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ChristineG
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what would you do? - September Wedding
Looking for some advice & opinions.
FH & I are getting married in September.
I will preface by saying we are both in our mid-thirties.
Our original plan was-
Friday- Church Wedding & then a celebration dinner at a restaurant with about 50 people (just family).
Saturday- we would have about 100 friends/coworkers at our house to celebrate. (rent tables/chairs & have catering)
We confirmed with our Church this week that at current they are doing weddings in September so we will be married & then have dinner with just our parents & siblings.
So, FH & I just thought we would adjust the original Saturday plan & invite 150 people to our house (family, friends & coworkers).
When I updated my parents yesterday they had some concerns about having so many people in 1 place.
What would you do?
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Naturalmama
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what would you do? - September Wedding
Aren't gatherings capped at 50 people? Either way, I probably wouldn't do it, and I have been pretty laid back about the whole thing.
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| Posted 7/17/20 8:40 AM |
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PhyllisNJoe
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Re: what would you do? - September Wedding
Posted by Naturalmama
Aren't gatherings capped at 50 people? Either way, I probably wouldn't do it, and I have been pretty laid back about the whole thing.
I agree. I wouldn’t do it. You’re probably going to get a lot of no’s and all that planning for nothing. Plus, all it takes is one person and your wedding could be the reason so many fall Ill or worse.
Get married for sure. Celebrate with your immediate family. And plan a celebration for when things are better.
It really stinks. I’m sorry. So many have had to change their wedding plans bc of this
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| Posted 7/17/20 8:44 AM |
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RainyDay
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what would you do? - September Wedding
I agree with PhyllisNJoe
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| Posted 7/17/20 8:50 AM |
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ali120206
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Re: what would you do? - September Wedding
Posted by PhyllisNJoe
Posted by Naturalmama
Aren't gatherings capped at 50 people? Either way, I probably wouldn't do it, and I have been pretty laid back about the whole thing.
I agree. I wouldn’t do it. You’re probably going to get a lot of no’s and all that planning for nothing. Plus, all it takes is one person and your wedding could be the reason so many fall Ill or worse.
Get married for sure. Celebrate with your immediate family. And plan a celebration for when things are better.
It really stinks. I’m sorry. So many have had to change their wedding plans bc of this
I agree unfortunately. I'm so sorry for you and the other couples who were planning on getting married this year.
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| Posted 7/17/20 8:52 AM |
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LMichele
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Re: what would you do? - September Wedding
We are getting married in December.
Our plan is to work with whatever the guidelines are. We are still unsure on where our venue stands-gatherings are 50 people but restaurants are 50% capacity. Our venue is restaurant, not a catering hall, and 50% for them is 200 people. Our total invite list is 120, and we are expecting about 100. So social distancing would be easy enough to do as tables can be spread out around the entire 400 seat space.
But if we need to be kept to 50, then we will cut our list to 50.
There is no guarantee that 2021 will allow for anything more than 2020 is in terms of gatherings, and we are also in our mid-thirties. As long as our venue can accommodate for safe social distancing, then we will not cancel.
I do think all of the backyard weddings that are happening need to adhere to the same social distancing guidelines, though.
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| Posted 7/17/20 8:57 AM |
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lmcmcl
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Re: what would you do? - September Wedding
Posted by PhyllisNJoe
Posted by Naturalmama
Aren't gatherings capped at 50 people? Either way, I probably wouldn't do it, and I have been pretty laid back about the whole thing.
I agree. I wouldn’t do it. You’re probably going to get a lot of no’s and all that planning for nothing. Plus, all it takes is one person and your wedding could be the reason so many fall Ill or worse.
Get married for sure. Celebrate with your immediate family. And plan a celebration for when things are better.
It really stinks. I’m sorry. So many have had to change their wedding plans bc of this
I agree with PhyllisNJoe
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| Posted 7/17/20 9:01 AM |
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Katareen
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what would you do? - September Wedding
Sorry, absolutely no. To any wedding (or large occasion) right now.
Get married in front of your immediate family and have a big celebration next year or for your 5 year anniversary.
