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I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding UPDATE

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TnJ2007
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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding

nothing to be ashamed about!! you're taking care of your LO and thats what matters!!

Posted 10/15/10 2:48 PM
 
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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding

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Posted 10/15/10 2:54 PM
 

Mrs-D-Girl
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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding

I did not BF and nor did I even try.

It's not for everyone and at first like you I thought I was going to make up something when people asked, saying I tried, etc.. and then said F-that and it is what it is. He is my baby Chat Icon

Posted 10/15/10 2:55 PM
 

Kelly9904
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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding

I have never felt ashamed. Actually IRL I know more people who FF without ever giving BF a try than any other way.

I tried it. I used to say I am Formula feeding while supplementing with BM. For 4 weeks I pretty much FF and BF maybe 1x a day. at 4 weeks I was like really why am I doing this.

My DS is happy, healthy and very smart. I can't complain.

I laughed when a friend who is not a parent gave me some statistic about how BF increases IQ. I asked if they tested how genetics played a role in that IQ because seriously I doubt with every ounce of my being that my DS would be any smarter had I chose to BF.

She is a very by the book person...I told her I cant wait to see what BOOK she chooses to follow when SHE becomes a parent!

Posted 10/15/10 2:55 PM
 

nov04libride
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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding

Posted by NervousNell

I am ashamed of nothing.
I never once in my entire adult life had a desire to breastfeed.
I wasn't going to "try" it.
I wasn't going to "see how it went"
I wasn't going to "think about it"

NEVER EVER was it even a thought.

NEVER EVER did I feel guilty for that either.
Maybe there is something majorly wrong with me.
Maybe I shouldn't have reproduced
Maybe I don't have the mom gene.

However, I see my DD thriving, healthy and meeting developmental milestones EARLY every single day.
All this on formula.
And that is enough for me.

And if anyone DARES question me they will get ripped a new arse and get to hear my views on the subject-which aren't popular but I dont' give a shyt.
So far nobody has questioned me! Maybe they can sense it! Chat Icon

ETA- the hospital never questioned me once on the matter. When I delivered they asked- are you breastfeeding? I said no. They marked the chart and that was the last I heard of the word breastfeeding for the rest of my stay.



Same for me! I really resent it when people also say that the BF bond is like no other. Chat Icon

Posted 10/15/10 3:10 PM
 

Ladybug3
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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding

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I decided before DS was born that I was not going to breastfeed. I knew that it was not for me. I give people who do breastfeed a lot of credit. I never thought twice about only giving DS formula. Everyone has to do what works for them.

Posted 10/15/10 3:18 PM
 

Sweets13
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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding

Posted by nov04libride

I really resent it when people also say that the BF bond is like no other. Chat Icon



Chat Icon is what I do when I hear or read that comment. I carried my child for 9 months. WE bonded. Chat Icon

Message edited 10/15/2010 3:36:44 PM.

Posted 10/15/10 3:35 PM
 

NervousNell
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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding

Posted by Sweets13

Posted by nov04libride

I really resent it when people also say that the BF bond is like no other. Chat Icon



Chat Icon is what I do when I hear or read that comment. I carried my child for 9 months. WE bonded. Chat Icon



Me too! Such a dumb comment.
Like sucking on my boob is going to make her bond better with me.
Please.

Posted 10/15/10 3:44 PM
 

MetsGirl07
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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by Sweets13

Posted by nov04libride

I really resent it when people also say that the BF bond is like no other. Chat Icon



Chat Icon is what I do when I hear or read that comment. I carried my child for 9 months. WE bonded. Chat Icon



Me too! Such a dumb comment.
Like sucking on my boob is going to make her bond better with me.
Please.



Chat Icon i feel the same way..

Posted 10/15/10 3:46 PM
 

neener1211
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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding UPDATE

Posted by BrinaEsq

UPDATE

I just wanna say I didn't post this to hate on bfers/ create DRAMA. I think it's effed up that another thread had to be created called, "Onto the other side".

Come on!! Some people (including me) got teary eyed during this thread.

Some people are so friggin ARRGGHH



I agree with you, this thread was NOT about how great it is to FF, it was about how people criticize Formula Feeders and our feelings on it. It was NOT about FF being better than BF at all. The other post had me Chat Icon too, bc we see so many BF posts and about how great it is, adding another one telling us about the bonds, how free it is, how natural it is, implies that FF is no good.

