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gina409
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Posted by StaceyWill
Posted by blu6385
i would be ok with a generic one but i would also be ok with no Thank you. ( i know the horror) honestly its just going to go right in the garbage once i read it which is why i am ok for not getting one. i think saying thank you at the party is good enough 
Same.
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clotheshorse
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
A handwritten thank is more personable then a printed one. I have gotten both types of thank you's for different occasions. The only time it bothered me was when I have attended a party, then a generic thank you was attached to the party favor. For a grown man, I understand but for a shower, I would think that's frowned upon.
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| Posted 5/24/16 10:16 PM |
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butterfly20
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
pre printed...
You could always just leave off the signature and him sign them...
or pre print thank you for celebrating my birthday with me... then he could add ty for gift.
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| Posted 5/24/16 10:41 PM |
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butterfly20
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Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
my pet peeve... weddings... you go and give hundreds and get just a preprinted message, no hand signature even... I don't think anyone expects a guy to write thank you's...
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| Posted 5/24/16 10:42 PM |
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JSDB
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Posted by butterfly20
my pet peeve... weddings... you go and give hundreds and get just a preprinted message, no hand signature even... I don't think anyone expects a guy to write thank you's...
It's not so much the money you give, its more that you know they spent 32432423423423423 hours planning details of the wedding that do or dont matter but cant take the much smaller fraction of time to thank their guests
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| Posted 5/24/16 11:00 PM |
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PennyCat
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Hand written, always.
And if I may go on my own personal tangent, I feel like gifts are so impersonal these days. Half the time lately I'll give a gift and won't ever hear if it was loved or what. I care less about a formal generic thank you, and more about a genuine text of "omgggg you were spot on, that gift rocks". That said... Handwritten. 
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| Posted 5/24/16 11:28 PM |
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WonderLady
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Posted by Kitten1929
TBH I wouldn't expect a thank you card from a grown man...I am sure I am in the minority though.
I think pre-written is just fine however.
Hah. Agreed. The thought of my dh writing out thank yous is so ridiculous, I think I imagine him doing it in some kind of Victorian garb.
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| Posted 5/25/16 12:21 AM |
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Kitten1929
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Posted by WonderLady
Posted by Kitten1929
TBH I wouldn't expect a thank you card from a grown man...I am sure I am in the minority though.
I think pre-written is just fine however.
Hah. Agreed. The thought of my dh writing out thank yous is so ridiculous, I think I imagine him doing it in some kind of Victorian garb.
Exactly! My DH would probably write, "thanks for coming to my party dickbag" or something equally dudespeak.
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| Posted 5/25/16 6:21 AM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Posted by WonderLady
Posted by Kitten1929
TBH I wouldn't expect a thank you card from a grown man...I am sure I am in the minority though.
I think pre-written is just fine however.
Hah. Agreed. The thought of my dh writing out thank yous is so ridiculous, I think I imagine him doing it in some kind of Victorian garb.
ITA! I don't feel for an adult's party it's really necessary. Thank you are for showers, weddings, gifts when baby is born, 1st birthdays, etc... I think for an adult's party it's about having fun and getting out. The gift will be totally appreciated, but a thank you isn't necessary. For a guy's gift I'd probably get wine or something beer related. No need for a "thank you for the wine" note.
I wouldn't even expect a thank you.
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| Posted 5/25/16 7:03 AM |
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AliceCullen
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Generic is better than nothing but I would prefer handwritten. I know some people don't care about thank yous and say they're outdated, but IMO some kind of acknowledgment of the gift is necessary. A text, an email, anything. When I go to a party and the gift is not opened in front of me, I like to know the person at least got it.
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| Posted 5/25/16 9:42 AM |
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2girls2love
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
What I find so interesting about this ....
Some responses are giving a guy a pass with the TY note, simply because its a guy in this particular scenario.
Not to start a debate or anything, but this is what I immediately noticed.
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| Posted 5/25/16 10:20 AM |
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Kitten1929
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Posted by 2girls2love
What I find so interesting about this ....
Some responses are giving a guy a pass with the TY note, simply because its a guy in this particular scenario.
Not to start a debate or anything, but this is what I immediately noticed.
Honestly...I think women care about the thank you cards more than men. I don't think men worry about who did or didn't send a card, if it was handwritten or preprinted, if it was sent in a timely manner, etc.
