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I'm really really worried about DD.

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ODonnell
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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

We are going through this right now with our DD. She is 9 mths this week and weighed 15.2 lbs yesterday but the difference with our DD is that she is not a great eater and she spits up a lot. She was a good size at birth (8lb 3oz) and has gained very slowly since then. Our ped was also not concerned but I have been and I eventually called the ped last week and said I don’t want to “wait and see” any longer. She recommended a GI, who we saw yesterday, and ordered a blood panel to check for celiac disease, amongst other things. Unfortunately the blood draw was a disaster and they couldn’t find a vein (probably because DD rarely has more than 3/4 of a 6 oz bottle and she was likely dehydrated). We did see the GI who was very helpful but he did think that our DD’s weight is low for her age considering her birth weight and he is treating her for reflux and adding extra calories to her diet.

Bottom line, if YOU are not comfortable with her weight call your ped for a referral or get a new ped. Even my DH thought I was over-reacting until he heard the GI agree that DDs weight is too low.

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Posted 7/31/12 3:03 PM
 
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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

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Posted 7/31/12 3:03 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

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This is a problem for you why? Do you think the healthier child is always the bigger one? Do you think being off the charts or high 90 percentile is always a healthy weight for a toddler? I'm confused by all these posts and why people are taking offense to this suggestion that being too big is not a good thing either while there are posters telling a mother her DD is unhealthy just because she is small DESPITE her ped saying she is just fine! By your logic if there is something wrong at 5th percentile there is probably something wrong at 95th as well!



but everyone is saying there likely is nothing wrong with 5% if that is the child's curve...

just as

there is likely nothing wrong with 90% if that is the child's curve.

26lbs for a 12 month old is not massive. what was her height? I bet it was also closer to 90%.

if a child is 5% for weight but 90% for height (or the opposite, 90% for weight and 5% for height) there MAY be and LIkELY is a problem in this case.

Message edited 7/31/2012 3:04:51 PM.

Posted 7/31/12 3:04 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

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Posted 7/31/12 3:05 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

I also don't think a child's size as an infant really has much to do with their size as they get older.

I know so many people that were tiny babies that are big kids/adults and the opposite as well.

Posted 7/31/12 3:07 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

Posted by CrankyPants

I also don't think a child's size as an infant really has much to do with their size as they get older.

I know so many people that were tiny babies that are big kids/adults and the opposite as well.



THIS... my SIL was born at 8.5 lbs and was one giant roll Chat Icon now at 31, she is 5'8 and probably 115lbs!

Posted 7/31/12 3:08 PM
 

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Posted 7/31/12 3:09 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

I agree with some others, and I would likely be concerned too. I think I'd get an appt with a GI, esp since she's eating and snacking well.

Posted 7/31/12 3:13 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

My dd is petite. At 15 months she was 20 lbs.
Our ped said that she will always be petite
She is healthy and thriving, she's just a peanut.

Posted 7/31/12 3:13 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

ds#1 was ALWAYS in the 5-10% percentiles. Even now at 4 years old, he's only 32 lbs. I'll have to go back and look to see what he was at 15 months, but as long as she's still on the growth chart and growing (even if slowly), then she's fine.

ds#1 is 6 months old and in the 8%.

we just make small kids i guess. Chat Icon

ETA: i just looked and he was 20lbs at 16 months. So no i don't think you have anything to worry about. But if it will make you feel better, then get a 2nd opinion. Chat Icon

ETA#2- ds#1 has always eaten a lot too. He's a BIG eater.

Message edited 7/31/2012 3:19:29 PM.

Posted 7/31/12 3:15 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

Posted by itsbabytime

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Posted by Lisa982006

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That said - a funny aside, I think most babies/toddlers these days are just TOO big and that is what we are comparing our little munchkins too. I remember at my DD 2 yr appt I pointed out to the DR. that my 1 yr old niece weighed more than my DD (she was 26lbs - my niece at the time) - the Ped said - Um, I think it is your niece that has the problem not your DD Chat Icon Chat Icon

Just think if this continues she will never have to struggle with her weight - we are not all meant to be big! Chat Icon Chat Icon



Chat Icon Why would your niece have a problem?

