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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
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CoViD is the perfect excuse NOT to attend a wedding. Especially if I have to travel all that way, wear a mask or be vaccinated, etc.
That's exactly it though, it's an EXCUSE. If you don't want to go, don't go but I am so tired of people using covid as an excuse. Just be honest about it. I get that for some it's a valid reason if you are immunocompromised or caring for someone that is, but for most people it's pick and choose at this point and blame everything on covid. I'm so over it....
What diff does it make why they choose not to attend?Now it just gives an easy out. If people are going to choose COVID as an excuse then during normal non COVID times you just have a bunch of people showing up that really don't want to be there.
Honestly I prob would attend a wedding even now that was local but to go through all that COVID crap, testing, vaccination proof, mask wearing, then no I wouldn't fly across country to attend a wedding. I would be miserable and hate every second of it.
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
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CoViD is the perfect excuse NOT to attend a wedding. Especially if I have to travel all that way, wear a mask or be vaccinated, etc.
That's exactly it though, it's an EXCUSE. If you don't want to go, don't go but I am so tired of people using covid as an excuse. Just be honest about it. I get that for some it's a valid reason if you are immunocompromised or caring for someone that is, but for most people it's pick and choose at this point and blame everything on covid. I'm so over it....
What diff does it make why they choose not to attend?Now it just gives an easy out. If people are going to choose COVID as an excuse then during normal non COVID times you just have a bunch of people showing up that really don't want to be there.
Honestly I prob would attend a wedding even now that was local but to go through all that COVID crap, testing, vaccination proof, mask wearing, then no I wouldn't fly across country to attend a wedding. I would be miserable and hate every second of it.
The difference is if you don’t want to go just own it. Don’t blame it on covid. It’s so ridiculous. Just decline and let that be that. Say sorry I don’t feel like it. Why LIE?!?!? Behave like the ass hole you really are!
ETA: and yes I say ass hole because you (genera you) are the people that had a wedding and people came and they were happy to celebrate with you. But when it’s some one else’s turn you (general you) ***** and moan and complain and begrudge anyone else their happiness. I’m so over it. It you aren’t happy enough for someone to want to attend their wedding and celebrate them then just stop associating with them and certainly don’t expect them to be happy and celebrate any of your milestones with you.
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
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CoViD is the perfect excuse NOT to attend a wedding. Especially if I have to travel all that way, wear a mask or be vaccinated, etc.
That's exactly it though, it's an EXCUSE. If you don't want to go, don't go but I am so tired of people using covid as an excuse. Just be honest about it. I get that for some it's a valid reason if you are immunocompromised or caring for someone that is, but for most people it's pick and choose at this point and blame everything on covid. I'm so over it....
I don’t get why people don’t like to go to weddings.
Same! I love weddings and all the silly things some people detest like the bouquet and garter toss. The same goes for bridal and baby showers.
I love anything I get to eat, drink, get out and have some laughs and fun :)
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
Posted by lululu
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CoViD is the perfect excuse NOT to attend a wedding. Especially if I have to travel all that way, wear a mask or be vaccinated, etc.
That's exactly it though, it's an EXCUSE. If you don't want to go, don't go but I am so tired of people using covid as an excuse. Just be honest about it. I get that for some it's a valid reason if you are immunocompromised or caring for someone that is, but for most people it's pick and choose at this point and blame everything on covid. I'm so over it....
What diff does it make why they choose not to attend?Now it just gives an easy out. If people are going to choose COVID as an excuse then during normal non COVID times you just have a bunch of people showing up that really don't want to be there.
Honestly I prob would attend a wedding even now that was local but to go through all that COVID crap, testing, vaccination proof, mask wearing, then no I wouldn't fly across country to attend a wedding. I would be miserable and hate every second of it.
The difference is if you don’t want to go just own it. Don’t blame it on covid. It’s so ridiculous. Just decline and let that be that. Say sorry I don’t feel like it. Why LIE?!?!? Behave like the ass hole you really are!
ETA: and yes I say ass hole because you (genera you) are the people that had a wedding and people came and they were happy to celebrate with you. But when it’s some one else’s turn you (general you) ***** and moan and complain and begrudge anyone else their happiness. I’m so over it. It you aren’t happy enough for someone to want to attend their wedding and celebrate them then just stop associating with them and certainly don’t expect them to be happy and celebrate any of your milestones with you.
And this is EXACTLY why I had a destination wedding and ONLY invited parents and siblings. Why waste all that money and time to celebrate with people who really could careless? Or that you only see once every few years at other big celebrations.
So yea....I'm not some asshole because I don't want to attend a cousins wedding who I don't even speak to on a regular basis. However I do always make sure I send a gift .
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Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
I’m going to a wedding this weekend.
So yes, I would probably go, especially since vaccination/testing/masks are required.
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
Posted by RainyDay
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CoViD is the perfect excuse NOT to attend a wedding. Especially if I have to travel all that way, wear a mask or be vaccinated, etc.
That's exactly it though, it's an EXCUSE. If you don't want to go, don't go but I am so tired of people using covid as an excuse. Just be honest about it. I get that for some it's a valid reason if you are immunocompromised or caring for someone that is, but for most people it's pick and choose at this point and blame everything on covid. I'm so over it....
What diff does it make why they choose not to attend?Now it just gives an easy out. If people are going to choose COVID as an excuse then during normal non COVID times you just have a bunch of people showing up that really don't want to be there.
Honestly I prob would attend a wedding even now that was local but to go through all that COVID crap, testing, vaccination proof, mask wearing, then no I wouldn't fly across country to attend a wedding. I would be miserable and hate every second of it.
The difference is if you don’t want to go just own it. Don’t blame it on covid. It’s so ridiculous. Just decline and let that be that. Say sorry I don’t feel like it. Why LIE?!?!? Behave like the ass hole you really are!
ETA: and yes I say ass hole because you (genera you) are the people that had a wedding and people came and they were happy to celebrate with you. But when it’s some one else’s turn you (general you) ***** and moan and complain and begrudge anyone else their happiness. I’m so over it. It you aren’t happy enough for someone to want to attend their wedding and celebrate them then just stop associating with them and certainly don’t expect them to be happy and celebrate any of your milestones with you.
And this is EXACTLY why I had a destination wedding and ONLY invited parents and siblings. Why waste all that money and time to celebrate with people who really could careless? Or that you only see once every few years at other big celebrations.
So yea....I'm not some asshole because I don't want to attend a cousins wedding who I don't even speak to on a regular basis. However I do always make sure I send a gift .
I think you are the minority thou. I know so many who had engagement parties, showers and big weddings and then complain any time they are invited to something that they have to go and it’s such a burden. It’s such a shame that people can’t just be happy for others and truly want to celebrate with them.
