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curliegirl
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In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
Call me old-school or whatever, but, if you text me a question and I don't text you back, don't text me the next day saying "thanks for getting back to me!"
If you want to know something and haven't received a reply, isn't your next option to pick up that ancient device that we all carry with us 24/7 and CALL someone?
I'm sorry, but texting/emailing/IM/ Facebook or whatever social network you prefer, is NOT an acceptable REPLACEMENT form of communication.
What are your thoughts?
Let me adjust by saying that I DO text, and DO find it acceptable in certain circumstances. Just not to replace all form of communication, like keeping in touch with family and what's going on in their lives....eg. How are you? You had a job interview today? For what?
Texting is not a SUBSTITUTE for speaking to someone directly. I find that sometimes it makes it too easy to not reach out and pick up the phone.
Message edited 4/28/2010 11:28:10 AM.
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Christine
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
I think it's an acceptable form of communication. I don't think it should replace phone calls all together but I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I find cell phones intrusive because of the 24/7 access. At least with a text I can get back to the person when it's more convenient.
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| Posted 4/28/10 10:49 AM |
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annoyedTTCer
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
I prefer texting to talking on the phone, more efficient form of communication
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| Posted 4/28/10 10:49 AM |
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debsabourin13
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
Sorry, I kinda disagree with you, although it does depend on the situation. My husband works in construction and its always to noisy to carry a conversation so we text most times, especially if its just a question. I keep in touch with lots of family members that way to, I can text them and they respond, but it I were to call they wouldn't pick up and messages would go unanswered...but that's just in my experience.
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
I take texting over talking.
If it's just a simple question that requires a "yes" or "no" - maybe some add'l information like a time and date -- I'd rather just text and get that info asap. If I call, chances are small talk is gonna be involved, and I'd prefer to just get my info and move on with my day.
But that's just me.
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| Posted 4/28/10 10:56 AM |
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curliegirl
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
Yes, I certainly agree with a quick question or yes/no answer, but to replace all form of communication to me, is unacceptable.......especially if the reply I have to type is long and drawn out.
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FelAndJon
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
It depends on the person/context of the text.
Our sitter is in school full time. I don't know her schedule so we will send her a text when we need her to to sit (we don't have a set schedule). If she doesn't respond in a timely manner (a day or 2), I will either follow up with another text or a call.
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LightUpOurLife
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
If you make it known that you do not prefer texting, than I think it is highly annoying.
In certain circumstances, I can see it. DH is a teacher and I can't talk with him most of the day. Since he works at a school with deaf kids it is acceptable to text him throughout the day.
I have a friend that only texts. It can be a whole conversation that would have taken a moment on a phone, but a half hour on text. I don't return the texts anymore.
It also stills annoys me (two years later) that my brother texted people to inform us that his second son was born.
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| Posted 4/28/10 10:59 AM |
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Christine
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
Posted by curliegirl
Yes, I certainly agree with a quick question or yes/no answer, but to replace all form of communication to me, is unacceptable.......especially if the reply I have to type is long and drawn out.
I guess that's when I pick up the phone and call the person back. If texting is the only way you communicate with this person and you don't like it, they should know this.
I have a lot of friends where the primary form of communication is texts, emails, etc. but it doesn't bother me.
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Kara
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
Posted by curliegirl
I'm sorry, but texting/emailing/IM/ Facebook or whatever social network you prefer, is NOT an acceptable form of communication.
Ever? It is in a lot of situations to a lot of people. If it's completely unacceptable to you, then I would disable the feature from your phone and let people know you can't receive text messages.
Lots of people text these days. I don't think it replaces phone calls, but I also don't think it's inappropriate all the time. For a simple yes/no question or something else easily answered in a few words, it's totally fine for most people.
You need to understand that most people do NOT find it unacceptable -- so they may not realize you do unless you tell them so. Just ignoring their texts and waiting for them to call you isn't the way to let them know you don't want to get text messages.
That said, I think your friend's rseponse the next day was inappropriate and rude. She could have just asked if you had gotten her message or picked up the phone to call.
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Kara
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
Posted by curliegirl
Yes, I certainly agree with a quick question or yes/no answer, but to replace all form of communication to me, is unacceptable.......especially if the reply I have to type is long and drawn out.
Sorry, missed this when I first responded.
If your reply has to be long, then just pick up the phone to call the person who sent you the text. I don't see why it's such a big deal.
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| Posted 4/28/10 11:11 AM |
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Songwriter76
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
Sorry Gina, completely disagree with you on this one.
I have friends who want to talk for too long if I call. I prefer texting or email 99% of the time.
I am also bothered by the people who call you back when you text them. It's like, "Dude, I texted you because I just don't have time to have a conversation...just text me back."
I guess everyone is different.
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| Posted 4/28/10 11:13 AM |
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curliegirl
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
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Posted by curliegirl
Yes, I certainly agree with a quick question or yes/no answer, but to replace all form of communication to me, is unacceptable.......especially if the reply I have to type is long and drawn out.