To the OP: trust your gut. IMO, that seems small. For peace of mind, I'd get a second opinion. You need to be the one to take charge of your DDs health if you feel like something is wrong. I've had to do it for my own DD



My ped felt that was on the high end for weight - which is just as unhealthy as being underweight.



no offense but thats a dumb assessment for a ped to make about a child he's never even seen.

eta- K I answered you on the other board Chat Icon



WOW! I mean really, sensitive much? I was just trying to make the OP feel better with something that made me feel better. My ped wasn't making any "assessment" of anyone!

This is how the conversation went -

Me - Dr. do you think my DD is doing ok weight wise I mean she is only in the 25th % for weight and everyone in my family is always telling me she is so small.

Ped - she is doing great! She is growing on her own curve just fine, gaining weight every visit, bloodwork is normal, she is ahead in her milestones, I would not worry at all. Why is your family giving you a problem? She looks fine to me.

Me - Well, my niece just turned 1 and weighs xyz (i put 26lbs but, now that I think about it it may have been 28 but who cares) and she weighs more than my DD at 2!

Ped - Your daughter is fine. I think it may be your niece that has the problem.

This is a problem for you why? Do you think the healthier child is always the bigger one? Do you think being off the charts or high 90 percentile is always a healthy weight for a toddler? I'm confused by all these posts and why people are taking offense to this suggestion that being too big is not a good thing either while there are posters telling a mother her DD is unhealthy just because she is small DESPITE her ped saying she is just fine! By your logic if there is something wrong at 5th percentile there is probably something wrong at 95th as well!



People with smaller babies are not the only sensitive ones- so yea, maybe I am sensitive. Each kid grows at their own rate- your smaller child, my big fat kid- they are all perfect in their own way.

I just don't understand a ped-- a professional- telling you maybe your neice has a problem- because it could be that she's also as tall as she is heavy. That was my point. nothing else.

Posted 7/31/12 3:17 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

Holy shit I cannot believe a thread like THIS turned into drama.

Wow!

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Posted 7/31/12 3:22 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

Posted by NervousNell

Holy shit I cannot believe a thread like THIS turned into drama.

Wow!

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Well, I think when a poster expresses a legitimate concern about her baby's small size, and the discussion turns into "Hey, at least she won't be fat".... you have to expect the fur to fly Chat Icon

Posted 7/31/12 3:24 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

You're her mom and you feel like something is wrong. Go with your gut instinct and get a second opinion. She could just be petite but what would worry me is the fact that she is a great eater and its so hard for her to gain weight. It could be nothing, or it could be the beginning of something. I would go to another pediatrician and take it from there. As long as she is eating and drinking regularly, she'll be fine. Chat Icon

Posted 7/31/12 3:27 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

Posted by itsbabytime

Oh geez. again? No, it was not me - it was my ped. Or at least your reading of what my ped said. YOU are actually the one that told this stranger her child seems small to you - yes, in your opinion - a child you never met whose ped thinks she is perfectly fine.



I didnt say I went to medical school. If this were my DD, I would be concerned. The same way I was concerned about my own daughter when she was gaining 3 lbs a month until she was 6 months old. I thought she was too big. I ended up switching Drs and getting various opinions, having her thyroid checked etc....

My point was she should thrust her instincts. Absolutely NOTHING is wrong with my DD it turns out; she is just big for her age (30lbs and 36 inches at 19 months)

Im sorry if I made your ped's word and opinions into your own. Im sure it bothers the OP when people make comments about her DDs size just like it bothers me when people make comments about my DDs size. Kids just dont need that stigma on them.

ETA: If my ped had implied my niece had a "problem", instead of laughing and calling it a "funny aside" I would have asked if they were serious instead of gloating in the fact that my child wasnt as fat.

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Posted 7/31/12 3:29 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

Posted by computergirl

Posted by NervousNell

Holy shit I cannot believe a thread like THIS turned into drama.

Wow!

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Well, I think when a poster expresses a legitimate concern about her baby's small size, and the discussion turns into "Hey, at least she won't be fat".... you have to expect the fur to fly Chat Icon



Yeah, it kind of made me feel like when I see a kid pet my cat in the wrong direction.
I hope that made sense to someone Chat Icon
Honestly though with my DD being in the 95%ile I was a bit taken aback by previous comments.

To the OP, I wouldn't be overly concerned but for your own peace of mind get a second opinion Chat Icon

Posted 7/31/12 3:29 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

All my kids are small - not even on the charts for the first 2 years. I have 16 month DD and we are a bit late for her 15 month appointment, but I'd say her stats are very similar to your DD.
Also like your DD she loves to eat!