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
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Posted by RainyDay
CoViD is the perfect excuse NOT to attend a wedding. Especially if I have to travel all that way, wear a mask or be vaccinated, etc.
That's exactly it though, it's an EXCUSE. If you don't want to go, don't go but I am so tired of people using covid as an excuse. Just be honest about it. I get that for some it's a valid reason if you are immunocompromised or caring for someone that is, but for most people it's pick and choose at this point and blame everything on covid. I'm so over it....
What diff does it make why they choose not to attend?Now it just gives an easy out. If people are going to choose COVID as an excuse then during normal non COVID times you just have a bunch of people showing up that really don't want to be there.
Honestly I prob would attend a wedding even now that was local but to go through all that COVID crap, testing, vaccination proof, mask wearing, then no I wouldn't fly across country to attend a wedding. I would be miserable and hate every second of it.
The difference is if you don’t want to go just own it. Don’t blame it on covid. It’s so ridiculous. Just decline and let that be that. Say sorry I don’t feel like it. Why LIE?!?!? Behave like the ass hole you really are!
ETA: and yes I say ass hole because you (genera you) are the people that had a wedding and people came and they were happy to celebrate with you. But when it’s some one else’s turn you (general you) ***** and moan and complain and begrudge anyone else their happiness. I’m so over it. It you aren’t happy enough for someone to want to attend their wedding and celebrate them then just stop associating with them and certainly don’t expect them to be happy and celebrate any of your milestones with you.
And this is EXACTLY why I had a destination wedding and ONLY invited parents and siblings. Why waste all that money and time to celebrate with people who really could careless? Or that you only see once every few years at other big celebrations.
So yea....I'm not some asshole because I don't want to attend a cousins wedding who I don't even speak to on a regular basis. However I do always make sure I send a gift .
I think you are the minority thou. I know so many who had engagement parties, showers and big weddings and then complain any time they are invited to something that they have to go and it’s such a burden. It’s such a shame that people can’t just be happy for others and truly want to celebrate with them.
Sounds more like these people are boring. They will probably don’t even know how to have fun and enjoy themselves.
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
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I would definitely go to a wedding in Sept.
I am vaccinated and not high risk. If I get it I am not concerned that I will die or end up in the hospital like I feared last March. If someone fears that they will die or end up in the hospital then they should not go.
I'd like to highlight this response because it seems to have gotten lost and it makes the most sense of anything I've read.
Everyone keeps saying that while the vaccine does NOT prevent Covid or Covid transmission it DOES prevent severe illness, hospitalization and death.
OK, fair enough. Makes sense.
SO.... if that's the case, and it is working like everyone is shouting it is, then what are the fears with going to a wedding, a concert or a large event? Or with eating INSIDE a restaurant? Or going on vacation to Florida?
If you aren't going to end up hospitalized or die because you are vaccinated, what is the fear? Getting sick at all?
So going forward nobody can ever get sick with anything? Flu, strep, a common cold?
We have no more threshold for illness whatsoever anymore? We have no more tolerance for any chance of catching anything and having a mild illness for a few days?
I'm really fascinated by the train of thought with all this.
The vaccine prevents hospitalization and death, but you may still get a mild case of Covid, so we will operate as if it's still as deadly as it was before the vaccine and hide from life indefinitely?
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by lululu
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Posted by lululu
Posted by RainyDay
Posted by lululu
Posted by RainyDay
CoViD is the perfect excuse NOT to attend a wedding. Especially if I have to travel all that way, wear a mask or be vaccinated, etc.
That's exactly it though, it's an EXCUSE. If you don't want to go, don't go but I am so tired of people using covid as an excuse. Just be honest about it. I get that for some it's a valid reason if you are immunocompromised or caring for someone that is, but for most people it's pick and choose at this point and blame everything on covid. I'm so over it....
What diff does it make why they choose not to attend?Now it just gives an easy out. If people are going to choose COVID as an excuse then during normal non COVID times you just have a bunch of people showing up that really don't want to be there.
Honestly I prob would attend a wedding even now that was local but to go through all that COVID crap, testing, vaccination proof, mask wearing, then no I wouldn't fly across country to attend a wedding. I would be miserable and hate every second of it.
The difference is if you don’t want to go just own it. Don’t blame it on covid. It’s so ridiculous. Just decline and let that be that. Say sorry I don’t feel like it. Why LIE?!?!? Behave like the ass hole you really are!
ETA: and yes I say ass hole because you (genera you) are the people that had a wedding and people came and they were happy to celebrate with you. But when it’s some one else’s turn you (general you) ***** and moan and complain and begrudge anyone else their happiness. I’m so over it. It you aren’t happy enough for someone to want to attend their wedding and celebrate them then just stop associating with them and certainly don’t expect them to be happy and celebrate any of your milestones with you.
And this is EXACTLY why I had a destination wedding and ONLY invited parents and siblings. Why waste all that money and time to celebrate with people who really could careless? Or that you only see once every few years at other big celebrations.
So yea....I'm not some asshole because I don't want to attend a cousins wedding who I don't even speak to on a regular basis. However I do always make sure I send a gift .
I think you are the minority thou. I know so many who had engagement parties, showers and big weddings and then complain any time they are invited to something that they have to go and it’s such a burden. It’s such a shame that people can’t just be happy for others and truly want to celebrate with them.
Sounds more like these people are boring. They will probably don’t even know how to have fun and enjoy themselves.
People don't need to go to weddings to have fun. If you need to go to one to enjoy your life, then maybe you need to pick up some hobbies or reevaluate how you live your life.
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by HeyJude
I would definitely go to a wedding in Sept.
I am vaccinated and not high risk. If I get it I am not concerned that I will die or end up in the hospital like I feared last March. If someone fears that they will die or end up in the hospital then they should not go.
I'd like to highlight this response because it seems to have gotten lost and it makes the most sense of anything I've read.
Everyone keeps saying that while the vaccine does NOT prevent Covid or Covid transmission it DOES prevent severe illness, hospitalization and death.
OK, fair enough. Makes sense.
SO.... if that's the case, and it is working like everyone is shouting it is, then what are the fears with going to a wedding, a concert or a large event? Or with eating INSIDE a restaurant? Or going on vacation to Florida?
If you aren't going to end up hospitalized or die because you are vaccinated, what is the fear? Getting sick at all?
So going forward nobody can ever get sick with anything? Flu, strep, a common cold?
We have no more threshold for illness whatsoever anymore? We have no more tolerance for any chance of catching anything and having a mild illness for a few days?
I'm really fascinated by the train of thought with all this.
The vaccine prevents hospitalization and death, but you may still get a mild case of Covid, so we will operate as if it's still as deadly as it was before the vaccine and hide from life indefinitely?
