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myminions
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When is this going to let up?

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/why-is-stay-at-home-mom-shaming-still-happening_b_58addc05e4b0d818c4f0a4d2

Any of you SAHMs who are out there if you really are? Or am I the black sheep here on LI ...ha ha.
I am experiencing this now .

Message edited 10/11/2019 10:28:00 PM.

Posted 10/11/19 10:27 PM
 

NervousNell
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Re: When is this going to let up?

Moms get shamed for working too
You can't win

Posted 10/11/19 10:43 PM
 

LuckyStar
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Re: When is this going to let up?

Posted by NervousNell

Moms get shamed for working too
You can't win



Yes. Though it seems to be the older generation who does that. However, I’ll admit I don’t know any SAHMs so perhaps it does happen with younger moms and I just don’t see it.

The woman who wrote that huff post piece sounds bitter as all hell. It was like an angry stream of consciousness. I know it’s huff post and all but good lord, where was her editor??

Posted 10/11/19 10:50 PM
 

alli3131
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When is this going to let up?

Every mom gets shamed for something. Working, not working, breast feeding, bottle feeding.

Personally I really don’t care what anyone thinks about me or my parenting/life choices. And even if people say something to me I just let it roll off. I’ve got thick skin over the years.

Posted 10/12/19 10:40 AM
 

ml110
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When is this going to let up?

im a SAHM- but in NJ, not LI. my youngest just started kindergarten, so i just recently started having more "freedom" during the day- 5 hours without a kid attached to me HAHA
honestly-i'm sure people silently judge me- but I don't apologize for it. HAHA Its what works for us, right now.
plus- a lot of the working moms i know have a lot of family support- grandparents that will watch the kids for 3 hours after school, or drive them to after school activities, or watch the kids on the random days orr or half days from school, or when they're sick...
we don't have any family support like that. my parents live 2 hours away, plus go to florida about half the year now. my in laws are 5 hours away and are getting older and can't handle my active boys. HAHA
So, for DH and I its very valuable for me to be at home for all of those ltimes we need somebody to watch the kids- we don't have to scramble around or pay to find somebody to watch them. we don't need to pay for aftercare or before care- so that is more money the in bank for us. i also get a ton of errands done during the week (including things like home depot for DH LOL) so that weekends are relaxing and we're not running around trying to fit in a billion errands with everybody else lol so all of that is my contribution to the family.
we also planned ahead for this- my husband got a full scholarship to college, and commuted so he didn't have student loans. we bought my in laws house from them. its definitely not our dream house. but financially it put us in a great position, so its worth living in my mother in laws old house HAHA
i know that there are working moms who do it with no family support and make it work- but, this is what works for us for now... it is what it is... we're fine. LOL

Message edited 10/12/2019 11:01:14 AM.

Posted 10/12/19 11:00 AM
 

nycgirl
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Re: When is this going to let up?

I’ve done it all the ways:
Full time, work away from home mom
SAHM
Part time, work away from home

All have the benefits and negatives and I’ve just come to terms that a certain percentage of the population is crazy and I’m happier in life not engaging with them. That’s for both SAH and working moms.

Adding that I’m happiest and most “myself” working part time. Working gives me grounding, staying home gives me access to my kids at night (I work crazy hours). Luckily, I can afford to do it right now.

Posted 10/12/19 6:51 PM
 

NervousNell
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Re: When is this going to let up?

Posted by LuckyStar

Posted by NervousNell

Moms get shamed for working too
You can't win



Yes. Though it seems to be the older generation who does that. However, I’ll admit I don’t know any SAHMs so perhaps it does happen with younger moms and I just don’t see it.

The woman who wrote that huff post piece sounds bitter as all hell. It was like an angry stream of consciousness. I know it’s huff post and all but good lord, where was her editor??



I recently saw something posted in my neighborhood facebook group that made my blood boil.
A woman came on to post about an issue she had with a local daycare where her son was mistreated.
Rather than support her or offer sympathy, some ***** had the nerve to write...If you are going to have a baby, you should be willing to sacrifice things like 2 cars, a big house, vacations so you can stay home with them and make sure they are cared for.
And someone else agreed with her saying she "ate mac and cheese" all the time but it was so worth it to stay home and "raise" her own kids.
You, as a like minded woman to myself, can imagine how I saw red. The responses I crafted in my head.
But in the end I just moved on because getting in a fight with these ignorant people on a Facebook group just wasn't worth it to me.
But yeah.....

