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Yup. My Grandmother, my uncle, my Grandfather's best friend, DH's Grandmother and several close family friends have passed since our wedding in 06....We also had one divorce and a broken engagement....

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I'm so sorry for everyone's losses.

No one has died since our wedding, but in the years leading up to it, I lost an aunt, two uncles, and various other family members. And my father nearly died a few weeks before my wedding... but he is thankfully healthy now.

We did have a divorce since then, but the non-blood related member of that couple wasn't at our wedding...

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Since our wedding almost 5 years ago...we lost my Aunt, my Brother, my Grandma, my Dad & DH's Aunt oh and his boss. Yeah unfortunately TONS of experience here.

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My next door neighbor died just a few months after my wedding. I have her on video at my wedding & she looked great & had no idea she even had cancer
Also my dad got sick a year after my wedding & died after a short illness... but I'm so glad he was healthy & happy at my wedding & able to walk with me & dance with me that day.

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It is so scary to think about. I am so worried beause NO ONe close to me has died, but I have TONS of family in their seventies and eighties. There will come a day, where me and DH will be attending a lot of funerals. Scary to think about, but it is life. Life expectancy in the US is 78. I don't know what to expect.

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Posted by Christine

Posted by JennZ

Not to be a downer but thats life. People die. It sucks but there is nothing we can do about it.

I agree. It's part of life. I am more sad about the people that passed away before the wedding.

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This was just a small part of the speech I gave at the funeral of one of my best friends:

Time went on, there were moves and job changes but my friendship with Jeff remained, as did our numerous trips to Fire Island. I met my husband on Fire Island and Jeff, in his usual manner, accepted a new friend and began to share memories with both of us. When my husband and I decided to get married, we discussed that fact that I had several close male/female friendships and that I wanted to be able to pick a friend to be a groomsman to represent the very best of such friendships. I immediately picked Jeff and I have never for a minute doubted that decision.

To the person who said something to the effect of "that's life and that's how it goes," tell that to Jeff's parents who had to bury the first of their 3 sons. Tell it to the friend that Jeff called from his deathbed because he said he'd never forget a friend's birthday. Most of all, tell it to the people who have seen loved ones suffer. My life will go on but it will never be the same. I cannot even imagine losing a parent.

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Since my wedding we've also lost 3 people-

My Grandfather- 82
My Aunt- 50
My Cousin- 19


It stinks- but unfortunately, it's a fact of life- especially for elderly people.

ETA: right before our wedding my FIL and my other grandfather passed away. . .at least the others were there to help us celebrate

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We watch our video every year on our anniversary and every year we note all those that have passed

It's life, but still sad to see some of them in the recieving line, dancing etc.

ETA My mom's cousin was a big gardner and was so excited to win the centerpiece....she passed a few years later and I often think how happy that made her.

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My dad has passed away since my wedding. Out of all of my siblings I am the only one that had my dad at my wedding to dance with as others posted I am lucky to have the video and pictures

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My MIL passed away this year, after losing her second battle with cancer. At my wedding, she had just gone into remission with her 1st cancer. My grandmother was killed a year or so after my wedding, but watching her dance on my wedding video lets me remember how happy she always was.

It is sad watching my parents wedding video, sooooo many people have passed away ( granted its been 40 years) but its still sad to think of all their aunts and uncles and grandparents etc that are gone.

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we have lost 4 people since ours....4 yrs ago

2 of them being my grandmothers....

it is sad but I will say I am so happy they got to see us get married and I know they were so happy too.

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I had someone on DH's side die just 1 month later... And Dh's grandfather passed away 5 months later.... Im just sooooo glad he was able to be there with us... it meant alot... (i would even kid around with him and "threaten" him that he better make it to our wedding... he was 98 yrs young )

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I've suddenly realized that my friend Jeff was the only person who was at my wedding 5 years ago who has since passed. He was one of my best friends so it is a terrible loss but I guess it is a rare thing that none of the older relatives have died. I never would have predicted that in 2010 the person to have passed would have been Jeff (happened in 2009). Even my mom's aunt who is in her late 90s who could not travel to my wedding but had many relatives there is still alive.

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I look at my seating board I had made and see names of people who have passed away or even a few that I don't speak to anymore. It does pass my mind too when I see them, how upsetting.

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I got married almost 10 years ago and there are at least 7 or 8 people who are dead including my MIL. She had Alzheimers at a young age and she was seriously on the decline when we got married. But thankfully she was still well enough to dance with him. He purposely picked a song that his mother always sang around the house and she sang along while they danced even though she probably had no idea who he was. There was seriously not a dry eye in the place. We watched some of the video not too long ago and I was saddened also by several other people in the video who are not dead but have had tragedies. One friend's daughter committed suicide only a few months after our wedding. It really made me sad to see her dancing and having a good time having no idea what grief was coming her way only shortly thereafter. Another guy was sober for many years and I remember him hugging and kissing me at our wedding and he was obviously drinking. He lost his wife & daughter (divorce & custody) since then. And he's been remarried & divorced again since and from what we hear is now engaged again.

But there are also bright moments. My one nephew was 8 days old at my wedding - a teeny tiny wedding guest - and he's almost 10 years old now. A couple we are friends with were having fertility issues and now have 2 children, my cousin who was in an unhappy relationship (the BF was at our wedding with her) is now in an amazing relationship and is remarried for 3 years now. Really it goes both ways.

I'm still with my DH and happily married so that's a definite plus.

My one SIL was married in 1990 - so her wedding video is an even bigger trip, good and bad.

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Posted by hazeleyes33

We've been married over 17 years so we have had a quite few die.

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Too many, and too many that are way too close.

I lost my dad a couple of months ago. I lost both grandmothers, one a few months after my wedding, one the following year. My across the street neighbor from growing up who we were still close with, a cousin, my MIL's best friend since she was a little girl....I'm sure I can go on.

I have a framed picture of my grandma and I on my wedding day on my dresser. We knew she would be gone shortly after the wedding, we just hoped she's make it through that day and she did. My dad, never expected that he'd been gone 2 years later....never expected that in a million years. Don't know when I'll be able to look at my wedding pictures again...

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i got married in 2006

i lost one grandfather six months after my wedding. My grandma told me on our first anniversary that our wedding was where they shared their last dance (they loved to dance). He was sick for a long time, and while losing him was heartbreaking, we knew it was coming.

i lost my dad less than two years after my wedding. that was not expected and i would never have imagined at that time that he wouldn't be with us anymore. i am so thankful he was there that day and for a video and great photos ....

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Every year on our anniversary (next month!) we watch our wedding DVD and dance to our dedication songs.
Since that production several people in the video have attended that great reception hall in the sky, including:

--the pastor who married us!
--my widowed BIL (she passed three years earlier)
--a boyhood friend
--a neighbor from our beach house resort (one of three. The other two were too sick to attend).
--my MIL's long-time companion

Say, you don't suppose wedding videos are a jinx, do you??

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it's also been about 3 years since my wedding, and two family friends have died since...they were in their 60's, which is still really young to me. Definitely makes me appreciate each day we're blessed to have!

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it is sad, i try and stay towards the positive of the new life.

since my wedding almost 6 years ago in November....

the next year my aunt(in her 60's) and my husbands aunt(in her 50's) both died of ovarian cancer......

my husbands aunt left behind 3 children, two of whom got engaged and married after she past away although she get to meet the people, the third child graduated high school without her......

Then last year my husbands aunt, on the other side of the family, past away from lung cancer, she left behind an only child who the following month graduated high school without her.....

I also lost both grandmothers in their late eighties, which were the final grandparents on my side.