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emomma17
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
Posted by davenjess
bumping for Mia
Jess I never knew you bumped for me! lol thank you! I was so happy to see this just now! Everyone said to me it would get easier but honestly it doesn't. Although I have stopped crying every morning when I drop her off I am constantly thinking about her all day long wishing I could be there to feed her and put her to sleep, to see her smiles and laughs. When I get home I feel like I have such limited time with her before she goes to sleep. It's just so so hard. I am jealous when I hear about my friends who are able to be SAHM!
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
after my 11 day 'vacation' from work, going back on Monday was torture....
i always find it harder to leave emma with dave, rather than at the sitter (she's with dave on monday & friday). i hate having to leave the house with both of them sleeping or playing....
today is bad too...i just want to be with her...:(
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| Posted 1/6/10 1:21 PM |
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browneyedgirl
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
being home right now with a newborn and a toddler is still 10 times easier than when i was working and only had one kid.
i don't even want to imagine what life is going to be like when i go back to work next month. staying home is a dream
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| Posted 1/6/10 1:30 PM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
Posted by browneyedgirl
being home right now with a newborn and a toddler is still 10 times easier than when i was working and only had one kid.
i don't even want to imagine what life is going to be like when i go back to work next month. staying home is a dream
 I know it's going to be hard for you. I can't imagine! I gotta see the baby soon. I'm sure she's getting so big!
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| Posted 1/6/10 1:34 PM |
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curliegirl
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
I am in a really rough patch right now....
Working full time is great for me...I am such a better person all around for being able to get up and go to work everyday, that's just me.
But right now DH is on a LONG forced unemployment from the union and I am completely miserable. 
I am more frazzled than ever, he's home so much yet I feel like there is even more pressure on me and I am being pulled in even more directions.
DH does nothing around the house to help ease my burden, laundry rarely, DOES NOT CLEAN, DOES NOT COOK, and leaves even more crap around the house than ever before! I really do not need to pick up after an adult as well when I get home!
I asked him as the only Christmas present that I wanted was for him to make an effort to not leave his sh!t everywhere.
Yesterday I left the house and had to drop DS at daycare (yeah, I get about 2-3 days a week even with DH home), go to the bank, get gas, go to the doctor and be at work by 10. Then I had to work till 8 and he calls me to pick up something from his moms house on my way home, and then I had to make dinner for tonight....and he has the balls to complain that I asked him to pick up 5 peppers for me to make HIS and DS's dinner for today!!!!!! 
If it wasn't that I didn't want my DS to eat frozen chicken cutlets (homemade  ) AGAIN...I would have told DH to eat a bag of sh!t for dinner!!!!!!!!
I really need to do something about this and I have no suggestions because I am so p!$$ed about it that it will only come out nasty and cause a fight....
WWYD ladies???????
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| Posted 1/6/10 1:42 PM |
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twiceasnice
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
What I dislike about being a working mom is:
When parents/step parents/grandparents make comments about my DS sleeping over their house or visiting with them. Just because my SIL was a SAHM and dropped her kids off for the weekend (for some sanity) doesn't mean that I am OVER protective. My time with DS is on the weekend and I try to split the 4 weekends in a month up so we make our family rounds when I would rather veg out at home playing Hungry Hungry Hippos or something!
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| Posted 1/6/10 1:46 PM |
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twiceasnice
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
Posted by curliegirl
WWYD ladies???????
I was in the same boat last year. I totally Feel for you, I know exactly what you are going through. I have little advice because I was at a loss. He was feeling sorry for himself and looked to snap at me if I complained about anything because the frustration levels were so high the house took a back seat. Things got better after we just let out what we were feeling. We became a team again. To sum it up: He thought I felt like I didn't need him and I thought he was lazy. We needed each other to make our day better and we could get sucked into the what if's. We just hoped for the best (work related) and stayed postitive for each other.
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| Posted 1/6/10 1:54 PM |
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Teachergal
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
Posted by Michmouse
I could have written this post myself! Even though teachers have summers off we work most of the time but everyone seems to think our job is part time. It is definitely not. I do not want someone else raising my child five days a week, eight hours a day! I cry at that very thought because when you are out of the house that much I feel like you are missing so many precious moments. I hate the thought of it! My SIL who is at home with her kids always has something to say about this! What is your snarky response?
