Thank you ladies!

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Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

I don't think anyone would flame you for doing what works for you and your family! We all have our methods and ways of coping...babies are so, so different and what works for some may not work for others...

With that being said, the only caveat i can think of is that at 6 weeks it may be hard to really know what your babies sleep patterns are going to be. I think around the 6 week mark is the time when most babies learn night vs. day and start to sleep more at night and up more throughout the day. The last few weeks for you guys may have really just been the fact that his nervous system is still so immature and they don't act the same way as when they hit 6 weeks and past...

Hoping you get many more sleep filled nights!!! If its working for you, continue and don't worry!! We all try whatever we can to get more sleep, me included

Edited b/c I have a question...do you still feed bottles at all during the night? I think my son still needed to be fed once during the night at that age..

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Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

I think that my personal objections with letting a baby that small CIO are more to do with the physical implications rather than the emotional. Letting a small baby get hysterical is really stressful on their tiny nervous system, their blood pressure raises and in general, there is a lot of physical strain, and I believe some level of pain involved. When Noah was circumcised the Mohel told me not to let him get hysterical as it can cause problems with bleeding and blood clots. I don't claim to know all the answers, this is just what I believe to be true.

ETA to say that I think its a lot for you to expect a baby that small to have set sleeping patterns, I think what you were describing are all normal for a newborn. Even now, with a 16 month old, sleeping patterns change on an almost daily basis! Last night we were up for 4 hours in the night...

But if you feel that it works for you, go with it!

Message edited 5/15/2007 9:14:59 AM.

Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

He is only 6 weeks??
I think that is young for CIO, but if it worked then that is GREAT

Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

Posted by maybebaby

I don't think anyone would flame you for doing what works for you and your family! We all have our methods and ways of coping...babies are so, so different and what works for some may not work for others...

With that being said, the only caveat i can think of is that at 6 weeks it may be hard to really know what your babies sleep patterns are going to be. I think around the 6 week mark is the time when most babies learn night vs. day and start to sleep more at night and up more throughout the day. The last few weeks for you guys may have really just been the fact that his nervous system is still so immature and they don't act the same way as when they hit 6 weeks and past...

Hoping you get many more sleep filled nights!!! If its working for you, continue and don't worry!! We all try whatever we can to get more sleep, me included

Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

Posted by Diane

He is only 6 weeks??
I think that is young for CIO, but if it worked then that is GREAT

Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

Posted by lipglossjunky73

Posted by Diane

He is only 6 weeks??
I think that is young for CIO, but if it worked then that is GREAT

I know - I thought for sure it would be, and didnt want to do it, but DH assured me he did this with his daughters - and they are fine now! It was hard and I was against it until the 2nd night, when I saw he was going down easier. Last night sold me!

Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

I'm glad you're having better nights. Another caveat, though, babies sleep patterns change a lot during the first few months. DS started sleeping very well around 4 to 6 weeks (without any sleep training methods). I think it was just part of his natural development. That pattern changed a lot around 4 months when I went back to work.

At 6 months, he'll have nights that he sleeps very well and nights that he needs to fed depending on whether he is teething, having a growth spurt, having a reaction to shots, etc. If you feel CIO is right for you, that's your business, but please remember that many babies do have legitimate needs in the middle of the night and don't be disappointed if you find his sleep "regressing" here and there.

Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

Please don't take me the wrong way, because I am not the be all and end all of taking care of a baby. But, this is my opinion.

I think that if you are going to do that at night, then it's great that it worked for you. HOWEVER, I don't believe that you should hold him "all day" like you said. I am a firm believer in teaching a baby to play on their own (whith you watching them, of course). If Cailen is fine playing on the floor in his gym, or whatever, then leave him there. Then, when he gets fussy or begins to cry, then tend to his needs. Yes, it is nice to hold your baby, but it is also nice to watch them play and develop their skills.

My point being that I don't think it's fair to him to hold him all day long then to not pick him up at all at night. My opinon (and, it is just that...an opinon) is that instead of letting him cry it out, perhaps you can comfort him at night without picking him up. I did that with DS and still do and it works great! It may take a few nights for him to get used to, but he will.

On another note, I'm so glad you are finally getting some sleep

Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

Here is my absolute, honest & repeated at nausea opinion...

WHATEVER WORKS FOR YOU

Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

Good for you. The earlier you get them into good sleeping habits, the easier it will be for them and you later on.

Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

As most everyone else said you have to do what works for you and your family.

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I'm so glad you found a solution that works for you guys! I can tell you, coming from a mommy who went back to work full-time as a litigation attorney, when her sleepless daughter was 8 weeks old, was a freakin' nightmare, and I had SEVERAL SEVERAL mental breakdowns, that finding a solution is essential.