Posted 10/12/19 8:04 PM
 

Katareen
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Re: When is this going to let up?

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by LuckyStar

Posted by NervousNell

Moms get shamed for working too
You can't win



Yes. Though it seems to be the older generation who does that. However, I’ll admit I don’t know any SAHMs so perhaps it does happen with younger moms and I just don’t see it.

The woman who wrote that huff post piece sounds bitter as all hell. It was like an angry stream of consciousness. I know it’s huff post and all but good lord, where was her editor??



I recently saw something posted in my neighborhood facebook group that made my blood boil.
A woman came on to post about an issue she had with a local daycare where her son was mistreated.
Rather than support her or offer sympathy, some ***** had the nerve to write...If you are going to have a baby, you should be willing to sacrifice things like 2 cars, a big house, vacations so you can stay home with them and make sure they are cared for.
And someone else agreed with her saying she "ate mac and cheese" all the time but it was so worth it to stay home and "raise" her own kids.
You, as a like minded woman to myself, can imagine how I saw red. The responses I crafted in my head.
But in the end I just moved on because getting in a fight with these ignorant people on a Facebook group just wasn't worth it to me.
But yeah.....



Ok we have 2 cars...but also the smallest house on LI and my last vacation was in 2017 to visit my in-laws...soooooo apparently I just should’ve been sterilized Chat Icon

Posted 10/12/19 10:04 PM
 

Ghostowl02
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Re: When is this going to let up?

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by LuckyStar

Posted by NervousNell

Moms get shamed for working too
You can't win



Yes. Though it seems to be the older generation who does that. However, I’ll admit I don’t know any SAHMs so perhaps it does happen with younger moms and I just don’t see it.

The woman who wrote that huff post piece sounds bitter as all hell. It was like an angry stream of consciousness. I know it’s huff post and all but good lord, where was her editor??



I recently saw something posted in my neighborhood facebook group that made my blood boil.
A woman came on to post about an issue she had with a local daycare where her son was mistreated.
Rather than support her or offer sympathy, some ***** had the nerve to write...If you are going to have a baby, you should be willing to sacrifice things like 2 cars, a big house, vacations so you can stay home with them and make sure they are cared for.
And someone else agreed with her saying she "ate mac and cheese" all the time but it was so worth it to stay home and "raise" her own kids.
You, as a like minded woman to myself, can imagine how I saw red. The responses I crafted in my head.
But in the end I just moved on because getting in a fight with these ignorant people on a Facebook group just wasn't worth it to me.
But yeah.....



Oh I would have said something but I get you. They will never ever see anything wrong with what they say and they will never change

Posted 10/13/19 12:24 PM
 

NervousNell
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Re: When is this going to let up?

Posted by Ghostowl02

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by LuckyStar

Posted by NervousNell

Moms get shamed for working too
You can't win



Yes. Though it seems to be the older generation who does that. However, I’ll admit I don’t know any SAHMs so perhaps it does happen with younger moms and I just don’t see it.

The woman who wrote that huff post piece sounds bitter as all hell. It was like an angry stream of consciousness. I know it’s huff post and all but good lord, where was her editor??



I recently saw something posted in my neighborhood facebook group that made my blood boil.
A woman came on to post about an issue she had with a local daycare where her son was mistreated.
Rather than support her or offer sympathy, some ***** had the nerve to write...If you are going to have a baby, you should be willing to sacrifice things like 2 cars, a big house, vacations so you can stay home with them and make sure they are cared for.
And someone else agreed with her saying she "ate mac and cheese" all the time but it was so worth it to stay home and "raise" her own kids.
You, as a like minded woman to myself, can imagine how I saw red. The responses I crafted in my head.
But in the end I just moved on because getting in a fight with these ignorant people on a Facebook group just wasn't worth it to me.
But yeah.....



Oh I would have said something but I get you. They will never ever see anything wrong with what they say and they will never change



Trust me, it took all my strength not to.
So many things wrong with that statement the worst being the fact that perhaps a woman WANTS a career, regardless of how much she can cut back and sacrifice
So misogynistic. From women no less!!

