Re: Tell me this is a normal feeling or at least that it gets better....

It's really, really hard in the beginning. Your whole being is focused on the baby.

Around three months things get much, much better. You're doing great, and you'll get through this!

Re: Tell me this is a normal feeling or at least that it gets better....

Normal. It took us a good six months to start feeling normal again. I had a baby who was so miserable, once he started to sit up and crawl, he started to be wonderful and the whole mothering thing fell into place.

I think its supposed to be horrible the first few months! Keep your pecker up! It will get better!

Re: Tell me this is a normal feeling or at least that it gets better....

It is completely normal.

Remember the thread that we introduced ourselves?

I think almost every person described parenting as the "the hardest, but most rewarding".

The rewarding part starts about 6 weeks.

Your entire life has been turned upside down by this little stranger that came to live with you. It is a HUGE adjustment.

It will absolutely get better.

If there is any chance you can enlist some help to get a break or at least some sleep, please do it.

Message edited 7/8/2007 8:36:17 AM.

Re: Tell me this is a normal feeling or at least that it gets better....

The things that get me going (aside from sleep deprivation and wondering why on Earth I read that BF was best...now I can't stop without thinking I would be selfish since this is so beneficial to him), are seeing him sleeping so peaceflly on me, how fast he is growing, how more alert he is every day, etc..

I hated being PG, the recovery from the delivery was brutal, DH and I have not done anything for ourselves in 2 weeks except get naps when we can. All we do revolve around him or helping me to take care of him.... but you know what. In the end, it was worse it. I know it will get better. DH is going back to work tomorrow. Another milestone to go over since I will have to take care of our 2 dogs in addition to the baby.

Hang in there!!!!

Re: Tell me this is a normal feeling or at least that it gets better....

Posted by johnsae

Right now it just seems like such a thankless job

This really struck a chord with me because this is how I described the first weeks of motherhood. I felt like I was do ing everything humanly possible for this little one and I had no idea whether or not she liked me or liked what we were doing. What you are feeling is totally normal. I felt that way for the first month. Once DD began to smile and interact, I really started to enjoy motherhood more.

Message edited 7/8/2007 9:15:42 AM.

Re: Tell me this is a normal feeling or at least that it gets better....

Totally normal...I think every one of us cold have written that in the beginning

Re: Tell me this is a normal feeling or at least that it gets better....

Normal and it will get better.
A baby is some major adjustment and being sleep deprived is the worst.
Hang in there....

Re: Tell me this is a normal feeling or at least that it gets better....

I was the same way. It does get better.

Re: Tell me this is a normal feeling or at least that it gets better....

DH and I argued A LOT during the first week or two... its a lot of stress with not sleeping and caring for the needs of a newborn! But happy to report that things will get better!! As the baby starts sleeping more at night, and as you start getting into more of a routine things will get easier! And now DH and I are closer than we've ever been! Hang in there!!

Re: Tell me this is a normal feeling or at least that it gets better....

I was feeling the same way...thank god my mother in law has been here with me since the second day. Is there someone else that can help you through the night?

Re: Tell me this is a normal feeling or at least that it gets better....

I think pretty much everyone on this board has felt the same way as you do. At 4 months, Taylor is starting to sleep from 8pm-545am and I feel like a human being again.
DH and I were married only 5 months before Taylor's arrival, and so we are still getting used to being married and living together, while also sharing space for a baby... very overwhelming.
However....4 days ago, we heard Taylor laugh for the first time....a pure, happy laugh....we were amazed, it made me so happy to be a mom!!

Re: Tell me this is a normal feeling or at least that it gets better....

Alicia i am starting to feel the same way. DS is only 2 weeks old today and DH and I havent had any time for ourselves. I dont really talk to him much anymore b/c i am doing so much for the baby. I feel a little disconnected from DH but I know it will get better. My DS is kind of fussy so that makes things a bit tiring.