I think the fear is that many people still are not vaccinated. It seems like they were expecting higher vaccination numbers and now these new strains are going around and even vaccinated people are getting sick after many people thought the vaccine was supposed to keep them from getting it. I think it's just lack of clear understanding of the original purpose of the vaccine and social distancing, masks.
I think at this point we just let everyone do what they please and let's move on.
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by HeyJude
I would definitely go to a wedding in Sept.
I am vaccinated and not high risk. If I get it I am not concerned that I will die or end up in the hospital like I feared last March. If someone fears that they will die or end up in the hospital then they should not go.
I'd like to highlight this response because it seems to have gotten lost and it makes the most sense of anything I've read.
Everyone keeps saying that while the vaccine does NOT prevent Covid or Covid transmission it DOES prevent severe illness, hospitalization and death.
OK, fair enough. Makes sense.
SO.... if that's the case, and it is working like everyone is shouting it is, then what are the fears with going to a wedding, a concert or a large event? Or with eating INSIDE a restaurant? Or going on vacation to Florida?
If you aren't going to end up hospitalized or die because you are vaccinated, what is the fear? Getting sick at all?
So going forward nobody can ever get sick with anything? Flu, strep, a common cold?
We have no more threshold for illness whatsoever anymore? We have no more tolerance for any chance of catching anything and having a mild illness for a few days?
I'm really fascinated by the train of thought with all this.
The vaccine prevents hospitalization and death, but you may still get a mild case of Covid, so we will operate as if it's still as deadly as it was before the vaccine and hide from life indefinitely?
I think the fear of covid especially in the non-elderly, no pre-existing condition group has also been of the unknown and potential for long term covid and what covid can do to your body. They have seen cases of long haul covid even after mild or asymptomatic cases. Now, initial studies are showing vaccination doesn’t prevent long term covid. So, perhaps maybe this is some of it. The fact is there is a lot we still don’t know about covid, a lot we don’t know about the vaccine and how it works and effectiveness and add to that the possibility that this is a man made virus, a cautious person might be considering all this and not want to contract the virus at this point - vaccinated or not.
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
Posted by RainyDay
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Posted by RainyDay
CoViD is the perfect excuse NOT to attend a wedding. Especially if I have to travel all that way, wear a mask or be vaccinated, etc.
That's exactly it though, it's an EXCUSE. If you don't want to go, don't go but I am so tired of people using covid as an excuse. Just be honest about it. I get that for some it's a valid reason if you are immunocompromised or caring for someone that is, but for most people it's pick and choose at this point and blame everything on covid. I'm so over it....
What diff does it make why they choose not to attend?Now it just gives an easy out. If people are going to choose COVID as an excuse then during normal non COVID times you just have a bunch of people showing up that really don't want to be there.
Honestly I prob would attend a wedding even now that was local but to go through all that COVID crap, testing, vaccination proof, mask wearing, then no I wouldn't fly across country to attend a wedding. I would be miserable and hate every second of it.
The difference is if you don’t want to go just own it. Don’t blame it on covid. It’s so ridiculous. Just decline and let that be that. Say sorry I don’t feel like it. Why LIE?!?!? Behave like the ass hole you really are!
ETA: and yes I say ass hole because you (genera you) are the people that had a wedding and people came and they were happy to celebrate with you. But when it’s some one else’s turn you (general you) ***** and moan and complain and begrudge anyone else their happiness. I’m so over it. It you aren’t happy enough for someone to want to attend their wedding and celebrate them then just stop associating with them and certainly don’t expect them to be happy and celebrate any of your milestones with you.
And this is EXACTLY why I had a destination wedding and ONLY invited parents and siblings. Why waste all that money and time to celebrate with people who really could careless? Or that you only see once every few years at other big celebrations.
So yea....I'm not some asshole because I don't want to attend a cousins wedding who I don't even speak to on a regular basis. However I do always make sure I send a gift .
I think you are the minority thou. I know so many who had engagement parties, showers and big weddings and then complain any time they are invited to something that they have to go and it’s such a burden. It’s such a shame that people can’t just be happy for others and truly want to celebrate with them.
Sounds more like these people are boring. They will probably don’t even know how to have fun and enjoy themselves.
People don't need to go to weddings to have fun. If you need to go to one to enjoy your life, then maybe you need to pick up some hobbies or reevaluate how you live your life.
I never said that and the last one before the one I just went to was 3-4 years ago.
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
Posted by RainyDay
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CoViD is the perfect excuse NOT to attend a wedding. Especially if I have to travel all that way, wear a mask or be vaccinated, etc.
That's exactly it though, it's an EXCUSE. If you don't want to go, don't go but I am so tired of people using covid as an excuse. Just be honest about it. I get that for some it's a valid reason if you are immunocompromised or caring for someone that is, but for most people it's pick and choose at this point and blame everything on covid. I'm so over it....
What diff does it make why they choose not to attend?Now it just gives an easy out. If people are going to choose COVID as an excuse then during normal non COVID times you just have a bunch of people showing up that really don't want to be there.
Honestly I prob would attend a wedding even now that was local but to go through all that COVID crap, testing, vaccination proof, mask wearing, then no I wouldn't fly across country to attend a wedding. I would be miserable and hate every second of it.
The difference is if you don’t want to go just own it. Don’t blame it on covid. It’s so ridiculous. Just decline and let that be that. Say sorry I don’t feel like it. Why LIE?!?!? Behave like the ass hole you really are!
ETA: and yes I say ass hole because you (genera you) are the people that had a wedding and people came and they were happy to celebrate with you. But when it’s some one else’s turn you (general you) ***** and moan and complain and begrudge anyone else their happiness. I’m so over it. It you aren’t happy enough for someone to want to attend their wedding and celebrate them then just stop associating with them and certainly don’t expect them to be happy and celebrate any of your milestones with you.
And this is EXACTLY why I had a destination wedding and ONLY invited parents and siblings. Why waste all that money and time to celebrate with people who really could careless? Or that you only see once every few years at other big celebrations.
So yea....I'm not some asshole because I don't want to attend a cousins wedding who I don't even speak to on a regular basis. However I do always make sure I send a gift .
There are also people that get a lot of family pressure to have weddings and showers and engagement parties. I wanted something very small, no shower, and no engagement party. I had all three. My mother and my ex’s mom were absolute nightmares during the wedding process. They paid for everything, and I’m grateful, but I got a lot of guilt trips when I said this isn’t really what I want (I wanted to elope), so I just gave in.
I send gifts when I am invited, but since I am an OOT guest usually, I’m not about to drop a lot of cash to go. I actually am not friends with someone because she couldn’t understand why I didn’t fly from Australia to NY for a *weekend* for her wedding in the middle of a very critical part of my Master’s studies.
