On the nanny search again...

We fired our last nanny about 2 weeks ago.

We started our kids at an in-home daycare this morning.

I can't place why exactly...but I felt like the scum of the earth leaving them there. It didn't feel right. It didn't feel like the right decision.

so, here I go...using my 2nd and final personal day (a.k.a. "mental health day") to try to find my kids a competent nanny.

I hate this.

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Where do you live? My cousin provides in home nanny services and she is so wonderful!

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Did you try care.com?

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Oh no...what made you have that feeling?

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Posted by CaseyGirl

Oh no...what made you have that feeling?

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Have you ever thought about hosting an au pair? We are on year number two with an au pair and we love it. Any questions feel free to FM

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People swear by Care.com

Sorry it didn't work out.

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Thanks everybody.

I *thought* I was ok with the in-home daycare. But you know that "mommy gut feeling" you get sometimes? When you know something is not right, but can't place what, or why? I left them there today and I just lost it.

I feel extremely guilty that we can't afford to send them BOTH to the daycare that we used for Ryleigh when she was an infant (and that she still goes to 2 mornings per week). It's such a stellar place, but for me to send both my kids there, it wouldn't make much sense for me to be working.

There are a few things about the in-home daycare that bother me:

1. She is not licensed.
2. She smokes (never in the house, and has sworn to me up and down that she doesn't smoke at all when the kids are around, even outside...whether I believe that is a different story).
3. Her husband works nights and helps her with the kids. Call me a neurotic lunatic, but all I can think to myself is, I don't know this man, and he's sometimes alone with my little girl. It makes me sick just to think about it.
4. Today I dropped the kids off and she sounded as though she was hacking up a lung. I asked her, "Are you sick?" and she said, "Yeah, I caught a little something over the weekend, I'll be alright though". I hesitated to leave them there...but I did...and when I came back, I saw her reach into one of the kids' mouths with her bare (germ-infested) hand to get sand out of his mouth.

The price is certainly right...but I keep thinking to myself...what is the REAL cost?

So...that's where we're at. On the upside, when I went to pick up the kids this afternoon, Ryleigh was running around in the backyard w/ the other kids, having a great time. And she threw a huge temper-tantrum when I told her it was time to leave...so I think to myself, she must be doing SOMETHING right if my DD is reacting like that on her first day...

I think I will check out care.com. Does anyone know how much it costs to contact caregivers through the site? I couldn't find that information on there.

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No license, smoking, and a stranger of a husband with no background checks that is probably running on empty helping out with the kids....I think I would be running from that place as fast as I could! Sorry, but I would not be comfortable with what you described. I hope you can find something else asap!

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Posted by MrsRivera

Thanks everybody.

I *thought* I was ok with the in-home daycare. But you know that "mommy gut feeling" you get sometimes? When you know something is not right, but can't place what, or why? I left them there today and I just lost it.

I feel extremely guilty that we can't afford to send them BOTH to the daycare that we used for Ryleigh when she was an infant (and that she still goes to 2 mornings per week). It's such a stellar place, but for me to send both my kids there, it wouldn't make much sense for me to be working.

There are a few things about the in-home daycare that bother me:

1. She is not licensed.
2. She smokes (never in the house, and has sworn to me up and down that she doesn't smoke at all when the kids are around, even outside...whether I believe that is a different story).
3. Her husband works nights and helps her with the kids. Call me a neurotic lunatic, but all I can think to myself is, I don't know this man, and he's sometimes alone with my little girl. It makes me sick just to think about it.
4. Today I dropped the kids off and she sounded as though she was hacking up a lung. I asked her, "Are you sick?" and she said, "Yeah, I caught a little something over the weekend, I'll be alright though". I hesitated to leave them there...but I did...and when I came back, I saw her reach into one of the kids' mouths with her bare (germ-infested) hand to get sand out of his mouth.

The price is certainly right...but I keep thinking to myself...what is the REAL cost?

So...that's where we're at. On the upside, when I went to pick up the kids this afternoon, Ryleigh was running around in the backyard w/ the other kids, having a great time. And she threw a huge temper-tantrum when I told her it was time to leave...so I think to myself, she must be doing SOMETHING right if my DD is reacting like that on her first day...

I think I will check out care.com. Does anyone know how much it costs to contact caregivers through the site? I couldn't find that information on there.

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Sorry it didn't work out - hopefully you can find a new nanny quickly! It's stressful I'm sure.