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sweetie525
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Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
My DH & I have a holiday party to go to Sat night @ his friend's house. We just found out that I'm pregnant but it's way too early to tell anyone. Not sure how to handle the looks or questioning when I turn down a glass of wine... not that I'm a lush but normally I would have a couple of drinks. What should I say if someone asks if I'm pregnant?
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Posted 12/18/14 11:10 PM  |
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2BadSoSad
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
I would just accept it and then hold on to it if you dont want anyone to know yet. Then go to the bathroom and dump it. If anyone asks if you want a refill, you can decline and say you are DD.
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| Posted 12/18/14 11:20 PM |
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Mrs213
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Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
Take it if someone offers and pretend to drink it, lol
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| Posted 12/19/14 12:18 AM |
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ANewDayHasCome
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
Posted by Mrs213
Take it if someone offers and pretend to drink it, lol
This!!!
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| Posted 12/19/14 6:41 AM |
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shellbebaby
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Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
If you can pour yourself have DH get you drinks. Cranberry and Seltzer is a good hide drink. If there's a bartender then let him in on it when no one is around and have him keep the virgins coming. If someone hands you a drink fake "sip" it. Either go dump some when your in the bathroom or switch with DH when no one us looking. Switch to water later in the evening saying your driving home or you already drank to much.
I went to a wedding at that stage and no one figured it out. DH went to the bar for me whenever none of our friends were there. During the toasts I pretended to sip from the champagne glasses, then DH switched them when no one was watching.
Even managed to pull off the illusion at a restaurant in the summer by "going to the bathroom" and pulling over our waitress and ordering a virgin piña Colada.
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| Posted 12/19/14 8:51 AM |
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DaniJude
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
No thanks because I'm the designated driver tonight.
No thanks because I'm on a new regiment and really watching calories - the first thing to go is alcohol! Empty calories!
...Those worked for me at the time.
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| Posted 12/19/14 9:21 AM |
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JDubs
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
I was at a wedding about 3 weeks ago or so and all of my cousins were doing shots together. They asked me to join them and I just said that I was driving so I couldn't drink.
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| Posted 12/19/14 9:23 AM |
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Lillies
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
I said I was designated driver and already had two drinks....
The easiest for me was I would keep a drink with me at all times and sip it so people would not want to offer lol it worked.
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| Posted 12/19/14 9:41 AM |
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JME78
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
"i think i am coming down with something so have been taking cold medicine"
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| Posted 12/19/14 9:42 AM |
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MrsM84
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
IMO, if people know you've been trying, any excuse puts you in an awkward position where people will question you. Best bet is to make your own drink is possible, or ask a bartender for a virgin mixed drink that looks like it has alcohol in it -- a previous poster said sprite with cranberry which is perfect, or just plain seltzer with a lemon which could easily be a gin and tonic.
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| Posted 12/19/14 9:53 AM |
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Hope2beamom
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
I had my work holiday party the other night and I got a Seltzer with lime-A few co workers asked what I was drinking and I said Vodka/Selzer. I think I played it off really well lol
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| Posted 12/19/14 10:24 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
Posted by Hope2beamom
I had my work holiday party the other night and I got a Seltzer with lime-A few co workers asked what I was drinking and I said Vodka/Selzer. I think I played it off really well lol
This was my go to for 6 months of "drinking"with my former boss- until I was ready to tell him the truth at 6 months!
Worked like a charm!
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| Posted 12/19/14 10:29 AM |
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Lola64
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
I brought a bottle of non-alcoholic wine. If even I was the DD I would have at least a drink. So I bought a bottle of non-alcoholic wine and put it in a regular wine bottle. I normally drink white wine...if someone else were to have taken a sip they would have realized it was basically grape juice. But if you happen to be a red wine drinker there are really good "fake" red wines out there!
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| Posted 12/19/14 10:30 AM |
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cmsmomma
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Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
This was seriously the hardest part of my first trimester because i apparently was a lush before getting pregnant lol. I did a lot of diet cokes that i said was jack and coke. I used the DD excuse several times. If we were hosting, I said i had a UTI.
All this said, I think being out of the pregnancy closet is the happiest i've been since we found out that we were expecting lol.
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| Posted 12/19/14 12:01 PM |
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Pomegranate5
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
Take it, pretend to sip it. When no one is looking dump 3/4 of it out and just act like you're nursing the rest of the glass for the rest of the night.
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| Posted 12/19/14 2:05 PM |
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Indisbelief
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Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
Personally, I think the best excuse is the "I drank too much the other night and can't even look at another drink right now" this is the perfect time of year for this excuse because people are going to multiple parties during the week so it's normal that you may have been hungover from either one of them. This will also give you ladies who have nausea an excuse if you throw up at the party lol...
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| Posted 12/19/14 2:36 PM |
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Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
just say your starting your new years resolution early and it includes no drinking, more exercise etc
or don't say anything, get a soda and let them wonder all they want
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| Posted 12/19/14 8:25 PM |
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bookworm
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
Posted by cmsmomma
This was seriously the hardest part of my first trimester because i apparently was a lush before getting pregnant lol.
Ha! Yes. I think my MIL was already suspicious at Thanksgiving, when I couldn't drink because of my IVF transfer. She kept scolding me to sit down and rest...
Now it's Christmas, so I have to try some of these tricks to fake it. Can't wait to be out of the closet!
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| Posted 12/20/14 11:07 AM |
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MESal0820
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
I went to a company party and told the bartender my secret. He took care of it from there!