To answer OP, I wouldn’t go. But like I said I usually am an OOT guest, so that’s a different situation. If it were local, I would go.
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
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CoViD is the perfect excuse NOT to attend a wedding. Especially if I have to travel all that way, wear a mask or be vaccinated, etc.
That's exactly it though, it's an EXCUSE. If you don't want to go, don't go but I am so tired of people using covid as an excuse. Just be honest about it. I get that for some it's a valid reason if you are immunocompromised or caring for someone that is, but for most people it's pick and choose at this point and blame everything on covid. I'm so over it....
What diff does it make why they choose not to attend?Now it just gives an easy out. If people are going to choose COVID as an excuse then during normal non COVID times you just have a bunch of people showing up that really don't want to be there.
Honestly I prob would attend a wedding even now that was local but to go through all that COVID crap, testing, vaccination proof, mask wearing, then no I wouldn't fly across country to attend a wedding. I would be miserable and hate every second of it.
The difference is if you don’t want to go just own it. Don’t blame it on covid. It’s so ridiculous. Just decline and let that be that. Say sorry I don’t feel like it. Why LIE?!?!? Behave like the ass hole you really are!
ETA: and yes I say ass hole because you (genera you) are the people that had a wedding and people came and they were happy to celebrate with you. But when it’s some one else’s turn you (general you) ***** and moan and complain and begrudge anyone else their happiness. I’m so over it. It you aren’t happy enough for someone to want to attend their wedding and celebrate them then just stop associating with them and certainly don’t expect them to be happy and celebrate any of your milestones with you.
And this is EXACTLY why I had a destination wedding and ONLY invited parents and siblings. Why waste all that money and time to celebrate with people who really could careless? Or that you only see once every few years at other big celebrations.
So yea....I'm not some asshole because I don't want to attend a cousins wedding who I don't even speak to on a regular basis. However I do always make sure I send a gift .
There are also people that get a lot of family pressure to have weddings and showers and engagement parties. I wanted something very small, no shower, and no engagement party. I had all three. My mother and my ex’s mom were absolute nightmares during the wedding process. They paid for everything, and I’m grateful, but I got a lot of guilt trips when I said this isn’t really what I want (I wanted to elope), so I just gave in.
I send gifts when I am invited, but since I am an OOT guest usually, I’m not about to drop a lot of cash to go. I actually am not friends with someone because she couldn’t understand why I didn’t fly from Australia to NY for a *weekend* for her wedding in the middle of a very critical part of my Master’s studies.
To answer OP, I wouldn’t go. But like I said I usually am an OOT guest, so that’s a different situation. If it were local, I would go.
The thing that gets me is people using COVID as an excuse. Why feel the need to lie? If you don't want to go decline but you don't need to use COVID as an excuse. I have been so disappointed in people who decline some things using the COVID excuse but are perfectly fine doing the same type if thing but with other people. It's completely hypocritical. Either you are okay with the risk or you aren't.
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
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CoViD is the perfect excuse NOT to attend a wedding. Especially if I have to travel all that way, wear a mask or be vaccinated, etc.
That's exactly it though, it's an EXCUSE. If you don't want to go, don't go but I am so tired of people using covid as an excuse. Just be honest about it. I get that for some it's a valid reason if you are immunocompromised or caring for someone that is, but for most people it's pick and choose at this point and blame everything on covid. I'm so over it....
What diff does it make why they choose not to attend?Now it just gives an easy out. If people are going to choose COVID as an excuse then during normal non COVID times you just have a bunch of people showing up that really don't want to be there.
Honestly I prob would attend a wedding even now that was local but to go through all that COVID crap, testing, vaccination proof, mask wearing, then no I wouldn't fly across country to attend a wedding. I would be miserable and hate every second of it.
The difference is if you don’t want to go just own it. Don’t blame it on covid. It’s so ridiculous. Just decline and let that be that. Say sorry I don’t feel like it. Why LIE?!?!? Behave like the ass hole you really are!
ETA: and yes I say ass hole because you (genera you) are the people that had a wedding and people came and they were happy to celebrate with you. But when it’s some one else’s turn you (general you) ***** and moan and complain and begrudge anyone else their happiness. I’m so over it. It you aren’t happy enough for someone to want to attend their wedding and celebrate them then just stop associating with them and certainly don’t expect them to be happy and celebrate any of your milestones with you.
And this is EXACTLY why I had a destination wedding and ONLY invited parents and siblings. Why waste all that money and time to celebrate with people who really could careless? Or that you only see once every few years at other big celebrations.
So yea....I'm not some asshole because I don't want to attend a cousins wedding who I don't even speak to on a regular basis. However I do always make sure I send a gift .
There are also people that get a lot of family pressure to have weddings and showers and engagement parties. I wanted something very small, no shower, and no engagement party. I had all three. My mother and my ex’s mom were absolute nightmares during the wedding process. They paid for everything, and I’m grateful, but I got a lot of guilt trips when I said this isn’t really what I want (I wanted to elope), so I just gave in.
I send gifts when I am invited, but since I am an OOT guest usually, I’m not about to drop a lot of cash to go. I actually am not friends with someone because she couldn’t understand why I didn’t fly from Australia to NY for a *weekend* for her wedding in the middle of a very critical part of my Master’s studies.
To answer OP, I wouldn’t go. But like I said I usually am an OOT guest, so that’s a different situation. If it were local, I would go.
The thing that gets me is people using COVID as an excuse. Why feel the need to lie? If you don't want to go decline but you don't need to use COVID as an excuse. I have been so disappointed in people who decline some things using the COVID excuse but are perfectly fine doing the same type if thing but with other people. It's completely hypocritical. Either you are okay with the risk or you aren't.
I see what you are saying. I do have to say they may be cautious and have a limited amount they are willing to take a risk on. It may not be worth it to them. It’s kind of like you get 15 vacation days a year and you want to use them for things you want to do. I wouldn’t call them an asshole for it, tbh. Just some people have different priorities. But I get how that could annoy people.
ETA: OP hasn’t said how close she is to this person, so my answer may change on whether it is “worth it” or not.
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
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CoViD is the perfect excuse NOT to attend a wedding. Especially if I have to travel all that way, wear a mask or be vaccinated, etc.
That's exactly it though, it's an EXCUSE. If you don't want to go, don't go but I am so tired of people using covid as an excuse. Just be honest about it. I get that for some it's a valid reason if you are immunocompromised or caring for someone that is, but for most people it's pick and choose at this point and blame everything on covid. I'm so over it....
What diff does it make why they choose not to attend?Now it just gives an easy out. If people are going to choose COVID as an excuse then during normal non COVID times you just have a bunch of people showing up that really don't want to be there.
