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Kathy116
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Manipulation! 5/27 Update, bottom of first post.
My mother threw my baby shower last week...now she wants something in return!
I'm not going to get into the details, but she wants me to have some sort of gathering at my house (it's currently messy with all the renovating going on, and I'm 31 weeks pregnant, and tired)...anyway, she's crying hysterical, having a temper tantrum like a four year old, and throwing the shower in my face, that she did that for me...so I should do this for her. I calmly explained that it's not a good time to have people over my house, I'm tired, and have the construction (she just won't listen to me....she's pulling out all the guilt she can muster). I am saddened that she would use the shower as a pawn.
I'm exhausted, and just needed to vent....I can't believe this manipulation (well, she's done it before, so I shouldn't be all that surprised). 
Update 5/27:
Now dear mother is angry...no more tears, but she's getting nasty...the latest drama, I'm on the phone with my father and I hear her in the background saying, "tell her I'll NEVER EVER babysit....NEVER".
She's also saying how much $$$ she spent on the shower, quoting dollar amounts....
I am really loosing my patients with her, and will soon explode...up until now, I've stood my ground, been calm, but I'm loosing patience, and will soon explode (what she wants). 
Message edited 5/27/2006 1:53:11 PM.
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nferrandi
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Re: Manipulation!
I'm sorry. It doesn't seem fair for her to ask that of you.
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| Posted 5/26/06 2:22 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Manipulation!
I'm so sorry. That's really not fair of her. I would stand your ground. The last thing you need is a house full of people. 
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| Posted 5/26/06 2:27 PM |
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Stacey1403
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Re: Manipulation!
Posted by prncssrachel
I'm so sorry. That's really not fair of her. I would stand your ground. The last thing you need is a house full of people.
I agree. You should call her out on how unfair she is being to her 31 week pregnant daughter!!
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| Posted 5/26/06 2:31 PM |
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Kathy116
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Re: Manipulation!
Posted by Stacey1403
Posted by prncssrachel
I'm so sorry. That's really not fair of her. I would stand your ground. The last thing you need is a house full of people.
I agree. You should call her out on how unfair she is being to her 31 week pregnant daughter!!
I have, but she is at the point of total full blown hysterics. Think of the world's most dramatic actress and mulitply that by 100...she's pulling out all the stops (I finally got her to go to therapy, and she has said, "I go to therapy FOR YOU"...so I should do this for her, along with the shower guilt...of course I corrected her that she goes to therapy for herself.)
She won't listen to me, hangs up on me hysterical crying, like this is the end of the world.
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| Posted 5/26/06 2:38 PM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: Manipulation!
Posted by Kathy116
Posted by Stacey1403
Posted by prncssrachel
I'm so sorry. That's really not fair of her. I would stand your ground. The last thing you need is a house full of people.
I agree. You should call her out on how unfair she is being to her 31 week pregnant daughter!!
I have, but she is at the point of total full blown hysterics. Think of the world's most dramatic actress and mulitply that by 100...she's pulling out all the stops (I finally got her to go to therapy, and she has said, "I go to therapy FOR YOU"...so I should do this for her, along with the shower guilt...of course I corrected her that she goes to therapy for herself.)
She won't listen to me, hangs up on me hysterical crying, like this is the end of the world.
She sounds like she's having a tantrum. Can you just ignore her til she calms down and becomes more reasonable?
I think you should stand your ground. You are not up for company, period. It doesn't matter if you are pregnant or not, you are not up for it. The End.
I'm sorry she is throwing things in your face...
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| Posted 5/26/06 2:42 PM |
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Kathy116
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Re: Manipulation!
Posted by shamrock12472
Posted by Kathy116
Posted by Stacey1403
Posted by prncssrachel
I'm so sorry. That's really not fair of her. I would stand your ground. The last thing you need is a house full of people.
I agree. You should call her out on how unfair she is being to her 31 week pregnant daughter!!
I have, but she is at the point of total full blown hysterics. Think of the world's most dramatic actress and mulitply that by 100...she's pulling out all the stops (I finally got her to go to therapy, and she has said, "I go to therapy FOR YOU"...so I should do this for her, along with the shower guilt...of course I corrected her that she goes to therapy for herself.)
She won't listen to me, hangs up on me hysterical crying, like this is the end of the world.
She sounds like she's having a tantrum. Can you just ignore her til she calms down and becomes more reasonable?
I think you should stand your ground. You are not up for company, period. It doesn't matter if you are pregnant or not, you are not up for it. The End.
