spinoff to "no presents," wishlists

How do we feel about wishlists at Toys R Us for birthdays and holidays? I'm not a fan.

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I like them I don't necessarily feel obligated to buy off of it, like with a bridal or baby registry, but it gives me a better idea of what the kid is into.

Message edited 7/26/2012 2:59:12 PM.

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I love them. I feel like I never know what the kid is really into, what toys they already have, etc.
It's a wish list not a must buy list.

I rather give a gift that the child wants, and will use then something that sits in a closet or gets thrown out/regifted.

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This topic can sometimes bring out some drama depending on the responses. For ME personally I despise wishlists. I know people will say it's so much more convenient and what not but I just don't like them and I never will.

We did not have one for DD 1st birthday and she still got some very wonderful gifts. I never had really even heard of a wishlist before LIF. If I wanted to get a gift for a friend's child I would call them up and say "hey what does your kid like?" and include a gift receipt. People did the same for me and asked if she needed anything in particular. Some friends I told clothes and others I said toys. She got plenty of both!

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I see absolutely nothing wrong with them, but I wouldn't put it on the invitation - it feels more like a word of mouth thing to me. I am creating one for my boys first birthday.

I never know what to get my cousins kids for the holidays, birthdays, etc. They have almost everything. I wish they'd make a wish list so I'd know what their parents think they'd enjoy.

I don't get it - what's so bad about having ideas available for your guests? Would you rather field a million questions from everyone about what your kids like and get duplicates?

No one is forced to buy off a wish list, just like no one is forced to buy off a bridal shower registry.

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I use it, only for close family though.

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Never had one for my dc. And never encountered one in an invite. If i did though i would definately check it out and if I saw something on there within the price range i was going to spend anyway I would buy something off the list.

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I like them. You know you are going to bring a present to a b-day party, I would rather get them something they want/like rather them having to return it...to each his own.

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i love them!!! wish everyone had them so i know what to get the kid!!!

I wouldnt be offended if it was on an invite at all.

With that said; i created on for my DD it was combo xmas and 1st bday gift (they are less than 10 days apart). I did it mostly for me to keep track of everything i would like to get her.

If someone asked me i say anythign they want if the said they want something more specfic i would tell them about the wish list so they can pick what they wanted.

I did not have a big 1st bday party so no invites were sent out but for future i would not put the wish list info on the invite simply cause i know people might get offended. If someone asks though i will tell them.

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I find them very useful and i know a lot of people do.

I figure, if people are going to feel obligated to buy a gift they should at least waste their money on something they know for sure he likes.

ETA: I don't put his wishlist on the invite b/c it's a rolling list. I post it on my fb for anyone who wants access to it to see.

Message edited 7/26/2012 3:41:38 PM.

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I like them. I'd hate to get a kid a toy they already have.

And as the party host, it's easiest to tell someone who asks what they want to check the wishlist. I don't put the wishlist on the invite though.

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We do birthday and Christmas wishlists for immediate family. My son has many Aunts, and they all ask what to buy. They want specifics, and we find it's easier this way.

We do not do wishlists for friends and non-family. DS has yet to have a bday party with non-family yet, so this hasn't been an issue.

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I initially thought they were tacky but now I think they are useful. I don't have the time to make one for my son's birthday but it would behoove me to find the time rather than answer the constant question of "So what can I get the baby?"

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Posted by MrsPJB2007





This topic can sometimes bring out some drama depending on the responses. For ME personally I despise wishlists. I know people will say it's so much more convenient and what not but I just don't like them and I never will.

We did not have one for DD 1st birthday and she still got some very wonderful gifts. I never had really even heard of a wishlist before LIF. If I wanted to get a gift for a friend's child I would call them up and say "hey what does your kid like?" and include a gift receipt. People did the same for me and asked if she needed anything in particular. Some friends I told clothes and others I said toys. She got plenty of both!

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I think its a great idea. Its SO much easier to get the child something they WANT and dont have. I often ask the parent. When its my child I kind of spread the word to at leat my family members. Otherwise we get 3 of the same toy.

This year my son wants a new bike which is expensive so I told my sister and theyre all going to give us a toys r us gift card so he can put them together and pick it out. Much better IMO than something he will never play with.

I wish my family would do this for christmas and everything, especially the adults! Its so hard to buy for someone who can get anything they want. KWIM?

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LOOOOOVE them!!! Love when other people have them for their kids (makes my job easier) and I love them for myself.

My DD will be 4 this September and I've had a Wish List every year for her birthday and Xmas since she was born. It's a godsend. I have a BIG family and EVERYONE buys for her plus there is also my DH's side of the family and our friends......ALL of which buy for her.

Honestly, if I didn't have the Wish List I'd have to field 4,000 texts and emails asking me what she needs, what she likes, what she wants, what size she wears etc. It gets crazy trying to remember who I told what to get. The Wish List eliminates that hassle plus I don't have to deal with things that aren't age appropriate or duplicates. I love it, no complaints!

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I like them..... no I wouldn't put it on an invite..... But we use them so dh's family can buy for us instead of running around to all the stores, and we can add durring the year when we see something.

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Love then when I have a party to go to and love them for my dd! I would much rather get kids gifts they want then guess or get them something they can't really use.

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I don't know anyone IRL that uses them for birthday parties. I still field the calls and emails asking what my kids like.

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I find them extremely useful and I have made up wishlists in the past. I never advertise it nor do I expect people to only buy things from it. If they happen to look it up, it's just a list of suggestions for those who can't decide what to get. I always search for a wishlist when invited to birthday parties or during the holidays.

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I have no issue with them.

If I use them, I tell my immediate family, it's never put on an invitation.

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I wish everyone had them.

I made a small one for family.

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Posted by MrsPJB2007





This topic can sometimes bring out some drama depending on the responses. For ME personally I despise wishlists. I know people will say it's so much more convenient and what not but I just don't like them and I never will.

We did not have one for DD 1st birthday and she still got some very wonderful gifts. I never had really even heard of a wishlist before LIF. If I wanted to get a gift for a friend's child I would call them up and say "hey what does your kid like?" and include a gift receipt. People did the same for me and asked if she needed anything in particular. Some friends I told clothes and others I said toys. She got plenty of both!

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I love them! It makes it easier for me to pick out something for the child and not think uh oh what if they have it and it is something they wanted.

I also make them for my kids parties and xmas. My DS#1 bday id dec 8th and we have xmas. So I make a list for him and on his invites I write..."Gift ideas are available on amazon.com"

From feedback from people, they love it.

Also we have a HUGE family and they are all emailing me or calling...what do I get them? Also both our parents are divorced and remarried so my kids have 4 sets of grandparents and they can shop til they drop on those lists and no one will repeat and feel funny. Like DS loves batman and one grandparent buy a powerwheels and is so excited to give it to him to see that another grandparent had gotten the same thing. Plus they don't necessarily tell me what they get my kids.

So for us it is great.
Also my boys are huge boys and we are always getting the wrong size clothes and by the time I exchange them the cost of them is marked to 2.00! So Also on the wishlist I am able to put a couple of things from old navy and they can see his sizes and things....which helps

Wishlists are not for everyone but it really helps out my family and friends.

ETA: I really love amazon bc it doesnt force someone to use toys r us. they can get it somewhere else like Marshalls and pay a 1/4 of the price and they can take it off the list. Or they can get a similar toy and take it off the list

Message edited 7/27/2012 9:39:32 AM.