Honestly I prob would attend a wedding even now that was local but to go through all that COVID crap, testing, vaccination proof, mask wearing, then no I wouldn't fly across country to attend a wedding. I would be miserable and hate every second of it.
The difference is if you don’t want to go just own it. Don’t blame it on covid. It’s so ridiculous. Just decline and let that be that. Say sorry I don’t feel like it. Why LIE?!?!? Behave like the ass hole you really are!
ETA: and yes I say ass hole because you (genera you) are the people that had a wedding and people came and they were happy to celebrate with you. But when it’s some one else’s turn you (general you) ***** and moan and complain and begrudge anyone else their happiness. I’m so over it. It you aren’t happy enough for someone to want to attend their wedding and celebrate them then just stop associating with them and certainly don’t expect them to be happy and celebrate any of your milestones with you.
And this is EXACTLY why I had a destination wedding and ONLY invited parents and siblings. Why waste all that money and time to celebrate with people who really could careless? Or that you only see once every few years at other big celebrations.
So yea....I'm not some asshole because I don't want to attend a cousins wedding who I don't even speak to on a regular basis. However I do always make sure I send a gift .
There are also people that get a lot of family pressure to have weddings and showers and engagement parties. I wanted something very small, no shower, and no engagement party. I had all three. My mother and my ex’s mom were absolute nightmares during the wedding process. They paid for everything, and I’m grateful, but I got a lot of guilt trips when I said this isn’t really what I want (I wanted to elope), so I just gave in.
I send gifts when I am invited, but since I am an OOT guest usually, I’m not about to drop a lot of cash to go. I actually am not friends with someone because she couldn’t understand why I didn’t fly from Australia to NY for a *weekend* for her wedding in the middle of a very critical part of my Master’s studies.
To answer OP, I wouldn’t go. But like I said I usually am an OOT guest, so that’s a different situation. If it were local, I would go.
The thing that gets me is people using COVID as an excuse. Why feel the need to lie? If you don't want to go decline but you don't need to use COVID as an excuse. I have been so disappointed in people who decline some things using the COVID excuse but are perfectly fine doing the same type if thing but with other people. It's completely hypocritical. Either you are okay with the risk or you aren't.
I see what you are saying. I do have to say they may be cautious and have a limited amount they are willing to take a risk on. It may not be worth it to them. It’s kind of like you get 15 vacation days a year and you want to use them for things you want to do. I wouldn’t call them an asshole for it, tbh. Just some people have different priorities. But I get how that could annoy people.
ETA: OP hasn’t said how close she is to this person, so my answer may change on whether it is “worth it” or not.
I can understand mitigating your risk by prioritizing events like this, however in my experience, people are not really that concerned and are just using covid as an excuse. I think if you don't want to go to an event just say you can't make it. Don't make the bride or groom feel bad about the timing of their wedding or how they are choosing to celebrate by shaming them with your fears of catching covid at their wedding when you aren't even really afraid and you are just using covid as an excuse.
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Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
I have a wedding this weekend. I love the bride, she's a good friend of my sister's and I've known her since she was a kid. The wedding was postponed from last year. I want to go- but I'm nervous! I'm vaccinated, but I know there will be over 200 people there and I don't know who isn't and who isn't being careful. I had exposure 2 weeks ago and I wasn't feeling well and had finally come to terms with the fact that I probably had it and at least I was vaccinated and it wouldn't be bad. I ended up testing negative (twice) and it was some other virus that passed. But, now I still don't want it. My daughter isn't vaccinated- she's too young, my parents are, but they are older and both high risk for other reasons too. I don't want to get it. plain and simple. I did everything I could, followed all the rules and I don't want the stress of it. I have anxiety and a pre-existing heart condition. I'm going to the wedding, but I will probably mask and not dance. I have an event 14 days after the wedding that I do not want to miss and will be devastated if I'm sick or quarantining because of the wedding.
I have another Wedding invite for November sitting here that I don't want to go to- it's a family friend I'm not close with (our parents are close). RSVP isn't due until 9/30- so I'm going to wait to respond and see how I feel. I would normally go out of obligation, but now I feel like I can make a decision based on how I actually feel. So, I'm not using COVID as an excuse, but it has made me prioritize things.
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I have a wedding this weekend. I love the bride, she's a good friend of my sister's and I've known her since she was a kid. The wedding was postponed from last year. I want to go- but I'm nervous! I'm vaccinated, but I know there will be over 200 people there and I don't know who isn't and who isn't being careful. I had exposure 2 weeks ago and I wasn't feeling well and had finally come to terms with the fact that I probably had it and at least I was vaccinated and it wouldn't be bad. I ended up testing negative (twice) and it was some other virus that passed. But, now I still don't want it. My daughter isn't vaccinated- she's too young, my parents are, but they are older and both high risk for other reasons too. I don't want to get it. plain and simple. I did everything I could, followed all the rules and I don't want the stress of it. I have anxiety and a pre-existing heart condition. I'm going to the wedding, but I will probably mask and not dance. I have an event 14 days after the wedding that I do not want to miss and will be devastated if I'm sick or quarantining because of the wedding.
I have another Wedding invite for November sitting here that I don't want to go to- it's a family friend I'm not close with (our parents are close). RSVP isn't due until 9/30- so I'm going to wait to respond and see how I feel. I would normally go out of obligation, but now I feel like I can make a decision based on how I actually feel. So, I'm not using COVID as an excuse, but it has made me prioritize things.
The more you stress, the more chance you make yourself sick and there is more than just Covid out there.
If you want to mask and not dance and still go, I am sure you will still have a good time. Don’t be surprised though that you are the only one masked and not on the dance floor. People are so happy to be out doing more normal things and I tend to see more people not worried than worried.
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
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CoViD is the perfect excuse NOT to attend a wedding. Especially if I have to travel all that way, wear a mask or be vaccinated, etc.
That's exactly it though, it's an EXCUSE. If you don't want to go, don't go but I am so tired of people using covid as an excuse. Just be honest about it. I get that for some it's a valid reason if you are immunocompromised or caring for someone that is, but for most people it's pick and choose at this point and blame everything on covid. I'm so over it....
What diff does it make why they choose not to attend?Now it just gives an easy out. If people are going to choose COVID as an excuse then during normal non COVID times you just have a bunch of people showing up that really don't want to be there.
Honestly I prob would attend a wedding even now that was local but to go through all that COVID crap, testing, vaccination proof, mask wearing, then no I wouldn't fly across country to attend a wedding. I would be miserable and hate every second of it.
The difference is if you don’t want to go just own it. Don’t blame it on covid. It’s so ridiculous. Just decline and let that be that. Say sorry I don’t feel like it. Why LIE?!?!? Behave like the ass hole you really are!