Posted 10/13/19 12:35 PM
 

Ghostowl02
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Re: When is this going to let up?

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by Ghostowl02

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by LuckyStar

Posted by NervousNell

Moms get shamed for working too
You can't win



Yes. Though it seems to be the older generation who does that. However, I’ll admit I don’t know any SAHMs so perhaps it does happen with younger moms and I just don’t see it.

The woman who wrote that huff post piece sounds bitter as all hell. It was like an angry stream of consciousness. I know it’s huff post and all but good lord, where was her editor??



I recently saw something posted in my neighborhood facebook group that made my blood boil.
A woman came on to post about an issue she had with a local daycare where her son was mistreated.
Rather than support her or offer sympathy, some ***** had the nerve to write...If you are going to have a baby, you should be willing to sacrifice things like 2 cars, a big house, vacations so you can stay home with them and make sure they are cared for.
And someone else agreed with her saying she "ate mac and cheese" all the time but it was so worth it to stay home and "raise" her own kids.
You, as a like minded woman to myself, can imagine how I saw red. The responses I crafted in my head.
But in the end I just moved on because getting in a fight with these ignorant people on a Facebook group just wasn't worth it to me.
But yeah.....



Oh I would have said something but I get you. They will never ever see anything wrong with what they say and they will never change



Trust me, it took all my strength not to.
So many things wrong with that statement the worst being the fact that perhaps a woman WANTS a career, regardless of how much she can cut back and sacrifice
So misogynistic. From women no less!!


Oh I get it. There are plenty of times we all hold our tongues. These “women” don’t get it.

Posted 10/13/19 1:40 PM
 

KarenK122
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When is this going to let up?

Women are ridiculed for whatever they do. SAHM, Working Mom, Part Time working Mom. It doesn't matter, there is always someone that says something. People just need to mind their own business and support each other, whatever their choices. I am a SAHM and I get it all the time, even from my own family. Oh do you go out to lunch every day with your friends? how much shopping do you do? do you watch your Soaps all day? Must be nice to have the entire day to yourself. It infuriates me. I am President of two PTAs, on the board for a third, am a part of many District Committees, am up to school at least 3 times a week dealing with issues for my 2 special needs girls. It's exhausting but I am lucky I can do what I do because my husband has a great job. Unless you are walking in someone's shoes, you have no right to criticize their choices.

Posted 10/13/19 6:15 PM
 

LuckyStar
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Re: When is this going to let up?

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by LuckyStar

Posted by NervousNell

Moms get shamed for working too
You can't win



Yes. Though it seems to be the older generation who does that. However, I’ll admit I don’t know any SAHMs so perhaps it does happen with younger moms and I just don’t see it.

The woman who wrote that huff post piece sounds bitter as all hell. It was like an angry stream of consciousness. I know it’s huff post and all but good lord, where was her editor??



I recently saw something posted in my neighborhood facebook group that made my blood boil.
A woman came on to post about an issue she had with a local daycare where her son was mistreated.
Rather than support her or offer sympathy, some ***** had the nerve to write...If you are going to have a baby, you should be willing to sacrifice things like 2 cars, a big house, vacations so you can stay home with them and make sure they are cared for.
And someone else agreed with her saying she "ate mac and cheese" all the time but it was so worth it to stay home and "raise" her own kids.
You, as a like minded woman to myself, can imagine how I saw red. The responses I crafted in my head.
But in the end I just moved on because getting in a fight with these ignorant people on a Facebook group just wasn't worth it to me.
But yeah.....



I guess I’d be cranky too if all I ate was Mac and cheese.

There’s nothing anyone can say to me that will make me feel guilty for working. When you’re confident in your decision you don’t feel guilty. These awful women are obviously pretty uncomfortable with their decisions to be so defensive. I wouldn’t have said anything, either. I don’t argue with crazy.

Posted 10/14/19 11:17 AM
 

NervousNell
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Re: When is this going to let up?

Posted by LuckyStar

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by LuckyStar

Posted by NervousNell

Moms get shamed for working too
You can't win



Yes. Though it seems to be the older generation who does that. However, I’ll admit I don’t know any SAHMs so perhaps it does happen with younger moms and I just don’t see it.