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| Posted 7/17/20 9:03 AM |
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PitterPatter11
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Re: what would you do? - September Wedding
Posted by lmcmcl
Posted by PhyllisNJoe
Posted by Naturalmama
Aren't gatherings capped at 50 people? Either way, I probably wouldn't do it, and I have been pretty laid back about the whole thing.
I agree. I wouldn’t do it. You’re probably going to get a lot of no’s and all that planning for nothing. Plus, all it takes is one person and your wedding could be the reason so many fall Ill or worse.
Get married for sure. Celebrate with your immediate family. And plan a celebration for when things are better.
It really stinks. I’m sorry. So many have had to change their wedding plans bc of this
I agree with PhyllisNJoe
ITA.
I just visited with my sister for 2 days and she hosted an outside pizza party with only my immediate family (17 people) and I was anxious the ENTIRE time.
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| Posted 7/17/20 9:46 AM |
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jlm2008
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Re: what would you do? - September Wedding
Posted by PhyllisNJoe
Posted by Naturalmama
Aren't gatherings capped at 50 people? Either way, I probably wouldn't do it, and I have been pretty laid back about the whole thing.
I agree. I wouldn’t do it. You’re probably going to get a lot of no’s and all that planning for nothing. Plus, all it takes is one person and your wedding could be the reason so many fall Ill or worse.
Get married for sure. Celebrate with your immediate family. And plan a celebration for when things are better.
It really stinks. I’m sorry. So many have had to change their wedding plans bc of this
This. I would never go to an event with a 150 people. Get married. I didn't understand 150 people weddings pre -covid, ( well maybe in my 20's) certainly don't now.
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| Posted 7/17/20 9:50 AM |
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KarenK122
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Re: what would you do? - September Wedding
Posted by lmcmcl
Posted by PhyllisNJoe
Posted by Naturalmama
Aren't gatherings capped at 50 people? Either way, I probably wouldn't do it, and I have been pretty laid back about the whole thing.
I agree. I wouldn’t do it. You’re probably going to get a lot of no’s and all that planning for nothing. Plus, all it takes is one person and your wedding could be the reason so many fall Ill or worse.
Get married for sure. Celebrate with your immediate family. And plan a celebration for when things are better.
It really stinks. I’m sorry. So many have had to change their wedding plans bc of this
I agree with PhyllisNJoe
I agree. We were invited to a backyard wedding the end of this month. About 100 people are invited. We are not going and I think many others aren't because I heard they were already inviting people from their "c" list.
I feel really bad for anyone celebrating anything this year. It really sucks. I would definitely postpone and maybe have a big party on your 1 year anniversary.
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| Posted 7/17/20 9:51 AM |
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JennP
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Re: what would you do? - September Wedding
I’m so sorry you have to make this difficult decision. But I agree with the others.
We have a wedding the first weekend in October and I can’t imagine that we’re going to go because it’s going to be pretty large. We’ll see what the situation is though. If it’s outdoors I’ll feel better but I don’t think it is
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| Posted 7/17/20 10:01 AM |
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JME78
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what would you do? - September Wedding
Its really irresponsible to hold a gathering of that size.
Its terrible but I wouldn't put my friends and family in that position.
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| Posted 7/17/20 10:04 AM |
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Sash
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Re: what would you do? - September Wedding
You may get many No’s, so be prepared for that. I would limit it to the capacity allowed, so decrease the number of attendees, maybe have disposable masks available if you can afford it.
At this point when is it ever going to be safe?
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| Posted 7/17/20 10:06 AM |
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tray831
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Re: what would you do? - September Wedding
I wouldn't. Not now.
Unfortunately, its such a difficult time to plan these things.
Unless your house has a few acres of property, so people can properly social distance, I wouldn't do it.
And if you do have it, expect many to respond No.
Good Luck with your plans.
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| Posted 7/17/20 10:12 AM |
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Sash
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Re: what would you do? - September Wedding
Posted by tray831
I wouldn't. Not now.
Unfortunately, its such a difficult time to plan these things.
Unless your house has a few acres of property, so people can properly social distance, I wouldn't do it.
