Perfect- Another Child of mine with seperation anxiety (kinda long)

Is it me? Maybe I'm creating this? ...Well no, can't be because Sydney is NOTHING at all like this.

I actually searched my posts for when Noah was Chloe's age and I wrote a post at the same age about the SAME issue, and its like she is HIS twin.

I don't think I did well with Noah base don his current issues, so HOW do I fix this? Nurture this? Make her feel secure?????

Add to it , she is a twin and one of 3 kids and forget it, she is a nutball lunatic trying to get my attention. LOL...She will jump up and down and her arms are CONSTANTLY in the air in the " pick me up" motion....She even follows me in the walker with her arms up in the air and she will grab my clothes if I get close enough.

It's not like I'm ignoring them either, I'm always on the floor playing with them etc, but I need to get some things done in a day.

I call her my Monkey b/c I swear she attaches to me like a monkey baby to it's mom. She literally wraps her arms and legs around me and holds on tight. If we are sitting playing, she cannot be " next" to me...she has to come over, pulls on my shirt to stand up and grabs me and just holds onto me...

YET...she is a spitfire...She wants to go go go...but I have to be go go GOING with her!
She wants to bounce and walk and I'm her big old playtoy.

This kid EXHAUSTS ME.

If I leave the room to go to the bathroom, do laundry..anything she screams these horrible sobs as if I was going forever. Even if I go to the OTHER SIDE OF THE ROOM.

She is now not sleeping well at all. Wants to be rocked to sleep.

When I put her in her crib, I say goodnight, go to turn and it's like she's possesed...She will reach out and GRAB my arm and just cling to it.

It's almost funny, family members etc laugh...but I cannot have this. I don't mind her being a bit more needy etc, dealt with that with Noah, but the sleeping will kill me.

And am I suppossed to let this phase out? Or should I take active steps to help her feel secure and HOW?!?!?!

I just want to do things "right" this time..Ok..not right...just better kwim?

TIA for reading and any suggestions helpful.

Oh and the weird thing is she WILL go to other people, she will be ok with other if I'm not there, it's if she see's me, she has to be attached to me.

Re: Perfect- Another Child of mine with seperation anxiety (kinda long)

LOL...that's my Ayla! She's been his way since she was 9 months and she is still this way now. Just not as bad as before though. Amelia is extremely clingy too, but Ayla's separation anxiety is worse. I have no advice. My problem is that even though at times it gets really annoying, I didn't have this with my oldest Dc. My oldest was independent from day one and NEVER clinged to me or looked twice where I was. so when AYla and AMelia started this I was like Awhhhh.
My DD is 3 and if I walk upstairs she hears me and folows me even if she was playing nicely with her sister. She needs to see me at all times. Again no advice and I'm guilty of liking it a tad bit b/c I've had the opposite.