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| Posted 12/22/14 9:54 PM |
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FirstMate
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
I'm sure I will have the least popular response here but I have a glass of wine and nurse it all night. Its blaringly obvious if I'm not having cocktails and, to me, its annoying to have people guessing I'm pregnant and/or talking about it behind my back. I know its frowned upon to drink while pregnant but, IMO, just like anything else, one every now and then is ok. I also drink plenty of water before and after so it's well flushed out but I love cocktails so it makes me feel included and I really enjoy that glass of wine.
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| Posted 12/23/14 7:51 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
Posted by FirstMate
I'm sure I will have the least popular response here but I have a glass of wine and nurse it all night. Its blaringly obvious if I'm not having cocktails and, to me, its annoying to have people guessing I'm pregnant and/or talking about it behind my back. I know its frowned upon to drink while pregnant but, IMO, just like anything else, one every now and then is ok. I also drink plenty of water before and after so it's well flushed out but I love cocktails so it makes me feel included and I really enjoy that glass of wine.
I used to have a wine spritzer ocassionally. It wasn't the greatest thing but it did have the wine taste and I felt better that at least it was watered down. And it kept the questions at bay.
I also drank full on glasses of wine here and there later on.
All was well.
Like everything else moderation is key. My doctor once told me that while a glass of wine here and there is perfectly fine, they have to tell you no drinking at all because a lot of people don't understand the word- Moderation. Moderation to some people is 2 glasses a day, every day!
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| Posted 12/23/14 9:12 AM |
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shellbebaby
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
Posted by FirstMate
I'm sure I will have the least popular response here but I have a glass of wine and nurse it all night. Its blaringly obvious if I'm not having cocktails and, to me, its annoying to have people guessing I'm pregnant and/or talking about it behind my back. I know its frowned upon to drink while pregnant but, IMO, just like anything else, one every now and then is ok. I also drink plenty of water before and after so it's well flushed out but I love cocktails so it makes me feel included and I really enjoy that glass of wine.
Don't do it in your first trimester. Drs say it's ok in 2nd or 3rd to have a rare glass of red. Some will agree and some won't. But to many important developments are occurring in first trimester. You shouldn't drink at all.
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| Posted 12/23/14 9:18 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
Posted by shellbebaby
Posted by FirstMate
I'm sure I will have the least popular response here but I have a glass of wine and nurse it all night. Its blaringly obvious if I'm not having cocktails and, to me, its annoying to have people guessing I'm pregnant and/or talking about it behind my back. I know its frowned upon to drink while pregnant but, IMO, just like anything else, one every now and then is ok. I also drink plenty of water before and after so it's well flushed out but I love cocktails so it makes me feel included and I really enjoy that glass of wine.
Don't do it in your first trimester. Drs say it's ok in 2nd or 3rd to have a rare glass of red. Some will agree and some won't. But to many important developments are occurring in first trimester. You shouldn't drink at all.
Why red not white?
Both have the same alcohol content. Yeah red may be better for heart health and contain more antioxidents making it better for overall health, but when drinking while pregnant, it's about the alcohol content and red and white wine contain the exact same amount of alcohol.
Personally I don't drink red so I drank white for my rare glass of wine.
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| Posted 12/23/14 9:28 AM |
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FirstMate
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
Posted by shellbebaby
Posted by FirstMate
I'm sure I will have the least popular response here but I have a glass of wine and nurse it all night. Its blaringly obvious if I'm not having cocktails and, to me, its annoying to have people guessing I'm pregnant and/or talking about it behind my back. I know its frowned upon to drink while pregnant but, IMO, just like anything else, one every now and then is ok. I also drink plenty of water before and after so it's well flushed out but I love cocktails so it makes me feel included and I really enjoy that glass of wine.
Don't do it in your first trimester. Drs say it's ok in 2nd or 3rd to have a rare glass of red. Some will agree and some won't. But to many important developments are occurring in first trimester. You shouldn't drink at all.
Like I said, I knew it wasn't going to be a popular response. I'm very educated and actually my first profession was as a health care provider. I'm aware of the risks. There are many things we shouldn't do, ever, pregnant or not, because of risks involved but we do them anyway. My DS is perfect in every way and I had occasional glasses of wine with him too. Its a personal choice. I don't expect everyone to condone it.
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| Posted 12/23/14 10:33 AM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Turning down a drink at a holiday party!
Posted by shellbebaby
Posted by FirstMate
I'm sure I will have the least popular response here but I have a glass of wine and nurse it all night. Its blaringly obvious if I'm not having cocktails and, to me, its annoying to have people guessing I'm pregnant and/or talking about it behind my back. I know its frowned upon to drink while pregnant but, IMO, just like anything else, one every now and then is ok. I also drink plenty of water before and after so it's well flushed out but I love cocktails so it makes me feel included and I really enjoy that glass of wine.
Don't do it in your first trimester. Drs say it's ok in 2nd or 3rd to have a rare glass of red. Some will agree and some won't. But to many important developments are occurring in first trimester. You shouldn't drink at all.
People do what they want to do and as long as you're making an educated decision, then it's your perogative. I'm not judging, at all! But I did just want to say that saying it's "ok" in the 2nd or 3rd trimester is a total misnomer. The baby's brain has the most development happening in the final weeks of pregnancy, so that's not really an "ideal" time to have a drink either.
Yes, one drink will most likely not harm the baby. The problem is when women think 1 is ok and then 1 turns into 2. And then you get a buzz and think, ok, 3 is ok, etc.
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