And if you do have it, expect many to respond No.
Good Luck with your plans.
I assumed she had a nice size house with a lot of property to fit 150 people in it. I can fit maybe 10 in my apartment 
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MC09
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Re: what would you do? - September Wedding
You are probably going to get a lot of guests declining your invitation. Does it have to be 150 people? Why not limit the guest list to your closest people?
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| Posted 7/17/20 10:19 AM |
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what would you do? - September Wedding
I absolutely wouldn’t host a gathering with that many people. Stick to parents and siblings.
Also, if you do hold a gathering for more than that, be prepared for a lot of no responses. I was invited to a baby shower at a restaurant next month; and they had to cancel it bc nobody would come.
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| Posted 7/17/20 10:22 AM |
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LMichele
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Re: what would you do? - September Wedding
Posted by JennP
I’m so sorry you have to make this difficult decision. But I agree with the others.
We have a wedding the first weekend in October and I can’t imagine that we’re going to go because it’s going to be pretty large. We’ll see what the situation is though. If it’s outdoors I’ll feel better but I don’t think it is
Right now gatherings are limited to 50 and some catering halls have not even been given the okay to open yet. So most likely, the October wedding will have restrictions on the amount of guests that can attend.
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| Posted 7/17/20 10:41 AM |
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ChristineG
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what would you do? - September Wedding
Thank you everyone for all of the input.
FH & I are total rule followers. We have both been working from home since mid-March & limit how often we do anything in public spaces.
I guess it’s just the disappointment setting in.
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| Posted 7/17/20 12:02 PM |
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chilltocam
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what would you do? - September Wedding
My Goddaughter was supposed to get married in mid-April. They postponed until Sept 19th. I just found out today, they have now postponed again - probably until next April, but no new date yet.
It really stinks to have to deal with this. Good luck to you
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| Posted 7/17/20 12:55 PM |
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BargainMama
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Re: what would you do? - September Wedding
Do you live on Long Island? I think gatherings are capped still, so it wouldn't work. But, as far as having a gathering, when will be safe? I mean, our numbers are SO low. Go look at the Suffolk County Health Dept page. It updates daily. Around 60 new cases. Are we waiting until it gets to zero? Because that's unrealistic.
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| Posted 7/17/20 1:07 PM |
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Deeluvsvinny
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what would you do? - September Wedding
I had a close family friend who was getting married in April- it was postponed until October. A few weeks ago she made the difficult decision to post-pone again until June 2021. She isn't comfortable and so many guests weren't. She did get married (via zoom with a minister) on her original wedding date. They are also in their 30s and have been dating a very long time.
I know this must be difficult and something you've planned and been excited about, but I don't think it's safe to have 100 or 150 people in one place (even outdoors). I think you should get married, have a small family dinner to celebrate and then postpone the big wedding celebration until next year.
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| Posted 7/17/20 1:30 PM |
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valentinesbaby
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Re: what would you do? - September Wedding
I am a rule follower too and not sure how many people would say yes but if you are having it in your backyard, who is going to turn you in if you have over 50 people?
Do you have neighbors like that, that would do that to you for your wedding reception?
Personally I would probably push it up to make sure that all would be able to come as many might not feel comfortable right now.
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| Posted 7/17/20 2:22 PM |
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Naturalmama
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Re: what would you do? - September Wedding
Posted by BargainMama
Do you live on Long Island? I think gatherings are capped still, so it wouldn't work. But, as far as having a gathering, when will be safe? I mean, our numbers are SO low. Go look at the Suffolk County Health Dept page. It updates daily. Around 60 new cases. Are we waiting until it gets to zero? Because that's unrealistic.
The other day Suffolk had 102 positive cases. It did drop again the next day, and I do believe overall NY's numbers have been very low and steady. But it only takes one person at one event. Remember the lawyer in New Rochelle at the beginning of all this?
I am all for small get togethers, even though we are allowed 25 I don't even go that high.
IMO, it will be a long time before huge parties/concerts/theater are a thing.
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| Posted 7/17/20 2:58 PM |
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