The woman who wrote that huff post piece sounds bitter as all hell. It was like an angry stream of consciousness. I know it’s huff post and all but good lord, where was her editor??



I recently saw something posted in my neighborhood facebook group that made my blood boil.
A woman came on to post about an issue she had with a local daycare where her son was mistreated.
Rather than support her or offer sympathy, some ***** had the nerve to write...If you are going to have a baby, you should be willing to sacrifice things like 2 cars, a big house, vacations so you can stay home with them and make sure they are cared for.
And someone else agreed with her saying she "ate mac and cheese" all the time but it was so worth it to stay home and "raise" her own kids.
You, as a like minded woman to myself, can imagine how I saw red. The responses I crafted in my head.
But in the end I just moved on because getting in a fight with these ignorant people on a Facebook group just wasn't worth it to me.
But yeah.....



I guess I’d be cranky too if all I ate was Mac and cheese.

There’s nothing anyone can say to me that will make me feel guilty for working. When you’re confident in your decision you don’t feel guilty. These awful women are obviously pretty uncomfortable with their decisions to be so defensive. I wouldn’t have said anything, either. I don’t argue with crazy.



LOL.
Yep!
I hear all these stories about women getting "bullied" into breastfeeding at the hospital. I have a hard time comprehending that. Nobody tells me what to do with my body or my child. What's this bullying nonsense?
I actually wished someone would have tried to say word one to me at the hospital. I was hormonal as shit and spoiling for a good fight. Chat Icon

What killed me about what I posted above was here was a woman who had an issue with her daycare and probably felt horrible, and rather than sympathy or support she had people saying in essence it was her own fault for being so selfish as to have a career.
Just disgusting.

Posted 10/14/19 11:24 AM
 

LuckyStar
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Re: When is this going to let up?


Posted by NervousNell

Posted by LuckyStar

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by LuckyStar

Posted by NervousNell

Moms get shamed for working too
You can't win



Yes. Though it seems to be the older generation who does that. However, I’ll admit I don’t know any SAHMs so perhaps it does happen with younger moms and I just don’t see it.

The woman who wrote that huff post piece sounds bitter as all hell. It was like an angry stream of consciousness. I know it’s huff post and all but good lord, where was her editor??



I recently saw something posted in my neighborhood facebook group that made my blood boil.
A woman came on to post about an issue she had with a local daycare where her son was mistreated.
Rather than support her or offer sympathy, some ***** had the nerve to write...If you are going to have a baby, you should be willing to sacrifice things like 2 cars, a big house, vacations so you can stay home with them and make sure they are cared for.
And someone else agreed with her saying she "ate mac and cheese" all the time but it was so worth it to stay home and "raise" her own kids.
You, as a like minded woman to myself, can imagine how I saw red. The responses I crafted in my head.
But in the end I just moved on because getting in a fight with these ignorant people on a Facebook group just wasn't worth it to me.
But yeah.....



I guess I’d be cranky too if all I ate was Mac and cheese.

There’s nothing anyone can say to me that will make me feel guilty for working. When you’re confident in your decision you don’t feel guilty. These awful women are obviously pretty uncomfortable with their decisions to be so defensive. I wouldn’t have said anything, either. I don’t argue with crazy.



LOL.
Yep!
I hear all these stories about women getting "bullied" into breastfeeding at the hospital. I have a hard time comprehending that. Nobody tells me what to do with my body or my child. What's this bullying nonsense?
I actually wished someone would have tried to say word one to me at the hospital. I was hormonal as shit and spoiling for a good fight. Chat Icon

What killed me about what I posted above was here was a woman who had an issue with her daycare and probably felt horrible, and rather than sympathy or support she had people saying in essence it was her own fault for being so selfish as to have a career.
Just disgusting.



I actually still get shamed for not bf-ing and my DD is almost 4. She’s rarely sick and holds her own in a pre-k class with kids literally a year older than her. Not bad for a kid who was fed poison by the daycare worker who was raising her, eh?

But the biggest shaming I get is not having another baby. You would think I say I kill puppies when someone asks me when I’m having another one and I say there are no plans for another.