ETA: and yes I say ass hole because you (genera you) are the people that had a wedding and people came and they were happy to celebrate with you. But when it’s some one else’s turn you (general you) ***** and moan and complain and begrudge anyone else their happiness. I’m so over it. It you aren’t happy enough for someone to want to attend their wedding and celebrate them then just stop associating with them and certainly don’t expect them to be happy and celebrate any of your milestones with you.
And this is EXACTLY why I had a destination wedding and ONLY invited parents and siblings. Why waste all that money and time to celebrate with people who really could careless? Or that you only see once every few years at other big celebrations.
So yea....I'm not some asshole because I don't want to attend a cousins wedding who I don't even speak to on a regular basis. However I do always make sure I send a gift .
There are also people that get a lot of family pressure to have weddings and showers and engagement parties. I wanted something very small, no shower, and no engagement party. I had all three. My mother and my ex’s mom were absolute nightmares during the wedding process. They paid for everything, and I’m grateful, but I got a lot of guilt trips when I said this isn’t really what I want (I wanted to elope), so I just gave in.
I send gifts when I am invited, but since I am an OOT guest usually, I’m not about to drop a lot of cash to go. I actually am not friends with someone because she couldn’t understand why I didn’t fly from Australia to NY for a *weekend* for her wedding in the middle of a very critical part of my Master’s studies.
To answer OP, I wouldn’t go. But like I said I usually am an OOT guest, so that’s a different situation. If it were local, I would go.
The thing that gets me is people using COVID as an excuse. Why feel the need to lie? If you don't want to go decline but you don't need to use COVID as an excuse. I have been so disappointed in people who decline some things using the COVID excuse but are perfectly fine doing the same type if thing but with other people. It's completely hypocritical. Either you are okay with the risk or you aren't.
I see what you are saying. I do have to say they may be cautious and have a limited amount they are willing to take a risk on. It may not be worth it to them. It’s kind of like you get 15 vacation days a year and you want to use them for things you want to do. I wouldn’t call them an asshole for it, tbh. Just some people have different priorities. But I get how that could annoy people.
ETA: OP hasn’t said how close she is to this person, so my answer may change on whether it is “worth it” or not.
I can understand mitigating your risk by prioritizing events like this, however in my experience, people are not really that concerned and are just using covid as an excuse. I think if you don't want to go to an event just say you can't make it. Don't make the bride or groom feel bad about the timing of their wedding or how they are choosing to celebrate by shaming them with your fears of catching covid at their wedding when you aren't even really afraid and you are just using covid as an excuse.
But no one says “I just don’t feel like it” when they decline an event. They lie. What does it matter if covid is the lie of choice?
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
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I have a wedding this weekend. I love the bride, she's a good friend of my sister's and I've known her since she was a kid. The wedding was postponed from last year. I want to go- but I'm nervous! I'm vaccinated, but I know there will be over 200 people there and I don't know who isn't and who isn't being careful. I had exposure 2 weeks ago and I wasn't feeling well and had finally come to terms with the fact that I probably had it and at least I was vaccinated and it wouldn't be bad. I ended up testing negative (twice) and it was some other virus that passed. But, now I still don't want it. My daughter isn't vaccinated- she's too young, my parents are, but they are older and both high risk for other reasons too. I don't want to get it. plain and simple. I did everything I could, followed all the rules and I don't want the stress of it. I have anxiety and a pre-existing heart condition. I'm going to the wedding, but I will probably mask and not dance. I have an event 14 days after the wedding that I do not want to miss and will be devastated if I'm sick or quarantining because of the wedding.
I have another Wedding invite for November sitting here that I don't want to go to- it's a family friend I'm not close with (our parents are close). RSVP isn't due until 9/30- so I'm going to wait to respond and see how I feel. I would normally go out of obligation, but now I feel like I can make a decision based on how I actually feel. So, I'm not using COVID as an excuse, but it has made me prioritize things.
The more you stress, the more chance you make yourself sick and there is more than just Covid out there.
If you want to mask and not dance and still go, I am sure you will still have a good time. Don’t be surprised though that you are the only one masked and not on the dance floor. People are so happy to be out doing more normal things and I tend to see more people not worried than worried.
I'm not even going to address the stress comment
I know I won't be the only one masked...there are plenty of us talking to each other about it. And that's not really my concern anyway.
when we went to her shower, there were still some restrictions in place and people who were vaccinated were given a bracelet to wear so we could unmask, etc. I know of at least 3 people who took bracelets and were not vaccinated. And that's why I still mask.
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I have a wedding this weekend. I love the bride, she's a good friend of my sister's and I've known her since she was a kid. The wedding was postponed from last year. I want to go- but I'm nervous! I'm vaccinated, but I know there will be over 200 people there and I don't know who isn't and who isn't being careful. I had exposure 2 weeks ago and I wasn't feeling well and had finally come to terms with the fact that I probably had it and at least I was vaccinated and it wouldn't be bad. I ended up testing negative (twice) and it was some other virus that passed. But, now I still don't want it. My daughter isn't vaccinated- she's too young, my parents are, but they are older and both high risk for other reasons too. I don't want to get it. plain and simple. I did everything I could, followed all the rules and I don't want the stress of it. I have anxiety and a pre-existing heart condition. I'm going to the wedding, but I will probably mask and not dance. I have an event 14 days after the wedding that I do not want to miss and will be devastated if I'm sick or quarantining because of the wedding.
I have another Wedding invite for November sitting here that I don't want to go to- it's a family friend I'm not close with (our parents are close). RSVP isn't due until 9/30- so I'm going to wait to respond and see how I feel. I would normally go out of obligation, but now I feel like I can make a decision based on how I actually feel. So, I'm not using COVID as an excuse, but it has made me prioritize things.
The more you stress, the more chance you make yourself sick and there is more than just Covid out there.
If you want to mask and not dance and still go, I am sure you will still have a good time. Don’t be surprised though that you are the only one masked and not on the dance floor. People are so happy to be out doing more normal things and I tend to see more people not worried than worried.
I'm not even going to address the stress comment
I know I won't be the only one masked...there are plenty of us talking to each other about it. And that's not really my concern anyway.
when we went to her shower, there were still some restrictions in place and people who were vaccinated were given a bracelet to wear so we could unmask, etc. I know of at least 3 people who took bracelets and were not vaccinated. And that's why I still mask.
Stress does cause illness so not sure why the rolled eyes.
Oh wow. I went to a shower way before the mandates were lifted and you were supposed to wear your mask when not seated but they were not strict at all about it.
Vaccinated can spread to vaccinated so it wouldn’t just be an unvaccinated person who might cause you to be sick.
