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MaMaTeenie
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Should i be concerned that DS is a follower?
Anyone with experience, moms, dads, educators....anyone? DS is 4 and he has always been and is still a follower. He picks out a kid or 2 in school or at the playground and follows them everywhere. In school he only wants to play with the same 2 kids and no one else. Last year he was 1 of 4 boys so it was understandable that they all stuck together, but now he has befriended 2 boys in his class and always wants to play with them/sit with them etc and sometimes they get annoyed with him. Ours friends have a son who is 7mos older than DS so they have always been close. We went to their block party and the other boy had neighbor friends and cousins there so he played with DS, but not the WHOLE time and DS was very upset by that, following him around all day til he started to get bothered by it. I mean granted he didn't really know anyone else, but DH and I tried to do things with him to distract him and he is really friendly and makes friends easily, but he just wanted to be attached to his friends hip. So far he doesn't follow anyone doing things he shouldn't do, but I worry about that in the future also.
What should/can I do if anything? Any advice is welcomed.
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Re: Should i be concerned that DS is a follower?
I don't have any good advice, but wow you just described my 4 yr old DS to a T!!!! He also tends to get close to just a couple kids each year at school, he kind of just attaches himself to them, and he also doesn't enjoy "sharing" them with other kids.
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| Posted 10/1/10 1:07 PM |
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Elbee
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Re: Should i be concerned that DS is a follower?
DS (aged 3) is the same way with his cousin Angelina. She can do no wrong and he follows her like a puppy. He gets Soo jealous if she wants to play with her girl cousins.
Message edited 10/1/2010 1:13:15 PM.
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| Posted 10/1/10 1:12 PM |
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: Should i be concerned that DS is a follower?
Thanks ladies.
Anyone else?
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| Posted 10/1/10 4:30 PM |
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: Should i be concerned that DS is a follower?
Anyone?
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| Posted 10/1/10 7:04 PM |
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LoriH
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Re: Should i be concerned that DS is a follower?
I don't have a child that age, so I am not sure if it is typical. From the outside looking at in, I do not think I would be concerned but I would try to work on it. Maybe do more playdates with different kids or some open play so he learns how to play with and interact with many different kids.
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| Posted 10/1/10 7:49 PM |
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: Should i be concerned that DS is a follower?
Posted by LoriH
I don't have a child that age, so I am not sure if it is typical. From the outside looking at in, I do not think I would be concerned but I would try to work on it. Maybe do more playdates with different kids or some open play so he learns how to play with and interact with many different kids.
Thank you for responding. I truely appreciate it. We have done tons of playdates and mommy and me's and all kinds of things and he does great, but always seems to attach himself to one or two kids. Even at the park with complete strangers and even if they already have a little group of friends playing. He just jumps right in and attaches himself to them. Sometimes if they are older they will start to exclude him or run away and he just let's them, but keeps following them anyway. I try to tell him to play with someone else. I try to talk about doing his own thong without making it a huge thing ya know.
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| Posted 10/1/10 8:12 PM |
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LoriH
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Re: Should i be concerned that DS is a follower?
Wish I could be of help buI don't have any experience. Maybe try a cross post to the school aged board. Not sure how much traffic it gets but there may be a few BTDT that don't venture here anymore.
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| Posted 10/1/10 11:31 PM |
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: Should i be concerned that DS is a follower?
Posted by LoriH
Wish I could be of help buI don't have any experience. Maybe try a cross post to the school aged board. Not sure how much traffic it gets but there may be a few BTDT that don't venture here anymore.
Thank you, I will do that 
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| Posted 10/4/10 11:17 AM |
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MommaG
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Re: Should i be concerned that DS is a follower?
My DS is the opposite - he is the one all the kids follow around. After pre-school, all the kids would run around the school yard after him yelling his name. Not sure why he evokes that type of response. Most kids are the followers and I don't think there's anything wrong with that - they see a child they like and they want to spend time with them.
DS just started kindergarten so it's difficult to tell if he's still the leader or now a follower since I don't get to see him interact with his classmates. I imagine the teacher will tell us at conference time.
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| Posted 10/4/10 7:09 PM |
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