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| Posted 5/25/16 10:50 AM |
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eroxgirl
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Posted by 2girls2love
What I find so interesting about this ....
Some responses are giving a guy a pass with the TY note, simply because its a guy in this particular scenario.
Not to start a debate or anything, but this is what I immediately noticed.
YESSSS! I'm so annoyed reading these responses that the guy basically doesn't have to adhere to etiquette because he's a man.
Women - WE SUCK!! Honestly, we are so freaking awful to one another, and here is the proof, that we don't expect a grown man to write out a stupid thank you card for HIS PARTY. I'm 9832492837429874938 times busier than my DH. I work more hours, I have more responsibility than he does, but I'm the one who will get judged for not writing a thank you card.
Meanwhile, I currently have my 8 year old daughter hand-writing her thank you cards for her communion. Lest she be judged... (and she's doing a great freakin job)
And I'd also never let my DH write out a thank you card on my behalf because he'd do a terrible job.
I'm going to teach my son better than this.
Don't mind my rant, the truth in it is what bothers me.
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| Posted 5/25/16 11:00 AM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Posted by Kitten1929
Posted by 2girls2love
What I find so interesting about this ....
Some responses are giving a guy a pass with the TY note, simply because its a guy in this particular scenario.
Not to start a debate or anything, but this is what I immediately noticed.
Honestly...I think women care about the thank you cards more than men. I don't think men worry about who did or didn't send a card, if it was handwritten or preprinted, if it was sent in a timely manner, etc.
I didn't mean I'm giving a man a pass bc he's a man. I also wouldn't do thank you's, but would definitely take the time to call or text people and thank them for coming as well as the gift.
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| Posted 5/25/16 11:45 AM |
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MarisaK
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
This gets filed under no matter what you do someone will be annoyed .......so do what you want ! 
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| Posted 5/25/16 11:59 AM |
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luvmykids8
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Posted by MarisaK
This gets filed under no matter what you do someone will be annoyed .......so do what you want !
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| Posted 5/25/16 12:02 PM |
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WonderLady
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Posted by Kitten1929
Posted by WonderLady
Posted by Kitten1929
TBH I wouldn't expect a thank you card from a grown man...I am sure I am in the minority though.
I think pre-written is just fine however.
Hah. Agreed. The thought of my dh writing out thank yous is so ridiculous, I think I imagine him doing it in some kind of Victorian garb.
Exactly! My DH would probably write, "thanks for coming to my party dickbag" or something equally dudespeak.
 so yes.
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| Posted 5/25/16 2:12 PM |
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WonderLady
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Posted by eroxgirl
Posted by 2girls2love
What I find so interesting about this ....
Some responses are giving a guy a pass with the TY note, simply because its a guy in this particular scenario.
Not to start a debate or anything, but this is what I immediately noticed.
YESSSS! I'm so annoyed reading these responses that the guy basically doesn't have to adhere to etiquette because he's a man.
Women - WE SUCK!! Honestly, we are so freaking awful to one another, and here is the proof, that we don't expect a grown man to write out a stupid thank you card for HIS PARTY. I'm 9832492837429874938 times busier than my DH. I work more hours, I have more responsibility than he does, but I'm the one who will get judged for not writing a thank you card.
Meanwhile, I currently have my 8 year old daughter hand-writing her thank you cards for her communion. Lest she be judged... (and she's doing a great freakin job)
And I'd also never let my DH write out a thank you card on my behalf because he'd do a terrible job.
I'm going to teach my son better than this.
Don't mind my rant, the truth in it is what bothers me.
But women are the ones sending thank yous AND judging the thank yous. Men are just bowing out of the nonsense altogether. It's kind of the same reason why men don't have bridal or baby showers.
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| Posted 5/25/16 2:15 PM |
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eroxgirl
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Posted by WonderLady
Posted by eroxgirl
Posted by 2girls2love
What I find so interesting about this ....
Some responses are giving a guy a pass with the TY note, simply because its a guy in this particular scenario.
Not to start a debate or anything, but this is what I immediately noticed.
YESSSS! I'm so annoyed reading these responses that the guy basically doesn't have to adhere to etiquette because he's a man.
Women - WE SUCK!! Honestly, we are so freaking awful to one another, and here is the proof, that we don't expect a grown man to write out a stupid thank you card for HIS PARTY. I'm 9832492837429874938 times busier than my DH. I work more hours, I have more responsibility than he does, but I'm the one who will get judged for not writing a thank you card.
