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justbeachy
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Thoughts on gift received.... (Eta more info)
Your husband's sister sends your child a gift of 4 very well-used (by her 2 kids) board books for his/her birthday.
Thoughts?
(Please don't assume that I am not grateful for EVERY gift my child receives. I am.)
ETA: They are doing extremely well financially. Board books were 0-2 books. I would NEVER say anything to them and love them very much! I appreciate the sentiment. I just thought it odd to send used books as a bday gift.
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Tiggeruth
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Re: Thoughts on gift received....
I think that's a bit odd. I've gotten very used things from family members before as gifts but they also included a small something new too and it was never as a main holiday present.
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| Posted 10/30/14 1:49 AM |
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Katareen
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Thoughts on gift received....
Are they in a very tight financial spot?
I'd assume they couldn't afford a gift so maybe are passing along some favorites?
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| Posted 10/30/14 3:46 AM |
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ANewDayHasCome
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Thoughts on gift received....
I think it's weird to get a used anything for a birthday present. If they gave them to you randomly as a hand me down, that I could see.
Heck, I feel guilty regifting things and those are brand new things.
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| Posted 10/30/14 6:42 AM |
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Strawberry2468
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Re: Thoughts on gift received....
If she just gave them then ok but as a gift that's odd.
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| Posted 10/30/14 6:45 AM |
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Re: Thoughts on gift received....
Were they appropriate board books or like board books for the 0-2 age group. Big difference there. I would feel slighted by that gift, especially if they weren't age appropriate.
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| Posted 10/30/14 8:24 AM |
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Pray4Baby2010
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Re: Thoughts on gift received....
I don't know her financial situation or your relationship. My sil has a bad financial situation and she acknowledges my kid's birthdays in the only way she can- a phone call.
So no, I wouldnt be insulted
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nycgirl
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Re: Thoughts on gift received....
She's got kids, so she knows the "norms".
I'd let it go.
She may be embarrassed by financial situations that exist or may be impending. You never know what is going on with someone.
Either way, you can get good use out of board books, even used.
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LSP2005
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Re: Thoughts on gift received....
Posted by nycgirl
She's got kids, so she knows the "norms".
I'd let it go.
She may be embarrassed by financial situations that exist or may be impending. You never know what is going on with someone.
Either way, you can get good use out of board books, even used.
I would be sad that an aunt and uncle did not see fit to get my kid something new, but I would never say anything to them about it. I would thank them for the books. I agree that they might be in a financial pickle. If I were in a position to help them then I would do so.
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HeyJude
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Re: Thoughts on gift received....
I would assume money is tight, if she doesn't normally gift (obviously) used items.
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| Posted 10/30/14 8:51 AM |
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Waste06
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Re: Thoughts on gift received....
How old are her kids? Is it possible she told them to pick out some of their favorite toys from when they were little and pass them along to your DD?
If you have a good relationship with her, and want to keep it that way, I'd let it go, and convince myself that the above was true.... 
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MarisaK
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Re: Thoughts on gift received....
is this normal practice for her re: gifting to your child?
it's not really something i'd ever SAY anything about ..........but I'd be annoyed,
You don't 'gift' hand me downs.
You gift something hand made, something inexpensive, something you can afford - ..........but you don't "gift" hand me downs. ESPECIALLY to your niece/nephew.
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| Posted 10/30/14 9:24 AM |
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WannaBeAMom11
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Thoughts on gift received....
Depends if this is the norm and you don't know her finances. I would just let it go and of course send a thank you card.
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| Posted 10/30/14 9:27 AM |
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ISpoilHim
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Re: Thoughts on gift received....
Posted by Waste06
How old are her kids? Is it possible she told them to pick out some of their favorite toys from when they were little and pass them along to your DD?
If you have a good relationship with her, and want to keep it that way, I'd let it go, and convince myself that the above was true....
This is the first thing that came to my mind. That she told her kids to pick out a gift and this is what they picked. She may not have necessarily thought they would pick one of their own books. If the book is well used, then it may have been her kids favorite book and they are passing it on to their cousin so she could enjoy it.
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| Posted 10/30/14 9:48 AM |
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jendar
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Re: Thoughts on gift received....
Its better than no gift at all. Ive had that happen
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| Posted 10/30/14 9:59 AM |
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Sparrow
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Re: Thoughts on gift received....
I would be pretty ticked unless they really are THAT broke. But seriously, I find it hard to believe that you can't scrounge up $5-$10 and go buy a new gift. There is tons of crap in that price range at Toys R Us. Is she old enough that she could be going senile?
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Xelindrya
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Thoughts on gift received....
nothing
No thoughts at all. Not like my kid wouldn't beat the heck out of a book, new or not. Its just a book they'll out grow anyway so I'd not have given it a second's pause. I also agree with PP if that well used it must have been a favorite and its sorta neat they can talk about it later. Heck may even make it a tradition of passing it along to another cousin. Keep it in the family. More I think of it, how cool would that be?! We have 8, 7, and 6 yr olds who live far enough away but are super close when together. I think I may just go msg the moms and start this up!
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NervousNell
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Re: Thoughts on gift received....
I'm not going to lie, I would find it odd and a bit insulting.
I would never give something used under the guise of a gift.
I love getting hand me downs, I love giving hand me downs, I do... but not as a gift.
I understand not everyone can afford an expensive gift but at least something small, that is new. A token gift.
And then give the used books along with it.
To me, it's just odd.
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Thoughts on gift received....
It's weird. But there's nothing you can do about it.
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| Posted 10/30/14 11:32 AM |
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justbeachy
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Re: Thoughts on gift received.... (Eta more info)
Bump for more info (original post)
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JDubs
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Re: Thoughts on gift received.... (Eta more info)
I would think its weird especially that they are not struggling financially. If they wanted to give the books because their LO's outgrew them, fine, (which in this case it doesn't make sense since they're age inappropriate) but not as a birthday gift.
That being said, I don't think I would say anything.
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justbeachy
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Re: Thoughts on gift received.... (Eta more info)
Posted by MarisaK
is this normal practice for her re: gifting to your child?
No - first time. Always buy each other new gifts.
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Loveme
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Thoughts on gift received.... (Eta more info)
Are you having a birthday party for your LO? Maybe they will bring a gift to that and they wanted to send something for LO to open on the actual day??
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| Posted 10/30/14 12:16 PM |
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justbeachy
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Re: Thoughts on gift received.... (Eta more info)
Posted by Loveme
Are you having a birthday party for your LO? Maybe they will bring a gift to that and they wanted to send something for LO to open on the actual day??
Nope and nope. We live on opposite coasts.
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| Posted 10/30/14 12:18 PM |
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nycgirl
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Re: Thoughts on gift received.... (Eta more info)
With updated info, get your hubby to call her & thank her for her childrens' cherished books.
Maybe there is more to the story & that way, you find out without being rude.
It's not worth it to have an argument over, but a bit odd. I personally would not do that (but have given a few new board books that my kids have their own copies of)
And... if her kids really loved those books (and it is the thought that counts: she packaged them up & paid for shipping)... it's also nice.
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