WWYD: SIL issue

I need some advice from some non-partial women:

The short of the long story is…My SIL (DH’s sister) and I don’t have the best relationship. She didn’t speak to me for about a year and I never found out why. When we announced our pregnancy she never said Congratulations and she didn’t really speak to me throughout the pregnancy either.

Daniel is now just over a week old. She came to the hospital for a whopping 30 minutes. That visit was the last time we heard from her. She hasn’t called since we’ve been home from the hospital, she hasn’t visited, she hasn’t sent flowers. My FIL told DH that they didn’t stop by our house because they were working long hours so they could go on their cruise. I find it hard to believe that they can’t pick up the phone and call just to see how things are going since we got home. She and her boyfriend left for a cruise this past Friday and we got a call this morning that they got engaged last night.

I want to be happy for them but I am finding it so hard given the way she has disregarded our son throughout my pregnancy and since he has been born. Do I say Congratulations to them when they get back? Wouldn’t it just make me look bad if I didn’t say Congrats? How would you respond???

Please do not quote b/c I will probably take this down later today b/c of lurkers.

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I would congratulate her--be the bigger person!

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I would say congrats to her. IMO, I would kill her with niceness so ahe can feel like sh&t. You can't stoop to her level at all.

I cannot stand people like this.

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Wow, sounds like you and I have a lot in common with our SIL's,
I have a similar issue as well, hoowever, the best advice I can say is, kill her with kindess and just be the BETTER person and say congrats and be done with it.
That's what I do and although, I want to say something nasty, I just go about it and be better.

I HTH. good luck

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I would be the bigger person and say congratulations and send a card. I am sorry she isn't that into her nephew and it is sad, but honestly it is her lose. I actually feel bad for your husband the most. But you can't control other people and what they do. I try not to expect too much from people lately, otherwise I am surely disappointed.

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Its sounds like she is a little jealous..

Maybe that her brother got married and had a baby before she did...

My SIL and I have always gotten along, but she even made a remark like "she shouldve been the one that gave HER parents the 1st grandchild".

It irritated me, but I didnt let it effect how exciting it was for her to get engaged, get married and now, be preggo.

I would at the very least send a congrats card.

I know it sounds cheesy- but be the bigger person.

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I'd congratulate her be the bigger person.

You can always send a card signed from you, DH and your baby