Sorry, missed this when I first responded.
If your reply has to be long, then just pick up the phone to call the person who sent you the text. I don't see why it's such a big deal.
I was at work, and can't text at work. She was at work and couldn't call. Then I forgot all together that the text even happened.
I guess I'm just annoyed by this somewhat isolated incident, by a person who never even contacts me, and to receive at text for a life update seemed rather rude......
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Kara
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
Posted by Songwriter76
Sorry Gina, completely disagree with you on this one.
I have friends who want to talk for too long if I call. I prefer texting or email 99% of the time.
I am also bothered by the people who call you back when you text them. It's like, "Dude, I texted you because I just don't have time to have a conversation...just text me back."
I guess everyone is different.
Then don't answer when they call back -- and they can leave a voicemail with the answer. If you text a question that requires a 3 or 4 page response, a lot of people probably don't want to spend that time texting something that lengthy. If I can't answer you in a page or two of text, I'll call you. You certainly don't have to answer - I'll just leave it on voicemail.
I think it's hilarious that people get upset because someone calls, as if they are imprisoning you in a phone converstaion. You're not legally or morally obligated to answer your phone all the time. So if you don't have time to talk, then don't answer. If you need the answer to your question badly enough, answer and just politely mention that you don't have time to chat, but really need an answer to your question.
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curliegirl
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
I guess the point I am trying to make is that we are all busy, but to make time to talk to someone is pretty basic. I LIKE to talk to people sometimes. Granted not every minute of the day is opportune, but have we all lost that basic form of communication that we can't even talk to one another anymore?
Just playing devil's advocate now.....
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Finally1108
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
i think texting is perfectly fine. i feel like in this day and age people are so busy that sending a text is a way to keep in touch with friends and family.
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JenMarie
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
I personally prefer text or email over talking on the phone. One, I know some people who can talk f o r e v e r. I would MUCH rather a quick text convo than an hour long phone convo. I'm talking about people who keep talking even after you've said you need to go 5 times. Two, I'm just not a phone person.
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Kara
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
Posted by curliegirl
I guess the point I am trying to make is that we are all busy, but to make time to talk to someone is pretty basic. I LIKE to talk to people sometimes. Granted not every minute of the day is opportune, but have we all lost that basic form of communication that we can't even talk to one another anymore?
Just playing devil's advocate now.....
I do understand this. I have a "friend" (really an acquaintance) who, when I do see her, will ask me all the time why I haven't called her. It's as if she has no idea that her phone also makes outgoing calls. Then randomly, out of the blue, she will text me to say, "What's up? How's life?" or something like that. But she never picks up the phone to CALL.
There are other reasons why I don't keep a close relationship with this person - but if she thinks we are such good friends, I am not sure why she can't ever pick up the phone. She complains that I don't call her, but she never calls me either. I would say 99% of all phone conversations we have ever had were initiated by me.
ETA -- And for the record, I HATE talking on the phone... but I think talking to someone is a completely different ballgame than texting. They aren't interchangeable.
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curliegirl
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
Posted by Kara
ETA -- And for the record, I HATE talking on the phone... but I think talking to someone is a completely different ballgame than texting. They aren't interchangeable.
Ahhhhh, perfectly said.....THIS was my point but I guess my brains aren't working properly today....thanks
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| Posted 4/28/10 11:42 AM |
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Cheeks24
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
It is only okay for certain things, definitely not everything.
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| Posted 4/28/10 11:46 AM |
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annoyedTTCer
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
During the time eaten up to talk to one person by phone for 10 minutes I can text and email so many more people.
Chatting on the phone just to talk is a waste of time in my opinion.
If I want to chat with my friends we dinner or drinks so we chat face to face.
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| Posted 4/28/10 11:54 AM |
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JessInCA
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
I think it is an acceptable substitute for calling - but only in some circumstances. Quick questions, basic information, sure... but not for the major/important stuff that would otherwise take a lengthy phonecall, like catching up with friends and family.
In the OP's case, that's weird though - if the person who texted you needed an answer and you hadn't gotten back to them, I don't see why they wouldn't have just called to find out.
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| Posted 4/28/10 11:59 AM |
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tourist
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
I generally respond via the method the originator used.
If you text me, I'll text you back. If it's complicated, I will text you back & say call when can--too long too text or I will just email my long answer.
For just catching up, I usually use text or email to set up in in prson date, or a phone date with a logn distance firend, but those are rare.
Really the only people I call are my parents & my husband.
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HeathKernandez
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
I think it's perfectly acceptable in today's world.
sorry.
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| Posted 4/28/10 12:06 PM |
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Beth
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Re: In your opinion, is TEXTING a suitable substitute for calling?
Posted by HeathKernandez
I think it's perfectly acceptable in today's world.
sorry.
me too
I prefer it
I have a client that I BBM...he gave me an offer yesterday on a house thru BBM
the fact that I use "modern" ways to communicate is why is he chose me over using his aunt as his agent
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