The whole CIO thing is controversial, but keep in mind, MANY of our parents let us CIO at very young ages - in fact, my mother told me she let all of us CIO when we were just a few weeks old. Seems harsh, but at the same time, learning how to soothe yourself and fall asleep without any "aids" is an essential skill, and in the end, most of us are very happy, well-adjusted adults who have absolutely NO memory of crying it out at 6 weeks old And, there are many other ways to shower your baby with love and affection other than rocking him endlessly all hours of the night, creating an unhappy mommy, a sleep deprived baby, and all around miserable situation. So, do what works for you, and kudos for finding a solution that works!

Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

Posted by pmpkn087

Please don't take me the wrong way, because I am not the be all and end all of taking care of a baby. But, this is my opinion.

I think that if you are going to do that at night, then it's great that it worked for you. HOWEVER, I don't believe that you should hold him "all day" like you said. I am a firm believer in teaching a baby to play on their own (whith you watching them, of course). If Cailen is fine playing on the floor in his gym, or whatever, then leave him there. Then, when he gets fussy or begins to cry, then tend to his needs. Yes, it is nice to hold your baby, but it is also nice to watch them play and develop their skills.

My point being that I don't think it's fair to him to hold him all day long then to not pick him up at all at night. My opinon (and, it is just that...an opinon) is that instead of letting him cry it out, perhaps you can comfort him at night without picking him up. I did that with DS and still do and it works great! It may take a few nights for him to get used to, but he will.

On another note, I'm so glad you are finally getting some sleep

Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

I think you are a great mama!!! You have to do what you think is right for you and your family!!! It is hard in the beginning and I know what you mean about having to leave the room, because you want to pick the up so bad. They learn fast though. I did the same thing with my DD at about the same time and she has been sleeping through the night since about 7 weeks.

GO LIZA!!!!!

Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

based upon what i read and what my pediatrican said you cannot spoil a child before the age of 6 months and CIO should start then and not sooner.

have you tried swaddling your son? they like the comfort. He was is you stomach for 9 months and felt secure and he probalby needs that again. also how many naps does he take during the day and for how long?

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I wholeheartedly agree with Rachee and Dragonfly.

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Im glad this worked for you!!!

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Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

Message edited 5/15/2007 11:57:39 AM.

Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

Posted by racheeeee

I think that my personal objections with letting a baby that small CIO are more to do with the physical implications rather than the emotional. Letting a small baby get hysterical is really stressful on their tiny nervous system, their blood pressure raises and in general, there is a lot of physical strain, and I believe some level of pain involved. When Noah was circumcised the Mohel told me not to let him get hysterical as it can cause problems with bleeding and blood clots. I don't claim to know all the answers, this is just what I believe to be true.

ETA to say that I think its a lot for you to expect a baby that small to have set sleeping patterns, I think what you were describing are all normal for a newborn. Even now, with a 16 month old, sleeping patterns change on an almost daily basis! Last night we were up for 4 hours in the night...

But if you feel that it works for you, go with it!

Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

Posted by dm24angel

Posted by racheeeee

I think that my personal objections with letting a baby that small CIO are more to do with the physical implications rather than the emotional. Letting a small baby get hysterical is really stressful on their tiny nervous system, their blood pressure raises and in general, there is a lot of physical strain, and I believe some level of pain involved. When Noah was circumcised the Mohel told me not to let him get hysterical as it can cause problems with bleeding and blood clots. I don't claim to know all the answers, this is just what I believe to be true.

ETA to say that I think its a lot for you to expect a baby that small to have set sleeping patterns, I think what you were describing are all normal for a newborn. Even now, with a 16 month old, sleeping patterns change on an almost daily basis! Last night we were up for 4 hours in the night...

But if you feel that it works for you, go with it!

i agree ...and to be honest, I would suggest you even speak to your pediatrician and let them know what your doing and make sure they say its safe.

I have never heard of letting a 6 week old CIO...Due to health reasons as well as emotional...

Its great that it worked, but I have a feeling, it didnt really work, he was just exhausted from crying.... 6 week olds dont have the mental capacity a 6 month old does.....

Re: OK - I know some of you are not going to agree with this - but it worked (sleep related)

Posted by dm24angel

Posted by racheeeee

I think that my personal objections with letting a baby that small CIO are more to do with the physical implications rather than the emotional. Letting a small baby get hysterical is really stressful on their tiny nervous system, their blood pressure raises and in general, there is a lot of physical strain, and I believe some level of pain involved. When Noah was circumcised the Mohel told me not to let him get hysterical as it can cause problems with bleeding and blood clots. I don't claim to know all the answers, this is just what I believe to be true.

ETA to say that I think its a lot for you to expect a baby that small to have set sleeping patterns, I think what you were describing are all normal for a newborn. Even now, with a 16 month old, sleeping patterns change on an almost daily basis! Last night we were up for 4 hours in the night...

But if you feel that it works for you, go with it!

i agree ...and to be honest, I would suggest you even speak to your pediatrician and let them know what your doing and make sure they say its safe.

I have never heard of letting a 6 week old CIO...Due to health reasons as well as emotional...

Its great that it worked, but I have a feeling, it didnt really work, he was just exhausted from crying.... 6 week olds dont have the mental capacity a 6 month old does.....