This is JMHO, but I don't feel like someone else is raising my child by sending him to daycare. Just like I don't feel like I am raising the 21 kids that are in my class at school, I don't think the daycare teachers are raising DS, kwim? They make a point not to tell me when he does certain things so that way it's new and the "first" time with me. I actually thank them when he does things like sit up and roll over because I know they work so hard on it with him. You will ALWAYS be the one raising your child.
As for your SIL, she needs to keep her mouth shut! What a hurtful thing to say. I'm bad with comebacks so I'm no help with that but that's mean of her to say.
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| Posted 1/6/10 9:26 PM |
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Purplegirl77
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
I am so glad that you started this post. I just posted today about this not realizing this was here. Every morning I leave Lily w/ Dave (DH) because he goes into work in the afternoon and is off on Tue and Wed. She goes to the babysitter Monday, Thur and Fri afternoons. We are lucky that she is with us both most of the time but it is still hard to leave her (even though she is w/ DH). I feel guilty alot while I am at work b/c I miss her so much and I want to be with her but I also know that we have no choice, we both have to work and that is the only way we can afford to be. I just went back to work 1/4 so it is all so new for me. Thanks for this post, I need it!
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| Posted 1/20/10 10:33 PM |
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Angel321
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
Posted by Purplegirl77
I am so glad that you started this post. I just posted today about this not realizing this was here. Every morning I leave Lily w/ Dave (DH) because he goes into work in the afternoon and is off on Tue and Wed. She goes to the babysitter Monday, Thur and Fri afternoons. We are lucky that she is with us both most of the time but it is still hard to leave her (even though she is w/ DH). I feel guilty alot while I am at work b/c I miss her so much and I want to be with her but I also know that we have no choice, we both have to work and that is the only way we can afford to be. I just went back to work 1/4 so it is all so new for me. Thanks for this post, I need it!
we have very similar schedules!!!! emma's with the sitter on wednesday and thursday and with dave monday and friday and i work from home one day a week now - on tuesdays....thank GOD. it's helping me a LOT!!!!
if you ever need hugs - please, FM!!!
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| Posted 1/21/10 12:01 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
Just bumping this because DS has been sleeping later in the morning, which means I have to wake him up so I can go to work. I hate seeing him so confused when I pick him up when he is so sleepy and warm to go out in the freezing cold. 
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| Posted 2/1/10 8:22 PM |
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butterfly20
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
this is great to have.......
i kept saying daycare will be good, we need my salary to pay the bills, but its still so sad in the morning droping him off... sometimes i bring his breakfast and feed him there so i can chat with the daycare people and feel like i'm leaving him with friends rather than employees.
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| Posted 2/1/10 8:42 PM |
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Hey ladies. I feel like I am starting to loose it lately.
I work a VERY stressful job and then of course, have my son.
I just don't feel like there are many people who identify with my situation.
I got into a blow-out last night with my younger sister who came down to visit at the last minute. Her and I are very, very different. She also doesn't work nearly as stressful of a job.
She was making comments I think without realizing it about why I didn't want to get together with some cousins last night and how she "feels bad because she's always in the middle".
My DH is also in the middle of renovating our house and our guest room into a playroom for our son.
I haven't had a chance to wash the linens for back there. She was making comments about that too.
I think that put me over the edge.
She also is going to watch my son today while I go to work, but she spent most of the night on her laptop and I KNOW she is going to complain about how tired she is when I leave around 6:30 today.............
There are also lots and lots of other issues with my family especially making me feel guilty because on my rare time off I "don't bring the baby up to see them". It's close to a 3 hour drive.
DH is also self-employed and works a ton. We have started to let them stay with us for up to a week a month and that is starting to gt very, very old.
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| Posted 2/2/10 5:13 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
Posted by mzsocialworker1
Hey ladies. I feel like I am starting to loose it lately.
I work a VERY stressful job and then of course, have my son.
I just don't feel like there are many people who identify with my situation.
I got into a blow-out last night with my younger sister who came down to visit at the last minute. Her and I are very, very different. She also doesn't work nearly as stressful of a job.