Some kids are just small. I don't worry about things I can't change.

Posted 7/31/12 3:35 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

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All my kids are small - not even on the charts for the first 2 years. I have 16 month DD and we are a bit late for her 15 month appointment, but I'd say her stats are very similar to your DD.
Also like your DD she loves to eat! She was 17lbs at her 12 month appointment.

Some kids are just small. I don't worry about things I can't change.



ETA: My twins were 25lb and 26lbs at their 3 year appointment, and they eat fine and are perfect Chat Icon

Posted 7/31/12 3:38 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

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Posted 7/31/12 3:49 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

I'd talk to a different doctor if I were you. Even if it's just for peace of mind. You say you're "really really worried" - why carry that around for 3 months until your next appointment?

This has nothing to do with her being "thin" and it's not the same concern as a child being overweight; when a child dips below the 5th percentile, she might be experiencing "failure to thrive." It raises questions about overall mental/social development. Is she hitting her milestones? Does she smile, make eye contact, interact with other babies, stuff like that? What makes me feel good, though is that your ped isn't worried: it must mean that he thinks your DD is right on track. If it makes you feel better to hear that from a second expert, then go talk to someone else. Is there another doctor in the practice you'd want to talk to?

Posted 7/31/12 3:53 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

Oh, the drama of this board!

There are growth curves for a reason: kids follow the pattern... but have different values that they follow. Your ped should be watching how your DC is doing on the curve. Ask to see the curve & the plots: as long as she isn't "falling off"... you are OK.

My kid's head was super tiny. Had a HUGE chubbster with a teeny head... but it grew along it's own curve.

If you are really concerned, try another ped (but you need ALL her records). Does your group have another ped in it? It may be a less invasive way to go... go to your group when your own MD is not there for whatever problem (maybe she's had a cough?) & see what the other Dr thinks about her growth pattern.

I bet she's fine, esp if she eats well.

Posted 7/31/12 4:12 PM
 

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I'm really really worried about DD.

I think the women who are arguing about something so ridiculous should just stop going back and forth and respect the OP, who is seriously concerned for her daughter. She is looking for help and advice, not bitchiness.

OP- If you are concerned, I agree you should get a second opinion. My DD is small, as well. She is barely 30 pounds at 3 years old.

Posted 7/31/12 4:25 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

my niece was VERY VERY VERY tiny just like your daughter. ate like a champ, was happy and healthy. just didn't gain weight much at all. at 5-6 years old she still was wearing 3t clothes! but she was totally healthy.

she is turning 10 on Thursday and over the last 2 years has totally filled out. I understand you are nervous and you should talk to someone else, maybe see another ped in your practice even just to get an idea, but she is probably FINE. Chat Icon

Posted 7/31/12 4:26 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

Posted by Pray4Baby2010

Posted by itsbabytime

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Posted by itsbabytime

Posted by Lisa982006

Posted by itsbabytime



That said - a funny aside, I think most babies/toddlers these days are just TOO big and that is what we are comparing our little munchkins too. I remember at my DD 2 yr appt I pointed out to the DR. that my 1 yr old niece weighed more than my DD (she was 26lbs - my niece at the time) - the Ped said - Um, I think it is your niece that has the problem not your DD Chat Icon Chat Icon

Just think if this continues she will never have to struggle with her weight - we are not all meant to be big! Chat Icon Chat Icon



Chat Icon Why would your niece have a problem?

To the OP: trust your gut. IMO, that seems small. For peace of mind, I'd get a second opinion. You need to be the one to take charge of your DDs health if you feel like something is wrong. I've had to do it for my own DD



My ped felt that was on the high end for weight - which is just as unhealthy as being underweight.



no offense but thats a dumb assessment for a ped to make about a child he's never even seen.

eta- K I answered you on the other board Chat Icon



WOW! I mean really, sensitive much? I was just trying to make the OP feel better with something that made me feel better. My ped wasn't making any "assessment" of anyone!

This is how the conversation went -

Me - Dr. do you think my DD is doing ok weight wise I mean she is only in the 25th % for weight and everyone in my family is always telling me she is so small.

Ped - she is doing great! She is growing on her own curve just fine, gaining weight every visit, bloodwork is normal, she is ahead in her milestones, I would not worry at all. Why is your family giving you a problem? She looks fine to me.

Me - Well, my niece just turned 1 and weighs xyz (i put 26lbs but, now that I think about it it may have been 28 but who cares) and she weighs more than my DD at 2!

