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I, honestly, don't miss anything

I hope this does not come off as bragging but somehow we have managed to create a great balance.

DH and I go out into the city for date night once a week. We go out to dinner with friends etc.

We still travel frequently - we will be going to the caribbean in April just the 2 of us - plus we have 2 other big family trips planned.

Every month I allot a certain amount of $$ to spend on myself.

My DH lets me sleep in on the weekends

I love doing things as a family. And I love that we get to do things as a couple and we even give each other time to do stuff as individuals.

So I must say that I do most of the stuff I did pre-baby PLUS all the wonderful things that come with parenthood!!

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I miss being able to go out on a whim or taking a class and not having to worry about who is going to watch the baby or finding baby sitters so i can go to class. I wouldn't trade it for the world though.

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I miss worrying about trivial things.

now my worries/anxieties are about something so much greater. and something that means the everloving world to me.

I also miss putting on pretty clothes, shaving, and sleep.

but only in the abstract.

up against my son, nothing.

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Right now I have a newborn so I'm just missing SLEEP! WIth having a 3 year old, I miss sleeping in and just not doing anyting - I always have to keep her occupied. I miss traveling out of the country. But there's really not that much I miss- because like someone said, I do try to do things for me. I'm lucky to have help and work from home 3 days a week so I do have time to myself and I wouldn't trade that for anything. I can run to the mall orTarget on my own, get a pedicure.... I think I would go crazy without it and don't knwo if I would have had anymore kids to be honest!

As far as what I love - again, can't talk about a newborn because there's not too much I like about that! But with my 3 year old, I LOVE seeing how happy simple things make her - like when we took her to Sesame Place and seeing the characters, or hearing the HYSTERICAL things that come out of her mouth - or when I cried the other day she came over with a tissue to wipe my eyes for me. There are so many things I love - esp about this age!

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I miss going to the cinema...thats pretty much it! Really for me, I love my kid, he is the most entertaining person I know, and I am so happy to have him around!

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I don't think there's much I miss with the exception of being able to have a quiet day at home once in a while and not being interrupted every 5 minutes. I love my DH and sons to death but I miss that aspect of my "me" time.

I love knowing that my DH, our boys, and I are a family and always, always will be. We have and will continue to get to experience so much together...all the ups and downs of life and I love that.

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hmm, in my old life, i guess i miss being spontaneous with my husband. we have such a good time!
i liked be able to have a few drinks with my husband without any regard to where we would end up or what time we would get home.
even now, if we go out, i dont like to drink b.c i have a responsibility to my child first. i dont want to be hungover and caring for my dd.

but those things pale in comparison to the new life. i love family in the bed time, cuddling with my little one, i love getting up in the middle of the night to comfort her. everything is better and i wish we had kids sooner in life!!

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I miss picking up a growler on Friday night and sharing it with my DH. I miss being deliciously drunk and carefree.

But that part of my life has been replaced with something even more delicious - my son's smile and laughter. I live for his dancing eyes and his infectious giggles as he kicks up his feet in his crib in the morning. I never want that vision to be clouded by a groggy hangover from the night before.

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Admitting you 'miss' something about your life before your kids doesn't make you love or want them any less !!!

I miss going away on vaca on a whim
I miss sleeping in on the weekends
I miss spending w/o thinking about saving for college
I miss being able to work late on a Weds night and not having to rush home
I miss spontaneous ANYTHING - dinner/drinks w/ friends, shopping, dinner out at 9 PM on Weds night


There is a lot that I miss about my life before Sean ........a lot was easier and much more convenient and more about just me and DH (obviously) - Do I wish I could do ALL of that AND have kids? Of course, but it doesn't work that way - so even though I MISS it all, I'm still more than willing to give it up ........

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The only two things I really miss are:

Sleeping late on the weekends. I hate that I can't stay up super late watching movies with DH like I used to, because I know that DD doesn't know its the weekend and still gets up at 7 or 730

Sitting on the couch and watching tv when I get home from work. I am a major tv junkie and one of my favorite things to do when I got home from work before dd was to lay on the couch for an hour or two ( kind of embarassed that I watch so much tv) and watch my DVRd shows... To me it was total self indulgence. I NEVER do that anymore because I LOVE spending all of my "free" time with DD while she is awake. I never have the tv on while we are playing and sometimes I just miss the mindless vegging that I don't do anymore.

My latest favorite thing about my new life is listening to dd babble.. shes so chatty and its so fun to listen to her experiment with new sounds and consanants. It reminds me how fast she is growing up and makes me stop and appreciate how much she amazes me

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I miss sleeping through the night and late on weekends and being able to go to the gym every time i just feel even a little stressed. Once in a while i miss being able to meet up with the girls for drinks in the city but really i cant wait to get home to DS every day and I wouldnt trade one moment of it for my time with my DS!!

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