I'm sorry she is throwing things in your face...
Thanks for the support.
I am going to stand my ground...I am just sad that she's up to this again.
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| Posted 5/26/06 2:54 PM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: Manipulation!
she sounds a lot like my mom  feel better
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| Posted 5/26/06 2:55 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Manipulation!
I'm so sorry. My mother can be the same way. Its very frustrating.
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| Posted 5/26/06 2:57 PM |
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maybebaby
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Re: Manipulation!
I think it is a very very unfair thing that she is doing to you..especially at 31 weeks. And just because she threw you a party, does NOT mean you have to do what she asks...You have too much going on!! Even if she is a drama queen, she should realize what you have on your plate.
Tell her you are sorry but you just can't. Stand your ground, sometimes you have to be tough even to your mom !
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| Posted 5/26/06 3:00 PM |
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Diane
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Re: Manipulation!
Posted by maybebaby
I think it is a very very unfair thing that she is doing to you..especially at 31 weeks. And just because she threw you a party, does NOT mean you have to do what she asks...You have too much going on!! Even if she is a drama queen, she should realize what you have on your plate.
Tell her you are sorry but you just can't. Stand your ground, sometimes you have to be tough even to your mom !
I agree.....Why does she feel that YOU have to throw something in return??
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| Posted 5/26/06 4:57 PM |
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smith1234
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Re: Manipulation!
So sorry you are going through this. I have so many issues with my mother as well and can completely related.
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| Posted 5/26/06 5:38 PM |
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Luvlylady
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Re: Manipulation!
Just wanna give you some hugs Kathy
So Sorry this is happening!
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| Posted 5/26/06 9:17 PM |
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bethsiar
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Re: Manipulation!
urgh women can be so annoying. Sorry she's a drama queen and stressing you out!
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| Posted 5/27/06 8:47 AM |
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DebG
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Re: Manipulation!
Kathy- I am so sorry your mom is trying to manipulate you.
It's hard I know, but stand your ground your mom needs to realize that you are pregnant and your focus is now on your husband and your baby and no matter what crap she tries to pull that it won't be tolerated.
I'm sorry you have to go th this at all though, I really am.
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| Posted 5/27/06 8:57 AM |
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Kathy116
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Re: Manipulation! Update, bottom of first post.
Thanks everyone...see the update at the top for latest bs!
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| Posted 5/27/06 1:52 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Manipulation! 5/27 Update, bottom of first post.
so sorry about this. That is not fair at all.
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wowcoulditbe
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Re: Manipulation! 5/27 Update, bottom of first post.
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Stefanie
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Re: Manipulation! 5/27 Update, bottom of first post.
I don't understand why she would want something in return..
She knows all about being pregnant...so she should understand that you are exhausted and don't need to have people at your house...especially when it's being renovated...
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SoinLove
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Re: Manipulation! 5/27 Update, bottom of first post.
I'm sorry she's doing this to you. I can't even understand why she is.
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| Posted 5/27/06 8:41 PM |
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Diane
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Re: Manipulation! 5/27 Update, bottom of first post.
That is HORRIBLE that she is threatening you by NOT babysitting.
Im sorry you are going through this.
What is your dad saying??
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Manipulation! 5/27 Update, bottom of first post.
What is wrong with mothers? Something makes them crazy when we're pregnant. Well, when we're not prego, either, but particularly when we're prego. I'm so sorry Kathy
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Ambersmom
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Re: Manipulation! 5/27 Update, bottom of first post.
She sounds totally mental. You're going through major construction and you're 31 weeks preggo!! What does she expect you to do at this point? What is her obsession with you throwing a party for her RIGHT NOW?!? I would be blowing a fuse at my mother if I was you. If her love and generosity was so conditional, then I'd tell her to stick it. You do not need her manipulation and games around your baby. Did you talk to your Dad about this? Is she going through her changes and maybe needs some meds to regulate her hormones? That just sounds sooo crazy!
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Manipulation! 5/27 Update, bottom of first post.
Any updates Kathy?? I'm sorry you are going through this... I can't believe how she's being!
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steph4777
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Re: Manipulation! 5/27 Update, bottom of first post.
I'm so sorry she's doing this to you. I would really try to avoid talking to her bc it seems like she's really stressing you out. The last thing you want is for your BP to go up at this stage in your pg. Just talk to your dad and see if he can get her to back off. Tell him that you need to avoid stress bc it can affect the baby.
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