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mommy2bella
Where does time go?
Member since 12/05 9747 total posts
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Kelly
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Re: speaking of exes- those of you who know me& my ex husband story....
what a freakin' small world we live...I mean, the SAME block.
As many of these PP's say without really knowing you as well as I do, you are beyond a warm and caring person and to have picked up ithe phone to wish him well; you have to see that are in quite the minority of people I know that would have the courage, strength, and goodwill to do this after all you went through.
I hope he does use this as a springboard to truly get better...but he is still a b astard for not realizing the beautiful thing right in front of him even as you promised to help him.
Many hugs to you and cheers to a 2007 filled with the all the happiness you deserve.
Love you
Message edited 12/27/2006 7:55:28 PM.
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sasha96
lovin' my 2 little ladies!
Member since 5/05 7401 total posts
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Julianne
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Re: speaking of exes- those of you who know me& my ex husband story....
It sounds like you are still strong as I remember reading your posts at the time. It sounds like he is trying to make amends and recognizes to some degree what he has done. At least you have moved on and were able to respond to his contact, despite the hurt and anger that are all a part of having this brought up. At least he is moving and hasn't approached you prior to this on your block. 
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| Posted 12/27/06 8:02 PM |
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SoinLove
Making big changes
Member since 5/05 16541 total posts
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Kristin
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Re: speaking of exes- those of you who know me& my ex husband story....
Posted by LRusso
Honestly....I think it's good he realizes how he ruined the marriage and that he's sorry (if it's genuine) for his mistakes.
Certainly like you said you don't want to get back...so if this is his way of angling to get back, let him know that although you appreciate his apologies, you've moved on.
I agree
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| Posted 12/27/06 8:50 PM |
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MrsJ
I love my Katie Bug
Member since 5/05 11357 total posts
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Kathy
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Re: speaking of exes- those of you who know me& my ex husband story....
just some hugs, stay strong, i think you did the right thing leaving a msg
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| Posted 12/27/06 9:04 PM |
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Tah-wee-ZAH
Kisses
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Re: speaking of exes- those of you who know me& my ex husband story....
Posted by BNL2005
if he is in AA or NA, part of the process is to ask forgiveness/make amneds. seems like he is doing that here, not asking for you back, just letting you know that he is sorry for what he did. i think you handled it the best way you could.
Yes, I agree. I wouldn't read too much into his letter. It is a standard step in recovery that they contact everyone in their past "who they did wrong to" and make ammends.
A couple of years ago DH got a phone call one evening from a girl he went to high school with. She was calling to apologize for the way she acted "that time at the party" At first DH barely remembered her, he had to look her up in the yearbook, and it took him days later to remember the incident but apparently she felt he was one of the people she hurt over the years.
I'd just accept it, secretly wish him well, but keep on moving forward with your life w/o him.
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| Posted 12/27/06 9:26 PM |
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nrthshgrl
It goes fast. Pay attention.
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Re: speaking of exes- those of you who know me& my ex husband story....
Posted by sweetie
It's nice that you sent him an encouraging message. Only you know when you'll be ready to forgive him (if you ever do).
Just focus on yourself & stay positive
I agree. You did more than what was necessary with leaving a phone message. I'm sure it hurts when someone picks at a deep wound no matter how many layers of skins heal over it.
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| Posted 12/27/06 11:18 PM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
Member since 7/05 32475 total posts
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Susan
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Re: speaking of exes- those of you who know me& my ex husband story....
Posted by BNL2005
if he is in AA or NA, part of the process is to ask forgiveness/make amneds. seems like he is doing that here, not asking for you back, just letting you know that he is sorry for what he did. i think you handled it the best way you could.
agreed. It's part of the 12 steps. He may have done that with some other people as well. You handled in perfectly although I know it must have been hard to hear from him.
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| Posted 12/28/06 9:24 AM |
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CaseyGirl
Mommy to 3 Boys :)
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Jen - counting my blessings...
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Re: speaking of exes- those of you who know me& my ex husband story....
FM
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| Posted 12/28/06 10:29 AM |
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curliegirl
He's here!!!!
Member since 3/06 10128 total posts
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Gina
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Re: speaking of exes- those of you who know me& my ex husband story....
Posted by rose825
Posted by BNL2005
if he is in AA or NA, part of the process is to ask forgiveness/make amneds. seems like he is doing that here, not asking for you back, just letting you know that he is sorry for what he did. i think you handled it the best way you could.
I agree, AA is a 12 step program and you are suppose to work through 1 step at a time. #8 and #9 are:
Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
I think you did the right thing, and hopefully you both can gain some closure from it. I know how hard it must have been for you.
Yes, this is what I was going to say.
I wouldn't look into too much more than this. I hope everyting works out for you and him and you can continue your life in a good way.
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| Posted 12/28/06 10:37 AM |
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