Re: My mom is dying and I'm looking for assistance finding help for my dad

I'm so sorry to hear this. My mom passed away from very aggressive cancers in 2013. It was so, so hard to go through.

I saw a counselor for free through Cancercare.org. The office I went to was in the city (near my job), but they also did phone sessions with me when I couldn't make it in. I would try their website to see what they can offer for your dad. The services were free.

Is your mom on hospice? If not, I would look into putting her on hospice asap. It covers a lot of care, even for family members. A hospice social worker would definitely be able to point you in the right direction for your father, or yourself.

I can't speak for everyone, but as my mother's sole caregiver, what helped for me was getting away from it and doing things that didn't revolve around cancer and death. Since I was around that 24/7 for a year. Maybe you can take your dad out for outings together even if it's just lunch. Or maybe a baseball game etc. It might not take your minds off of it completely, but it will help clear your heads for a little while.

If you want to PM, feel free.