wanting another child so soon vent

im not sure if its all hormonal but i feel the want again this soon...
ds will be 3 months on friday - he is truly the perfect baby. he sttn, he hardly cries and just overall a happy baby.
we had difficutly conceiving and when we did, i was scared the whole pregnancy bc of previous losses. Now i want another child for ds to grow up with. dh was completly against it bc as of right now we have 2 bedrooms, we are going to either dormer up the house or go out the next couple of years. the past couple of weeks hes slowly saying ok but not now - maybe in 2 years. im thinking 2 years starting and another 9 months being pregnant, these kids will be 3 years apart - thats even if we get pregnant right away

i feel so guilty writing this but i look at pregnant women and im yearning to be pregnant again. - i mean i JUST had a baby! whats wrogn with me?

When we were having trouble conceiving i convinced myself i would be happy if i was even blessed with one child but now i feel that i want another one so soon...

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It's totally normal, I actually feel the itch again and Tyler is only two months....but I do know how much harder it is as they get older. This part is truly a breeze - then they get mobile and it's gets to be a bit harder. If I didn't know this I would probably be trying for another one fairly soon.

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Its totally normal. I actually had such a great pregnancy, I enjoyed it a bit too much Im starting to get baby fever myself.

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It is normal. had it so bad after DD, that I DID get pregnant again. She was 8 months old when I found out. We only have a 2 bedroom house and DD and DS share a room and now we have a third on the way!

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I think its normal. My DS is 12 weeks old and I started thinking about it when he was like 3 weeks old. And he's not a super easy baby - he's had tummy trouble and still no STTN (although we now get 6-7 hours).

I'm 33 now (32 when DS was born) and have been married 7 years so when I had him, I realized that I waited way too long. I put school/career and having a carefree easy life ahead of having children and suddenly regretted it.

We had to do a medicated IUI so i also know it won't necessarily be easy to have another (DS was conceived on the 1st try though).

I've already mentioned to my DH that I want another one soon and I really mean it. He sometimes looks at me like I'm crazy. I'm thinking we should start TTC when DS is about a year. I am totally going to "ruin" my career and I'm usually ok with that; usually. After 9 years of school and over 100K in student loans, its hard to always accept that I'll have to leave my high-achieving ways behind but it is what it is.

Keep talking about it and see maybe your DH will change his mind about waiting so long. I think it's probably not best to have one now, they would be so close in age and I'm guessing it would be really hard for you. Also, psychologically speaking, children are better able and more ready to accept a sibling closer to age 3 (although I hope to be closer to age 2). Give it some time, having a baby is a huge adjustment for a couple but keep talking about it, over time you guys will likely come to the conclusion/decision that is best for you.


P.S. When I see pregnant women, I totally wish I was pregnant too. I had a great pregnancy and miss it!

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Totally normal. I had the itch so bad as soon as DD was born. We had a hard time conceiving also (ended up doing IVF) but I did end up getting pregnant when DD was 2 months old but it was a chemical pregnancy

However now that DD is older it's sooo much more work...at least it is for us. The toddler stage is definitely more challenging. We do plan on starting to TTC later on this year so DD will be around 3.5 when the next baby comes along and in pre-school.

For us I think that age difference is ideal.
FWIW: We have a 2 bedroom coop also and for the time being have no plans on moving but I'm definitely not letting that stop us from having more kids.

Message edited 12/30/2009 10:48:00 AM.

Re: wanting another child so soon vent

I am the opposite. DH told me last night that it would be okay with him if I didn't want to have anymore babies- because I told DD that she would be my only one. Not that DD is difficult or anything, but I am just perfectly happy with our family of three- for now anyway. We'll see what happens in the future.

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I'm right there with you. We had a hard time concieving DD so as soon as we got the ok to BD, we starting trying again. Well, its 7 months later and still no luck . I feel like everyone around me is getting pregnant I everytime I her someone else is pregnant I cry. My DH is a boob when I tell him all this, his stupid response is, "it is what it is", why can't the jerk just say its ok, it will happen soon.

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DS is 11 m onths and the "itch" is crazy. I was late a few days last month, and ALMOST got excited. So, needless to say one of our resolutions is getting pregnant.