Eh, drama will ensue, at the end of the day, no one is better than anyone else for what they do. So as long as no one claims 'they don't know why anyone in their right mind' would choose one over the other, do what's best for you.

Posted 10/15/10 3:58 PM
 

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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding UPDATE

Posted by neener1211

Posted by BrinaEsq

UPDATE

I just wanna say I didn't post this to hate on bfers/ create DRAMA. I think it's effed up that another thread had to be created called, "Onto the other side".

Come on!! Some people (including me) got teary eyed during this thread.

Some people are so friggin ARRGGHH



I agree with you, this thread was NOT about how great it is to FF, it was about how people criticize Formula Feeders and our feelings on it. It was NOT about FF being better than BF at all. The other post had me Chat Icon too, bc we see so many BF posts and about how great it is, adding another one telling us about the bonds, how free it is, how natural it is, implies that FF is no good.

Eh, drama will ensue, at the end of the day, no one is better than anyone else for what they do. So as long as no one claims 'they don't know why anyone in their right mind' would choose one over the other, do what's best for you.



I agree Chat Icon

Posted 10/15/10 3:59 PM
 

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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding UPDATE

Posted by brownie

Posted by neener1211

Posted by BrinaEsq

UPDATE

I just wanna say I didn't post this to hate on bfers/ create DRAMA. I think it's effed up that another thread had to be created called, "Onto the other side".

Come on!! Some people (including me) got teary eyed during this thread.

Some people are so friggin ARRGGHH



I agree with you, this thread was NOT about how great it is to FF, it was about how people criticize Formula Feeders and our feelings on it. It was NOT about FF being better than BF at all. The other post had me Chat Icon too, bc we see so many BF posts and about how great it is, adding another one telling us about the bonds, how free it is, how natural it is, implies that FF is no good.

Eh, drama will ensue, at the end of the day, no one is better than anyone else for what they do. So as long as no one claims 'they don't know why anyone in their right mind' would choose one over the other, do what's best for you.



I agree Chat Icon



They're eating me alive. I don't care. I think it was very insensitive for someone to start that bfing thread in response to this one. I stand by that. Whatever- I thought today was a really good day on LIF where a lot of mommies connected but of course it has to end in drama.

Posted 10/15/10 4:07 PM
 

Xelindrya
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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding UPDATE

Posted by brownie

Posted by neener1211

Posted by BrinaEsq

UPDATE

I just wanna say I didn't post this to hate on bfers/ create DRAMA. I think it's effed up that another thread had to be created called, "Onto the other side".

Come on!! Some people (including me) got teary eyed during this thread.

Some people are so friggin ARRGGHH



I agree with you, this thread was NOT about how great it is to FF, it was about how people criticize Formula Feeders and our feelings on it. It was NOT about FF being better than BF at all. The other post had me Chat Icon too, bc we see so many BF posts and about how great it is, adding another one telling us about the bonds, how free it is, how natural it is, implies that FF is no good.

Eh, drama will ensue, at the end of the day, no one is better than anyone else for what they do. So as long as no one claims 'they don't know why anyone in their right mind' would choose one over the other, do what's best for you.



I agree Chat Icon



I have to agree too.
Even if it wasnt done maliciously its kinda making the point of how FF are outcast.

I mean its as if I started a Thread saying..

"Back to THIS side of the breast: lets post why we love FF and how happy/healthy our children and our lives are?"

I haven't even opened that other thread beause its an invitation to drama
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ETA: I opened it but there was such a funny post I couldnt help myself! Chat Icon

Message edited 10/15/2010 5:09:39 PM.

Posted 10/15/10 4:13 PM
 

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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding UPDATE

Ehh, still my point got lost on those threads- as evidenced by the "bf vs. ff spinoff thread". Whatever. I give up. It wasn't insensitive for someone to post a "BFING IS AWESOME AND THE BEST" thread right after this thread. Enough. Chat Icon

Posted 10/15/10 4:41 PM
 

neener1211
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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding UPDATE

Posted by BrinaEsq

Ehh, still my point got lost on those threads- as evidenced by the "bf vs. ff spinoff thread". Whatever. I give up. It wasn't insensitive for someone to post a "BFING IS AWESOME AND THE BEST" thread right after this thread. Enough. Chat Icon



Agreed.

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Posted 10/15/10 4:42 PM
 

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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding UPDATE

Posted by BrinaEsq


UPDATE

I just wanna say I didn't post this to hate on bfers/ create DRAMA. I think it's effed up that another thread had to be created called, "Onto the other side".

