige
Posted by Princessmaris
A baby is always a blessing- family should support them at this time, not be embarassed...
As far as your "spotlight" I dont think its the same- Your child is gonna be extra special to your parents... Because YOU are THEIR child... Be grateful your child will have a cousin to grow up with, and be so close in age with!
I agree. Well said!! I cannot understand why you are angry. Each child will be very special and each one will get their own spotlight.
I very much agree with this. Especially since i had my dd at a young age. Their pregnancy was obviously not planned and i commend them for "stepping up" to the responsibiliites of having a child. Its never and easy thing to do, but its even harder when you are a kid yourslef and you have the rest of the world frowning upon you.
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Bklyngrl
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Re: OH MY GOD!!!
You're not a bad person, try not to look at is taking your spotlight. YOUR baby is your spotlight and that won't change for your parents.
I don't know if this helps but maybe think how blessed your parents are to be alive & well enough to know and enjoy grandchildren AND great grandchildren?? So many don't get that opportunity and its a playmate for your child. Hope this helps 
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| Posted 3/8/07 10:55 AM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: OH MY GOD!!!
Coming from someone that is in your shoes, dont' be angry - it's a waste of time and energy.
A week after Molly was born, my niece announced her unexpected pregnancy making me a great aunt and Dh's sister a grandmother. I was so excited because this meant that Molly was going to have a cousin her age and I thought that was great.
Imagine how wonderful it's going to be for your child to have a cousin so close in age! They will always have someone to play with at family functions and someone to relate to them through their growing.
Based on what you said, it sounds like most of your child's cousins were older to begin with. Try to look at the positives.
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| Posted 3/8/07 11:02 AM |
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Re: OH MY GOD!!!
Posted by Porrruss
Ugh- I don't want want to sound mean, because I GUESS I understand..... But I can guarantee that your sister/nephew would love nothing more than to NOT be in this situation. It seems that they need your support right now. You can't help how you feel I suppose, but you should likely keep your feelings to yourself- as you'll look a bit selfish.
Geez- makes me wonder how my SIL felt when I announced my pg (six weeks after she did). The last thing I was thinking about was stealing her thunder.....
my aunt [who is 10 years older than me] announced she was PG about 3 months after I gave birth the first time. i was completely THRILLED but must admit i was a bit "hurt" that the birth overshadowed my child's first birthday. all things considered, it couldn't have worked out better in the end. my aunt is my closest friend and our daugthers get to be buddies. and since my own sister is 10 years younger than me, I feel like I get to be an aunt, especially since my sister may not want kids and DH's siblings are far from "that place" in their lives.
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| Posted 3/8/07 11:04 AM |
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waterspout4
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Re: OH MY GOD!!!
Thank you so much for your responses. I didn't fully explain why I was beaing a brat and now that I've slept on it I feel a bit better. (And thank some of you for your b!tch slaps of reality.  )
The main thing is that my mother (and brother, who is my nephew's Godfather) always vent to me about how my sister raises her children. I'm always placed in the middle. There are numerous phone calls made, to me, just to complain about her. So, instead of enjoying my own pregnancy I am afraid of the negativity from them. It really has nothing to do with someone being pregnant at the same time as me. It has to do with the negative fallout overshadowing a happy time.
Thankfully, my nephew and his girlfriend are both barely adults. (Which doesn't matter to my Catholic family. Now all the pushing to get married will happen.) They are embracing this child. I'm nervous for them because they haven't known each other for a while and have only been dating a few months. Thank you for your thoughts!!!!!
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