I would do as you feel comfortable though and enjoy the wedding :)
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
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I have a wedding this weekend. I love the bride, she's a good friend of my sister's and I've known her since she was a kid. The wedding was postponed from last year. I want to go- but I'm nervous! I'm vaccinated, but I know there will be over 200 people there and I don't know who isn't and who isn't being careful. I had exposure 2 weeks ago and I wasn't feeling well and had finally come to terms with the fact that I probably had it and at least I was vaccinated and it wouldn't be bad. I ended up testing negative (twice) and it was some other virus that passed. But, now I still don't want it. My daughter isn't vaccinated- she's too young, my parents are, but they are older and both high risk for other reasons too. I don't want to get it. plain and simple. I did everything I could, followed all the rules and I don't want the stress of it. I have anxiety and a pre-existing heart condition. I'm going to the wedding, but I will probably mask and not dance. I have an event 14 days after the wedding that I do not want to miss and will be devastated if I'm sick or quarantining because of the wedding.
I have another Wedding invite for November sitting here that I don't want to go to- it's a family friend I'm not close with (our parents are close). RSVP isn't due until 9/30- so I'm going to wait to respond and see how I feel. I would normally go out of obligation, but now I feel like I can make a decision based on how I actually feel. So, I'm not using COVID as an excuse, but it has made me prioritize things.
The more you stress, the more chance you make yourself sick and there is more than just Covid out there.
If you want to mask and not dance and still go, I am sure you will still have a good time. Don’t be surprised though that you are the only one masked and not on the dance floor. People are so happy to be out doing more normal things and I tend to see more people not worried than worried.
I'm not even going to address the stress comment
I know I won't be the only one masked...there are plenty of us talking to each other about it. And that's not really my concern anyway.
when we went to her shower, there were still some restrictions in place and people who were vaccinated were given a bracelet to wear so we could unmask, etc. I know of at least 3 people who took bracelets and were not vaccinated. And that's why I still mask.
Do what makes you feel comfortable. I understand your concern.
I had two wedding invites this summer. I said yes to one and declined the other.
The one I went to was very small and outdoors.
The one I didn't go to had 150 people indoors and pictures later confirmed not a mask to be found. The group was mostly of a religious persuasion that has repeatedly minimized Covid and repudiated mask use; plus, the bride and groom only got vaccinated at the last minute to make sure they could take pics without masks. So I had a bad feeling and Covid was my genuine reason, not some lie to avoid going (although I know people do that.) Sure enough, there is at least one positive case that seems to come from the event.
I would be less cautious if I didn't have an unvaccinated child. When he is old enough to get it, I'll feel more comfortable in large indoor crowds. Until then, I intend to protect him by avoiding large indoor crowds to the extent possible particularly if there are a lot of unvaxxed people there.
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
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CoViD is the perfect excuse NOT to attend a wedding. Especially if I have to travel all that way, wear a mask or be vaccinated, etc.
That's exactly it though, it's an EXCUSE. If you don't want to go, don't go but I am so tired of people using covid as an excuse. Just be honest about it. I get that for some it's a valid reason if you are immunocompromised or caring for someone that is, but for most people it's pick and choose at this point and blame everything on covid. I'm so over it....
What diff does it make why they choose not to attend?Now it just gives an easy out. If people are going to choose COVID as an excuse then during normal non COVID times you just have a bunch of people showing up that really don't want to be there.
Honestly I prob would attend a wedding even now that was local but to go through all that COVID crap, testing, vaccination proof, mask wearing, then no I wouldn't fly across country to attend a wedding. I would be miserable and hate every second of it.
The difference is if you don’t want to go just own it. Don’t blame it on covid. It’s so ridiculous. Just decline and let that be that. Say sorry I don’t feel like it. Why LIE?!?!? Behave like the ass hole you really are!
ETA: and yes I say ass hole because you (genera you) are the people that had a wedding and people came and they were happy to celebrate with you. But when it’s some one else’s turn you (general you) ***** and moan and complain and begrudge anyone else their happiness. I’m so over it. It you aren’t happy enough for someone to want to attend their wedding and celebrate them then just stop associating with them and certainly don’t expect them to be happy and celebrate any of your milestones with you.
And this is EXACTLY why I had a destination wedding and ONLY invited parents and siblings. Why waste all that money and time to celebrate with people who really could careless? Or that you only see once every few years at other big celebrations.
So yea....I'm not some asshole because I don't want to attend a cousins wedding who I don't even speak to on a regular basis. However I do always make sure I send a gift .
There are also people that get a lot of family pressure to have weddings and showers and engagement parties. I wanted something very small, no shower, and no engagement party. I had all three. My mother and my ex’s mom were absolute nightmares during the wedding process. They paid for everything, and I’m grateful, but I got a lot of guilt trips when I said this isn’t really what I want (I wanted to elope), so I just gave in.
I send gifts when I am invited, but since I am an OOT guest usually, I’m not about to drop a lot of cash to go. I actually am not friends with someone because she couldn’t understand why I didn’t fly from Australia to NY for a *weekend* for her wedding in the middle of a very critical part of my Master’s studies.
To answer OP, I wouldn’t go. But like I said I usually am an OOT guest, so that’s a different situation. If it were local, I would go.
The thing that gets me is people using COVID as an excuse. Why feel the need to lie? If you don't want to go decline but you don't need to use COVID as an excuse. I have been so disappointed in people who decline some things using the COVID excuse but are perfectly fine doing the same type if thing but with other people. It's completely hypocritical. Either you are okay with the risk or you aren't.
I see what you are saying. I do have to say they may be cautious and have a limited amount they are willing to take a risk on. It may not be worth it to them. It’s kind of like you get 15 vacation days a year and you want to use them for things you want to do. I wouldn’t call them an asshole for it, tbh. Just some people have different priorities. But I get how that could annoy people.
ETA: OP hasn’t said how close she is to this person, so my answer may change on whether it is “worth it” or not.
I can understand mitigating your risk by prioritizing events like this, however in my experience, people are not really that concerned and are just using covid as an excuse. I think if you don't want to go to an event just say you can't make it. Don't make the bride or groom feel bad about the timing of their wedding or how they are choosing to celebrate by shaming them with your fears of catching covid at their wedding when you aren't even really afraid and you are just using covid as an excuse.
But no one says “I just don’t feel like it” when they decline an event. They lie. What does it matter if covid is the lie of choice?
Just send back the response card with regrets. Don't offer any explanation. There's no need to go out of your way with the excuse of COVID.