She was making comments I think without realizing it about why I didn't want to get together with some cousins last night and how she "feels bad because she's always in the middle".
My DH is also in the middle of renovating our house and our guest room into a playroom for our son.
I haven't had a chance to wash the linens for back there. She was making comments about that too.
I think that put me over the edge.
She also is going to watch my son today while I go to work, but she spent most of the night on her laptop and I KNOW she is going to complain about how tired she is when I leave around 6:30 today.............
There are also lots and lots of other issues with my family especially making me feel guilty because on my rare time off I "don't bring the baby up to see them". It's close to a 3 hour drive.
DH is also self-employed and works a ton. We have started to let them stay with us for up to a week a month and that is starting to gt very, very old.
I can relate to the work thing. I work two jobs, but one of them is teaching online. When I agreed to take on the classes, we thought DH would be home earlier...Now I get home from work at 5 with DS and have to do the teaching after he's in bed. By the time I get to bed I get a few hours of sleep before I am up again for work.
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| Posted 2/2/10 8:41 AM |
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pnbplus1
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
Posted by nov04libride
Just bumping this because DS has been sleeping later in the morning, which means I have to wake him up so I can go to work. I hate seeing him so confused when I pick him up when he is so sleepy and warm to go out in the freezing cold.
I felt this way this morning He looked so adorable and warm and we had to pick him up and put him in his car seat. He's not STTN (waking around 4 AM for a bottle) so I feel extra bad because I know how important sleep is and I wish we didn't have to interrupt his sleep to take him out.
I hate working. I've been in school forever, and my doctorate was all that mattered for the 4 years prior to my DS arriving but now all I want to do is stay home. Part of my wishes I'd never gone back to school bc then I'd be able to be home with him now instead of stuck at my year-long internship. I plan on not working or only working PT in October but then I have to deal with the "guilt" of having gone to school forever, having massive student loan debt, and not pursuing a career that I worked so hard for.
Glad this thread is here, gave me a chance to vent. to all the working moms who do so much.
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| Posted 2/2/10 10:38 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
Posted by pnbplus1
Posted by nov04libride
Just bumping this because DS has been sleeping later in the morning, which means I have to wake him up so I can go to work. I hate seeing him so confused when I pick him up when he is so sleepy and warm to go out in the freezing cold.
I felt this way this morning He looked so adorable and warm and we had to pick him up and put him in his car seat. He's not STTN (waking around 4 AM for a bottle) so I feel extra bad because I know how important sleep is and I wish we didn't have to interrupt his sleep to take him out.
I hate working. I've been in school forever, and my doctorate was all that mattered for the 4 years prior to my DS arriving but now all I want to do is stay home. Part of my wishes I'd never gone back to school bc then I'd be able to be home with him now instead of stuck at my year-long internship. I plan on not working or only working PT in October but then I have to deal with the "guilt" of having gone to school forever, having massive student loan debt, and not pursuing a career that I worked so hard for.
Glad this thread is here, gave me a chance to vent. to all the working moms who do so much.
I finished my PhD before DS, and I don't want to work, and have to right now, but I hope to not have to and just teach a few classes as an adjunct each semester. It would be a little extra money and using my degree, but not as much time/effort as working F/T.
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| Posted 2/2/10 2:26 PM |
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pnbplus1
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
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I finished my PhD before DS, and I don't want to work, and have to right now, but I hope to not have to and just teach a few classes as an adjunct each semester. It would be a little extra money and using my degree, but not as much time/effort as working F/T.
Wow, I'm glad to see I'm not alone. I have thought about maybe teaching in the future too, just a class, and then maybe also working PT - then I would use my degree. Now that I have to work (and my hours will get longer in March ) I have a hard time thinking of any scenarios other than just being home with him. Thanks!
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HLT407
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
I am so thankful for this thread!! I go back to work next Monday and I am so upset. Financially, there is no way I could ever stay home- as much as I wish I could.
I am going to be so sad to not be able to spend the entire day with her! I'm also scared I'm going to miss all the "firsts" she has Please tell me it isn't that bad
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4PsInaPod
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
Posted by HLT407
I am so thankful for this thread!! I go back to work next Monday and I am so sad. Financially, there is no way I could ever stay home- as much as I wish I could.
