Jewish moms-to-be-Shower question

I just found out my mom is not going to throw me a shower b/c she said that Jewish people dont normally do that. While we are jewish, we are not that religous (i married a catholic man) but I dont want to make a big deal. I am sad though b/c i have been to a bunch of showers and they are fun. Also I just got married in the summer so she gave me a lot of $$ for that and paid for my bridal shower and my dress and is buying us the crib for the baby, so i have a feeling the $$ is a factor too (whihc i totally understand as she has gone above and beyond), the question is, would it be stupid for my husband to throw the shower for me (i know my SIL would let him use her house) as he also feels bad and wants to do that for me, i think he was originally going to ask my SIL to do it, but i dont want my mom to feel uncomfortable or feel obligated to giive more $$. Also should i still register just in case even if i dont end up with a shower?

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hey-- not pregnant-- but Jewish. What if DH's family gave you the shower-- then it wouldn't be weird (from a religous perspective anyway). While I am not religous, it is so taboo to have a baby shower-- I have never even been to one. I would still register though because shower or not- people will buy you gifts as soon as the baby is born, and also for the bris or baby naming.

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I am jewish and I did not have a shower . Actuallly, the teachers at work gave me one but that was just a small thing. Anyway, I did register AND I got just about everything off of my registry from my parents friends and my friends. The people at work just gave little outfits and stuff like that.
So I would say go for it and register even if you dont have a shower. as for your hubby throwing you one , well that is great. My friend's husband just threw her a baby shower.

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My family is very much opposed to showers - I'm Jewish too - DH is not - I have a feeling he and his family will do something on his end though....

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Also, not PG, but Jewish. There is no way that anyone in my family would throw me a baby shower...my family is pretty traditional in that way. It is considered bad luck to have things for the baby in the home before the baby is born, b/c it tempts the evil eye. When my sister was PG, they had a shower for her at work, and all those gifts stayed in my parents house until after my nephew was born.

When my time comes to be PG, I will definitely register despite not having a shower. People will just buy you gifts after the baby is born.

I went to one shower for a Jewish friend, and I was so surprised that she was having one!

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If you are comfortable with it, and it won't upset your mom then go for it! The decision should be up to you!

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I don't think there is anything wrong with your husband's family throwing you a shower as it is their family's tradition. As long as you are comfortable with it.

I would talk to your mom and say that SIL asked about your shower and you told her that it is taboo in the Jewish culture and your family does not throw them. So she decided to throw you one, but wants to know who to invite as she doesn't want to offend anyone.

Your DH can be behind the scenes paying, but I think I would have it come from SIL IF she is willing