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
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I have a wedding this weekend. I love the bride, she's a good friend of my sister's and I've known her since she was a kid. The wedding was postponed from last year. I want to go- but I'm nervous! I'm vaccinated, but I know there will be over 200 people there and I don't know who isn't and who isn't being careful. I had exposure 2 weeks ago and I wasn't feeling well and had finally come to terms with the fact that I probably had it and at least I was vaccinated and it wouldn't be bad. I ended up testing negative (twice) and it was some other virus that passed. But, now I still don't want it. My daughter isn't vaccinated- she's too young, my parents are, but they are older and both high risk for other reasons too. I don't want to get it. plain and simple. I did everything I could, followed all the rules and I don't want the stress of it. I have anxiety and a pre-existing heart condition. I'm going to the wedding, but I will probably mask and not dance. I have an event 14 days after the wedding that I do not want to miss and will be devastated if I'm sick or quarantining because of the wedding.
I have another Wedding invite for November sitting here that I don't want to go to- it's a family friend I'm not close with (our parents are close). RSVP isn't due until 9/30- so I'm going to wait to respond and see how I feel. I would normally go out of obligation, but now I feel like I can make a decision based on how I actually feel. So, I'm not using COVID as an excuse, but it has made me prioritize things.
The more you stress, the more chance you make yourself sick and there is more than just Covid out there.
If you want to mask and not dance and still go, I am sure you will still have a good time. Don’t be surprised though that you are the only one masked and not on the dance floor. People are so happy to be out doing more normal things and I tend to see more people not worried than worried.
I'm not even going to address the stress comment
I know I won't be the only one masked...there are plenty of us talking to each other about it. And that's not really my concern anyway.
when we went to her shower, there were still some restrictions in place and people who were vaccinated were given a bracelet to wear so we could unmask, etc. I know of at least 3 people who took bracelets and were not vaccinated. And that's why I still mask.
Do what makes you feel comfortable. I understand your concern.
I had two wedding invites this summer. I said yes to one and declined the other.
The one I went to was very small and outdoors.
The one I didn't go to had 150 people indoors and pictures later confirmed not a mask to be found. The group was mostly of a religious persuasion that has repeatedly minimized Covid and repudiated mask use; plus, the bride and groom only got vaccinated at the last minute to make sure they could take pics without masks. So I had a bad feeling and Covid was my genuine reason, not some lie to avoid going (although I know people do that.) Sure enough, there is at least one positive case that seems to come from the event.
I would be less cautious if I didn't have an unvaccinated child. When he is old enough to get it, I'll feel more comfortable in large indoor crowds. Until then, I intend to protect him by avoiding large indoor crowds to the extent possible particularly if there are a lot of unvaxxed people there.
Out of state wedding as they don’t require masks since May here?
Message edited 8/24/2021 2:07:39 PM.
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| Posted 8/24/21 2:04 PM |
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Re: Would you go to a wedding in Sept?
Posted by lululu
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CoViD is the perfect excuse NOT to attend a wedding. Especially if I have to travel all that way, wear a mask or be vaccinated, etc.
That's exactly it though, it's an EXCUSE. If you don't want to go, don't go but I am so tired of people using covid as an excuse. Just be honest about it. I get that for some it's a valid reason if you are immunocompromised or caring for someone that is, but for most people it's pick and choose at this point and blame everything on covid. I'm so over it....
What diff does it make why they choose not to attend?Now it just gives an easy out. If people are going to choose COVID as an excuse then during normal non COVID times you just have a bunch of people showing up that really don't want to be there.
Honestly I prob would attend a wedding even now that was local but to go through all that COVID crap, testing, vaccination proof, mask wearing, then no I wouldn't fly across country to attend a wedding. I would be miserable and hate every second of it.
The difference is if you don’t want to go just own it. Don’t blame it on covid. It’s so ridiculous. Just decline and let that be that. Say sorry I don’t feel like it. Why LIE?!?!? Behave like the ass hole you really are!
ETA: and yes I say ass hole because you (genera you) are the people that had a wedding and people came and they were happy to celebrate with you. But when it’s some one else’s turn you (general you) ***** and moan and complain and begrudge anyone else their happiness. I’m so over it. It you aren’t happy enough for someone to want to attend their wedding and celebrate them then just stop associating with them and certainly don’t expect them to be happy and celebrate any of your milestones with you.
And this is EXACTLY why I had a destination wedding and ONLY invited parents and siblings. Why waste all that money and time to celebrate with people who really could careless? Or that you only see once every few years at other big celebrations.
So yea....I'm not some asshole because I don't want to attend a cousins wedding who I don't even speak to on a regular basis. However I do always make sure I send a gift .
There are also people that get a lot of family pressure to have weddings and showers and engagement parties. I wanted something very small, no shower, and no engagement party. I had all three. My mother and my ex’s mom were absolute nightmares during the wedding process. They paid for everything, and I’m grateful, but I got a lot of guilt trips when I said this isn’t really what I want (I wanted to elope), so I just gave in.
I send gifts when I am invited, but since I am an OOT guest usually, I’m not about to drop a lot of cash to go. I actually am not friends with someone because she couldn’t understand why I didn’t fly from Australia to NY for a *weekend* for her wedding in the middle of a very critical part of my Master’s studies.
To answer OP, I wouldn’t go. But like I said I usually am an OOT guest, so that’s a different situation. If it were local, I would go.
The thing that gets me is people using COVID as an excuse. Why feel the need to lie? If you don't want to go decline but you don't need to use COVID as an excuse. I have been so disappointed in people who decline some things using the COVID excuse but are perfectly fine doing the same type if thing but with other people. It's completely hypocritical. Either you are okay with the risk or you aren't.
I see what you are saying. I do have to say they may be cautious and have a limited amount they are willing to take a risk on. It may not be worth it to them. It’s kind of like you get 15 vacation days a year and you want to use them for things you want to do. I wouldn’t call them an asshole for it, tbh. Just some people have different priorities. But I get how that could annoy people.
ETA: OP hasn’t said how close she is to this person, so my answer may change on whether it is “worth it” or not.
I can understand mitigating your risk by prioritizing events like this, however in my experience, people are not really that concerned and are just using covid as an excuse. I think if you don't want to go to an event just say you can't make it. Don't make the bride or groom feel bad about the timing of their wedding or how they are choosing to celebrate by shaming them with your fears of catching covid at their wedding when you aren't even really afraid and you are just using covid as an excuse.
But no one says “I just don’t feel like it” when they decline an event. They lie. What does it matter if covid is the lie of choice?
Just send back the response card with regrets. Don't offer any explanation. There's no need to go out of your way with the excuse of COVID.
Exactly as before this you wouldn’t have put a reason either.
I had a party and only 1 person declined because of Covid. Fully vaccinated but I think it was for the best as they voice their opinion loudly about the vaccine and I have vaccinated and unvaccinated friends and family and all are on the same page and never say the other is wrong.
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