We all screwed our selves when that first baby came sliding out (or cut out, in which case, more judgement). This is it. We’re all going to be judged until the end of time.

Message edited 10/14/2019 12:13:17 PM.

Posted 10/14/19 12:09 PM
 

Loveme
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When is this going to let up?

I’m a SAHM and now that my little one is in school I get questions all the time about when I’m going back to work. It’s come to the point that when I meet someone new I hesitate about what my career is because they’re usually shocked that I didn’t return to work. (My field of work requires a masters degree and hours of internship). I just hate the questions and judgement. I feel like no matter what moms always get shamed for heir lifestyle choice and it’s terrible!

Message edited 10/14/2019 9:06:00 PM.

Posted 10/14/19 9:04 PM
 

NervousNell
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Re: When is this going to let up?

Posted by LuckyStar



But the biggest shaming I get is not having another baby. You would think I say I kill puppies when someone asks me when I’m having another one and I say there are no plans for another.




When people would ask me about that I would say, "Oh my God, wow, that's a PERSONAL question!" and get a horrified look on my face like they just asked me about my sex life or something.
That usually worked to get them to STFU.
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Posted 10/15/19 8:52 AM
 

pnbplus1
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Re: When is this going to let up?

I've been a working mom (my son's 1st year I was out of the house 12 hours a day), I've been a PTWM, and a SAHM.

I love being a SAHM and don't really care what anyone says about it. It just so happens that where I live, I'd guess about 90% of moms are SAHMs. I do work about 6-8 hours a week, bc I want to (in my career that's possible) but I don't exactly consider myself a PT working mom at this point.

And yes, I do meet up with friends for lunch about once a week but the rest of the time I'm busy volunteering at school and taking care of anything and everything that comes up and that requires any planning.

I say you do what makes you happy. People will always have something to say. Working or staying at home each come with their own set of challenges.

ETA: For the previous poster, I know what you mean about people being surprised bc you have a degree. I have a doctorate and choose to stay home and my friend is an MD and chooses the same. So much goes into the decision, expectations, ideas about family, cultural influences - it's a very individual kind of decision.

Message edited 10/16/2019 1:29:24 PM.

Posted 10/16/19 1:26 PM
 

HeyJude
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Re: When is this going to let up?

Posted by NervousNell

When people would ask me about that I would say, "Oh my God, wow, that's a PERSONAL question!" and get a horrified look on my face like they just asked me about my sex life or something.


Well technically they are Chat Icon I hate it when people make those comments or ask that question. My mom thinks it is just conversation, but to me that is extremely personal. Unless someone brings it up, I would never! I have lost babies so maybe that is why I take it personally, you never know what people are going through!

Posted 10/16/19 3:13 PM
 

Mrs213
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When is this going to let up?

I have done both, full time working mom, stay at home mom, and working part time. I always thought it would be nice to stay home and that sahms have a great gig. It’s much harder than working full time. I found it difficult to keep them occupied. For me, part time was ideal

Posted 10/17/19 8:59 PM
 

DiamondGirl
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When is this going to let up?

I work but I could be perfectly happy and busy if I were a SAHM. I would help at my kids school, help/spend time w my retired, aging mother. I have friends who stay home, I would have zero issue--especially now that both my kids are in school full time--would have been much harder when they were younger and home haha

Posted 10/18/19 11:15 AM
 

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Re: When is this going to let up?

First of all, I can't believe they let this article print. It needs editing badly.

Second, I don't begrudge any woman for pursuing what suits them and their family the best. What I do have a problem with is the blatant disrespect that goes on which is in line with the theme of this article. This lady states her case but she fails to appreciate that it goes both ways.

In my own way, I guess I too have a little beef with SAHM. Not ones with little guys...staying at home with toddlers is super hard. The ones that have full time school aged kids and complain to me about their level of exhaustion and time constraints gets me nuts. Those SAHM's in particular clearly have time management issues. We all experience our own difficulties and we shouldn't compare but they are complaining to the wrong one about time constraints and exhaustion.

I also can't stand that all school events planned by the PTA (primarily made up of SAHM) are held during the work day. I realize some of them HAVE to be but why does trunk or treat need to start at 4? It can start at 6. I have numerous examples of this and it's unfair.