I am going to be so sad to not be able to spend the entire day with her! I'm also scared I'm going to miss all the "firsts" she has Please tell me it isn't that bad
my thoughts exactly.
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| Posted 2/2/10 7:47 PM |
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HLT407
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
Posted by DPerotti
my thoughts exactly.
yea, and I had another one of those breakdowns before while I was watching her sleep. I kept thinking 'lay with her as long as you can, despite how badly you want to get out of bed and straighten up' because I know in a few days, I'd give anything to do it again and just cuddle!! As cute as they are, my students just aren't the same..lol
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| Posted 2/2/10 7:51 PM |
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4PsInaPod
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
Posted by HLT407
Posted by DPerotti
my thoughts exactly.
yea, and I had another one of those breakdowns before while I was watching her sleep. I kept thinking 'lay with her as long as you can, despite how badly you want to get out of bed and straighten up' because I know in a few days, I'd give anything to do it again and just cuddle!! As cute as they are, my students just aren't the same..lol
I know :( My thought right now is...I don't care if he's getting to comfy napping on me, come Monday he won't be able to & my co-workers are NOT the same! lol
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| Posted 2/2/10 7:57 PM |
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pnbplus1
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
Posted by HLT407
I am so thankful for this thread!! I go back to work next Monday and I am so upset. Financially, there is no way I could ever stay home- as much as I wish I could.
I am going to be so sad to not be able to spend the entire day with her! I'm also scared I'm going to miss all the "firsts" she has Please tell me it isn't that bad
I worry about missing all the firsts too. My mom (my mom and dad watch him) told me that the 1st time WE see him do something will still be a "first" for us. Someone posted that their daycare doesn't tell her about firsts so that she can experience it as a first herself. I like this idea and have been meaning to tell my parents that I don't want to heard about the new things he does.
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steph4777
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
I recently started a new job and I'm now realizing that it's a lot more responsibility than what I was told during the interview process. I really like it so far, but I'm realizing that to be successful in this environment I need to put in more hours.
I work in the digital division of a PR/Ad agency. My entire team, including my direct reports, designers, developers and manager, are in the NY office. My main client is one of the biggest accounts on the PR side of the business and all of those activities are run out of Chicago. My role is to be the digital liaison here in Chicago and lead all digital activities with the team in NY.
Since my team is in NY, most issues usually come through around 7am my time. I usually have 20 emails by 8am that I'm weeding through on my Blackberry in the car while DH is driving. I don't really want to leave the house earlier cuz that means less time with the boys, so I'm going to start waking up at 5am getting dressed and putting in an hour or two of work before we leave the house
I will be honest and say that the transition from a small design agency of 12 people to a large agency and all the political BS that comes with it has been interesting. It's been a long time since I worked for a company that had more than a few hundred employees.
Not to mention, I still haven't had the opportunity to met most of the people I work with on a daily basis. Finally got to met my manager for the first time for 5 min last week bc he was here in Chicago for a new biz pitch. The few times I've spoken to him, he has said that he's heard I've been doing a great job so far. I have no problems being a self-starter, but it's kinda hard to do that effectively if I haven't even had a discussion about expectations. So, I'm just a little frustrated.
There aren't enough hours in the day. If you read through my rambling, thank you. I just needed to unload a little.
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Angel321
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
i have to say - i thought it would be sooooo great working one day a week from home - so i could be with emma.... it's killing me and making it SO much harder to leave her on Wednesdays (i work from home on tuesdays).....
she's a sleeper - like dave & I....this morning - i had to wake her up to leave...i feel HORRIBLE having to do that....my lil' baby.... i miss her more than anything in the world...
heather & dev - many people say it does get easier - but honestly, i'm not feeling that it's easier for me and i've been back to work since the end of september...
thank you girls SO much for being here with us on this thread!!!!!!
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Purplegirl77
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Re: 'Official Working Moms Thread'
Ugh work tomorrow and just reading the posts and so thankful for you all. You all get me thru each day, knowing I can come on here and read from you all and I am not alone. I hate leaving DD. I feel so sad when I do but I know I have to. We have to both work b/c we need the $.
I am also I am going to miss the 1sts.....love the idea about the day care not telling the parents what they do...
How are you all doing?
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