Living close to your family or his job? WWYD

Im having trouble with this situation. We are inthe market for a house here on Long Island. My DH's job is in the middle of Nassau county and my family is in eastern suffolk.

If we bought a house close to our families, I could go to work and make more money 3 days a week and have a babysitter on the drop of a dime. Two parents are both retired somewhat and are willing to come over whenever as long as the drive is decent.

If we bought a house close to dh's job. DH would have a shorter commute by 20 minutes each way a day. BUT I dont have a job there and I wouldnt be able to rely on anyone being there to babysit with out it being a hassle. I would pretty much be on my own.

I guess you can say this is my first baby and I dnot know what to expect. I feel that having the help with in hands reach is comforting. Am I nuts??? Any advice??

Re: Living close to your family or his job? WWYD

i would move closer to the parents. a 20 minute longer commute both ways is not that long compared to everything else you'd have to give up.

Re: Living close to your family or his job? WWYD

def. move closer to the parents! how nice it would be to have a babysitter at the drop of a dime! 20 minutes extra is not a big deal, i think your husband will get used to it quick.

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We live in Manhattan right now, which is where DH's job is. We are in contract with a house in Long Island because my family lives there and we can have good free babysitting at the drop of a dime. DH will have a significantly longer commute now and I will probably wind up seeing him less. He isn't loving the idea of a long commute but we think it is the best move for our family.

Re: Living close to your family or his job? WWYD

We had a similiar choice. I live 30-40 min from mom, 30 min from my sister, and 1 hr from my other sister.
We live 10 min from his parents.

I wanted to be closer to my family but my work is in suffolk and my husband is 5 min from work. I wish I was closer but since DH is in law enforcement I wanted him closer to work so he is not as tired at work and doesn't need an added 30 min commute.

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I would pick being closer to family.

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We chose family (except my parents who live in NYC). DH commutes to Coney Island for work (tho he works nights) and I work out here.

Works for us.

Re: Living close to your family or his job? WWYD

I would choose closer to family.

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We chose family, and DH's commute is now 15-20 mins longer. I think 20 mins is nothing!

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we chose family....

we had a choice of midnassau(15-20 minutes from our family) or western suffolk (30-40 minutes from our family) but of course a bigger house in suffolk.... dh thought being closer to family would be better(even though you only see them on weekend)....this was before kids- and now im glad he talked me into it- because it will be sooo much easier if I ever need relatives to come watch the baby

Message edited 3/14/2009 3:28:23 PM.

Re: Living close to your family or his job? WWYD

closer to family, you'll appreciate the help. 20 more minutes is not that bad as long as it is not already a really far trip.

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i say move closer to family they will really be helpful to have in the future try the begnning part of suffolk so you are close t onassau and ur fam

Re: Living close to your family or his job? WWYD

family. from someone who has no family around, definitely family would be my first choice if I had that option.