Otherwise, I'm grateful to my SAHM friends who are on the PTA who send me pics of my son at various school events. I'm also grateful when they offer to take my son to religion or sports or a birthday party when they know I am going to have a hard time getting home to take him. I'm also happy to give them a break when I can. It takes a village.

Posted 10/18/19 2:15 PM
 

Budjeg11
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Re: When is this going to let up?

Posted by FirstMate

First of all, I can't believe they let this article print. It needs editing badly.

Second, I don't begrudge any woman for pursuing what suits them and their family the best. What I do have a problem with is the blatant disrespect that goes on which is in line with the theme of this article. This lady states her case but she fails to appreciate that it goes both ways.

In my own way, I guess I too have a little beef with SAHM. Not ones with little guys...staying at home with toddlers is super hard. The ones that have full time school aged kids and complain to me about their level of exhaustion and time constraints gets me nuts. Those SAHM's in particular clearly have time management issues. We all experience our own difficulties and we shouldn't compare but they are complaining to the wrong one about time constraints and exhaustion.

I also can't stand that all school events planned by the PTA (primarily made up of SAHM) are held during the work day. I realize some of them HAVE to be but why does trunk or treat need to start at 4? It can start at 6. I have numerous examples of this and it's unfair.

Otherwise, I'm grateful to my SAHM friends who are on the PTA who send me pics of my son at various school events. I'm also grateful when they offer to take my son to religion or sports or a birthday party when they know I am going to have a hard time getting home to take him. I'm also happy to give them a break when I can. It takes a village.




100% this.

SAHM with kids at home-- full time job !!

All other things being the same..

SAHM with school aged kids - please dont complain to me about how tired you are and dont have enough time!



That being said these conversations essentially turn into a contest of who has it harder the SAHM v. Working mom and that debate is often illogical because yes being a mom is hard either way but some moms do have it easier for various reasons beyond whether they work outside of the house or not.

i.e. are your kids in school? how much does your spouse help? Does your kid have extra or special needs ? How much outside or hired help do you get for domestic chore etc etc etc.

Posted 10/22/19 11:21 AM
 

amac27
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Re: When is this going to let up?

I understand that working parents have it hard. I can't imagine juggling both a job and all the responsibilities of parenting. However, I think that it is really sad that ANY time people post an article about the difficulties of being a SAHM, working moms need to jump on that thread and complain about their own problems, acting those that stay home have nothing to complain about. It's like Stay at Home Moms just need to shut up and be grateful. We are not allowed to be frustrated or frazzled or bored. EVERYONE struggles in life. It is not a competition. One persons struggles do not negate the feelings of someone else.

Posted 10/22/19 12:38 PM
 

Budjeg11
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Re: When is this going to let up?

Posted by amac27

I understand that working parents have it hard. I can't imagine juggling both a job and all the responsibilities of parenting. However, I think that it is really sad that ANY time people post an article about the difficulties of being a SAHM, working moms need to jump on that thread and complain about their own problems, acting those that stay home have nothing to complain about. It's like Stay at Home Moms just need to shut up and be grateful. We are not allowed to be frustrated or frazzled or bored. EVERYONE struggles in life. It is not a competition. One persons struggles do not negate the feelings of someone else.



I hear you.. but I think the comments are more about know your audience. Not that youre not allowed to feel frazzled etc or complain about your life. But if I live in a 3,000 square foot house and I complain to someone who lives in a 1,000 square foot house that my house is not big enough they will probably roll their eyes at me. Just like if a SAHM complains to a mom working 70 hrs a weeks about not having enough time they may roll their eyes.

Honestly, I work part time (25-30 hours a week) and for the first time both my kids are in school full time this year and i have two days "off" I feel kinda dumb complaining about not having enough time to get things done to my friends who are working full time.

That doesn't mean that SAHM or other moms cant complain or vent about other things like being bored, or not fulfulled or whatever, or that they have it easier or should shut up and be grateful. Everyone has their own journey and struggles.. just don't complain that you dont have enough time to the person who likely has much less time than you.

Message edited 10/22/2019 2:43:45 PM.

Posted 10/22/19 2:38 PM
 
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