Come on!! Some people (including me) got teary eyed during this thread.

Some people are so friggin ARRGGHH



Brina: I, for one, appreciated this thread a lot, especially in lieu of negativety ff feeders face as of late (society, people in general). It is always nice to hear another side.

We are all adults here so lets be honest, sometimes it is very easy to see between the lines when another thread is "conveniently" created. I do enjoy this board and love to hear from all sides (even if they differ), but we would be kidding ourselves if we didn't say that the timing of certain threads will add to some feeling hurt.

Posted 10/15/10 4:43 PM
 

kathleeng

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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding UPDATE

nm posted twiceChat Icon

Message edited 10/15/2010 4:46:58 PM.

Posted 10/15/10 4:44 PM
 

emomma17
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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding UPDATE

Posted by neener1211

Posted by BrinaEsq

Ehh, still my point got lost on those threads- as evidenced by the "bf vs. ff spinoff thread". Whatever. I give up. It wasn't insensitive for someone to post a "BFING IS AWESOME AND THE BEST" thread right after this thread. Enough. Chat Icon



Agreed.

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I agree...I kind of just thought that it was poor timing is all. I saw the title and my initial reaction was ... here we go!

Posted 10/15/10 4:46 PM
 

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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding UPDATE

Posted by emomma17

Posted by neener1211

Posted by BrinaEsq

Ehh, still my point got lost on those threads- as evidenced by the "bf vs. ff spinoff thread". Whatever. I give up. It wasn't insensitive for someone to post a "BFING IS AWESOME AND THE BEST" thread right after this thread. Enough. Chat Icon



Agreed.

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I agree...I kind of just thought that it was poor timing is all. I saw the title and my initial reaction was ... here we go!



Agreed! Chat Icon

Posted 10/15/10 4:47 PM
 

Sweets13
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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding UPDATE

It ABSOLUTELY was in poor timing but I don't think the OP meant to post that thread to cause drama.

Posted 10/15/10 4:49 PM
 

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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding UPDATE

Never even gave BF a thought.

Never even had the "MAYBE I should give it a whirl" thought once.

But maybe since my older son is "older" than most of the DC's on the board, almost 9 years ago when he was born, NO ONE questioned my choice to FF. Glad they didn't or else they would have gotten an earful Chat Icon .

Posted 10/15/10 5:00 PM
 

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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding UPDATE

I Tried BFing my DS. It lasted maybe a month. I couldn't do it anymore.
Low Supply and a hungry baby= Stressed out mommy. (we supplemented)

DD was in the NICU for a month.
I pumped and brought the milk everyday.
They also supplemented formula for her if they ran out or I couldn't get there on time.

BFing simply wasn't for me. Both my kids had formula. They are happy and healthy and that's all that matters to me.

Message edited 10/15/2010 5:08:40 PM.

Posted 10/15/10 5:08 PM
 

maybebaby
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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding UPDATE

I didn't feel any guilt over not bf'ing. I actually did it for 6 weeks with Ryan and i pretty much hated it! lol.

Formula is my best friend. My kids grew and thrived, i didn't worry about mastitis, not having anyone else feed them, leaky boobs etc..

I don't buy into the "breast is best" statement either. So many moms kill themselves to do it and hate it..they waste months on something they loathe b/c they think they HAVE to when they could have been ff'ing all along.

To the moms that bf and love it? great! I think its wonderful for them. For me, eh..i could care less.

Posted 10/15/10 5:27 PM
 

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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding UPDATE

Posted by brownie

Posted by emomma17

Posted by neener1211

Posted by BrinaEsq

Ehh, still my point got lost on those threads- as evidenced by the "bf vs. ff spinoff thread". Whatever. I give up. It wasn't insensitive for someone to post a "BFING IS AWESOME AND THE BEST" thread right after this thread. Enough. Chat Icon



Agreed.

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I agree...I kind of just thought that it was poor timing is all. I saw the title and my initial reaction was ... here we go!



Agreed! Chat Icon



the problem is that this thread was "why i DO FF"

the other one is "why I DONT ff" when it should be "why i DO BF"

would have been less drama the other way Chat Icon

Posted 10/15/10 5:29 PM
 

MomMom
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Re: I want to get something off my chest about formula feeding UPDATE

When your child is older, you will see...it really doesn't matter what nourished them, they will be just as equally happy and healthy no matter what method of feeding.

Message edited 1/21/2014 1:50:00 PM.

Posted 10/15/10 5:36 PM
 
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