Meanwhile, I currently have my 8 year old daughter hand-writing her thank you cards for her communion. Lest she be judged... (and she's doing a great freakin job)
And I'd also never let my DH write out a thank you card on my behalf because he'd do a terrible job.
I'm going to teach my son better than this.
Don't mind my rant, the truth in it is what bothers me.
But women are the ones sending thank yous AND judging the thank yous. Men are just bowing out of the nonsense altogether. It's kind of the same reason why men don't have bridal or baby showers.
Yes, that's exactly why I'm saying that we suck as women. We do horrible, horrible things to each other. It bugs me that anyone would judge a woman for not sending a thank you card for her birthday party but not judge her husband for the same. It's ridiculous.
However, my DH was at our bridal shower, and he does use the same iron, eats off the same dishes, etc. etc... so that was for him too. AS was the baby shower, which he was also there for, because it was also his baby.
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| Posted 5/25/16 2:33 PM |
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Hopefulmama
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Message edited 7/22/2016 6:25:12 AM.
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| Posted 5/25/16 10:16 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
I couldn't care less if I even receive one
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| Posted 5/26/16 7:47 AM |
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Kitten1929
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Posted by Hopefulmama
Honestly if validation is your primary motivation for sending my kids a gift, then please - skip it !
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| Posted 5/26/16 8:10 AM |
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JennP
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Posted by eroxgirl
Posted by WonderLady
Posted by eroxgirl
Posted by 2girls2love
What I find so interesting about this ....
Some responses are giving a guy a pass with the TY note, simply because its a guy in this particular scenario.
Not to start a debate or anything, but this is what I immediately noticed.
YESSSS! I'm so annoyed reading these responses that the guy basically doesn't have to adhere to etiquette because he's a man.
Women - WE SUCK!! Honestly, we are so freaking awful to one another, and here is the proof, that we don't expect a grown man to write out a stupid thank you card for HIS PARTY. I'm 9832492837429874938 times busier than my DH. I work more hours, I have more responsibility than he does, but I'm the one who will get judged for not writing a thank you card.
Meanwhile, I currently have my 8 year old daughter hand-writing her thank you cards for her communion. Lest she be judged... (and she's doing a great freakin job)
And I'd also never let my DH write out a thank you card on my behalf because he'd do a terrible job.
I'm going to teach my son better than this.
Don't mind my rant, the truth in it is what bothers me.
But women are the ones sending thank yous AND judging the thank yous. Men are just bowing out of the nonsense altogether. It's kind of the same reason why men don't have bridal or baby showers.
Yes, that's exactly why I'm saying that we suck as women. We do horrible, horrible things to each other. It bugs me that anyone would judge a woman for not sending a thank you card for her birthday party but not judge her husband for the same. It's ridiculous.
However, my DH was at our bridal shower, and he does use the same iron, eats off the same dishes, etc. etc... so that was for him too. AS was the baby shower, which he was also there for, because it was also his baby.
ITA
When my DH turned 40 we were sucked in to throwing this big bash (his twin brother wanted it .) My SIL and I said no gifts but there were still a handful and my DH wrote a note for each of them and I would never have expected him not to.
Men should not be excused. They'll write it in their own style and that's fine!
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| Posted 5/26/16 8:25 AM |
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Posted by Kitten1929
Exactly! My DH would probably write, "thanks for coming to my party dickbag" or something equally dudespeak.
I can totally picture DH doing something like this.
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Re: Thank you's - generic message or handwitten?
Posted by Kitten1929
Exactly! My DH would probably write, "thanks for coming to my party dickbag" or something equally dudespeak.
My DH wrote out one thank you card for our wedding. It was to one of his friends and it was something to the effect of "Yo Bro, thanks so much for coming to the wedding. You're the best dude". This was after 30 mins of him starting at a blank card, unsure of what to say. After that I promptly took the pen and paper away from him and wrote the rest myself.
FWIW my DH does a LOT around our house. And he works very hard. Writing was never ever his strong suit and quite frankly in the amount of time it takes him to write one card, I could do 10. I don't think I am teaching my son bad manners because my DH doesn't write out thank you's. Then again I couldn't care less if I get a thank you card whether it be handwritten or pre-printed so obviously I am raising wild animals over at my house.
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