When my mom threw my bridal shower it was a bit wee crazy with the amount of people. There were people from DH’s side that were requested by MIL to be there. At first my mom wanted to throw it with just close people because the size of my family was insane. My mom didn’t want to cause any friction so she accepted the guest list from my MIL at my mom’s cost. My MIL didn’t even offer to pay for them.

Now that my baby shower is coming up and my mom told me to help her with just a list of the friends she doesn’t know about on my side she asked about those people as well. I told my mom to strictly making just Aunts, 1st cousins and friends. At my bridal party there were 85 people, the baby shower guest list is more around 40 and I would much rather have this way.

OK here’s my question…Do you think MIL will get offended that my mom is not inviting those other people and do you think those other people will get offended? They were just close friends of my DH’s parents and some like 2nd and 3rd cousin.

One party has nothing to do with the other right? Also, since DH and I would like to plan a beautiful christening for our little one, we do need to watch the wallet. So pretty much those that will be invited to my shower are the ones that will be going to the christening and we’re already looking at around 80 people there.