Ped - Your daughter is fine. I think it may be your niece that has the problem.

This is a problem for you why? Do you think the healthier child is always the bigger one? Do you think being off the charts or high 90 percentile is always a healthy weight for a toddler? I'm confused by all these posts and why people are taking offense to this suggestion that being too big is not a good thing either while there are posters telling a mother her DD is unhealthy just because she is small DESPITE her ped saying she is just fine! By your logic if there is something wrong at 5th percentile there is probably something wrong at 95th as well!



People with smaller babies are not the only sensitive ones- so yea, maybe I am sensitive. Each kid grows at their own rate- your smaller child, my big fat kid- they are all perfect in their own way.

I just don't understand a ped-- a professional- telling you maybe your neice has a problem- because it could be that she's also as tall as she is heavy. That was my point. nothing else.



your kid is NOT big and fat!!! he is perfect. i bet he ends up being an awesome linebacker Chat Icon just like mine. popular with the ladies and a college scholarship to boot!

Posted 7/31/12 4:29 PM
 

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Re: I'm really really worried about DD.

Posted by maymama

Posted by Pray4Baby2010

Posted by itsbabytime

Posted by Pray4Baby2010

Posted by itsbabytime

Posted by Lisa982006

Posted by itsbabytime



That said - a funny aside, I think most babies/toddlers these days are just TOO big and that is what we are comparing our little munchkins too. I remember at my DD 2 yr appt I pointed out to the DR. that my 1 yr old niece weighed more than my DD (she was 26lbs - my niece at the time) - the Ped said - Um, I think it is your niece that has the problem not your DD Chat Icon Chat Icon

Just think if this continues she will never have to struggle with her weight - we are not all meant to be big! Chat Icon Chat Icon



Chat Icon Why would your niece have a problem?

To the OP: trust your gut. IMO, that seems small. For peace of mind, I'd get a second opinion. You need to be the one to take charge of your DDs health if you feel like something is wrong. I've had to do it for my own DD



My ped felt that was on the high end for weight - which is just as unhealthy as being underweight.



no offense but thats a dumb assessment for a ped to make about a child he's never even seen.

eta- K I answered you on the other board Chat Icon



WOW! I mean really, sensitive much? I was just trying to make the OP feel better with something that made me feel better. My ped wasn't making any "assessment" of anyone!

This is how the conversation went -

Me - Dr. do you think my DD is doing ok weight wise I mean she is only in the 25th % for weight and everyone in my family is always telling me she is so small.

Ped - she is doing great! She is growing on her own curve just fine, gaining weight every visit, bloodwork is normal, she is ahead in her milestones, I would not worry at all. Why is your family giving you a problem? She looks fine to me.

Me - Well, my niece just turned 1 and weighs xyz (i put 26lbs but, now that I think about it it may have been 28 but who cares) and she weighs more than my DD at 2!

Ped - Your daughter is fine. I think it may be your niece that has the problem.

This is a problem for you why? Do you think the healthier child is always the bigger one? Do you think being off the charts or high 90 percentile is always a healthy weight for a toddler? I'm confused by all these posts and why people are taking offense to this suggestion that being too big is not a good thing either while there are posters telling a mother her DD is unhealthy just because she is small DESPITE her ped saying she is just fine! By your logic if there is something wrong at 5th percentile there is probably something wrong at 95th as well!



People with smaller babies are not the only sensitive ones- so yea, maybe I am sensitive. Each kid grows at their own rate- your smaller child, my big fat kid- they are all perfect in their own way.

I just don't understand a ped-- a professional- telling you maybe your neice has a problem- because it could be that she's also as tall as she is heavy. That was my point. nothing else.



your kid is NOT big and fat!!! he is perfect. i bet he ends up being an awesome linebacker Chat Icon just like mine. popular with the ladies and a college scholarship to boot!



so what are you saying? my 98% baby girl is going to be a huge linebacker?


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I'm jk. As my ped puts it, somebody has to be at the low end of the percentile chart and somebody has to be at the high end. That's just how it is and it just goes to show what a big range of "normal" is for babies.

My baby girl was born big 9 lbs 1 oz and has been following her growth curve and I'm told by my ped that she will be tall like her parents.

BUT I think a mother's intuition shouldn't be ignored so I'd get a second opinion since you are concerned.

Posted 7/31/12 4:43 PM
 
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