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Bxgell2
Perfection
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Beth
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I hate my family
So, I fessed up to my family about what's been going on.
My father's response: "oh"
My brother's response: "Well, you have Alex, you should just be happy with that"
My mother's response: "I'm sorry, but hey, that's life"
Thanks for the support. Love you all too.
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Carolyn
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Member since 5/07 5351 total posts
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Twin mommy
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Re: I hate my family
 I'm sorry. I guess sometimes people don't know what to say or how to handle things. It s*cks.
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| Posted 12/12/07 1:18 PM |
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LisaW
Time for me to FLY!
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Did I ever tell you that I hate people?
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Re: I hate my family
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| Posted 12/12/07 1:27 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
22 Months?!!!!
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And If That Isn't A True Blue Miracle
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Re: I hate my family
are you f*cking kidding me?
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| Posted 12/12/07 1:28 PM |
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hopin4baby
LIF Adolescent
Member since 4/07 759 total posts
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Allison
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Re: I hate my family
I'm sorry. I hope they realize how insensitive they were and apologize. Sometimes when peole are faced with a difficult situation, they can act inappropriately.
People also just don't understand unless they have been through it.
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| Posted 12/12/07 1:52 PM |
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Domino
Always My Miracle
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Re: I hate my family
My family doesnt quite get it either. I tell her about my bloodwork and the PCOS and the not ovulating and then she says something like "You two just need to 'do it every day'". I feel like she's not even listening to me. If it was that simple I wouldnt be PUTTING myself through this
DH on the other hand thinks he's being supportive by saying I love you no matter what and I didnt marry you to have children I married you because I love you" And I know what he's trying to say but its not helpful. I want him to say We WILL have a baby. No room for failure!!!!
I think people just dont know what to say and really dont understand
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| Posted 12/12/07 2:00 PM |
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jellybean78
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Re: I hate my family
My thoughts exaclty. Sorry people are insensitive
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| Posted 12/12/07 2:36 PM |
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kmac
Two under two!
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Kris
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Re: I hate my family
I'm so sorry. I think sometimes people just don't know how to respond and really don't understand what we are going through. It's good to have people on here to talk about it with because we all know how hard it is.
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| Posted 12/12/07 3:58 PM |
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MrsPornStar
Partners in crime
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Re: I hate my family
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| Posted 12/12/07 10:56 PM |
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dm24angel
Happiness
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Donna
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Re: I hate my family
That stinks...
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| Posted 12/12/07 11:07 PM |
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astroqueen74
Vibrant Health
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Karina
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Re: I hate my family
I am very very sorry, that you'd experience that from your family.
However, I want to say, that maybe they just don't know what to say to you and express it appropiately.
I am sure they don't know what to say?? that does happen, and you know them better than us here.
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| Posted 12/12/07 11:37 PM |
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rose825
Best Friends
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Re: I hate my family
I have gotten very similar responses from some of my family. I know in my case these things were said meaning to be helpful and comforting. Its amazing how people just dont get it sometimes.
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| Posted 12/12/07 11:38 PM |
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Gertyrae
Peace out Homies!
Member since 5/05 20046 total posts
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Gerty ®
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Re: I hate my family
Wow....that's amazing
I think your mom's response is the most shocking.
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| Posted 12/13/07 6:52 AM |
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runlikethewind
Love my babies!
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Re: I hate my family
People just don't realize the impact their words can have on others.
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| Posted 12/13/07 7:03 AM |
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Bxgell2
Perfection
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Beth
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Re: I hate my family
Thanks everyone
Unfortunately, I'm not all that suprised by the reactions. This has been the running theme in my family for years, with the exception of my father, who is just too overwhelmed with his own health issues to take an interest in much of anything else.
To my mother's credit, she followed up her call with a more sincere email expressing her sympathy. I think she may have sensed that her initial response really upset me 
It doesn't matter because I have all the support I need on here, from my incredibly supportive friends, and from my amazing DH 
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| Posted 12/13/07 8:07 AM |
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LaurenExp
Waiting patiently for baby sis
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L-Diddy EDD 11/11/11 :)
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Re: I hate my family
I'm so sorry for their reactions. No one can really understand our plight until they've walked a mile in our shoes.
You know we're here and we'd NEVER say anything like that
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| Posted 12/13/07 8:21 AM |
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BigB
C & J are 10!
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Stacey
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Re: I hate my family
It is really hard for them to truly understand what is going on! I remember when I was younger (before I was married) I knew I had PCOS and that having children would be hard and my mother responded with "If you want something bad enough, you will do what is necessary" And I thought to myself, "This lady is nuts! She has no idea what it is like to learn you may never have children!
She was uber supportive duriing the entire process and tried to learn as much as she could, eventhough she confused most of it! LOL....But, in the end she was right!
People who haven't experienced infertility don't know how to respond to it! Know that we are here for you!
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| Posted 12/13/07 9:16 AM |
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MrsRbk
<3 <3 <3 <3
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Michelle
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Re: I hate my family
Posted by BigB
People who haven't experienced infertility don't know how to respond to it! Know that we are here for you!
Exactly!
My mother just the other night when I told her we were moving to IVF in January, told me that due to our age, perhaps we should forget IVF and move right to adoption. Gee..thanks for the support mom.
Message edited 12/13/2007 9:58:03 AM.
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| Posted 12/13/07 9:57 AM |
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Mommy2Boys
My Boys!!!!
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C
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Re: I hate my family
That's horrible. I am sorry your family is not more supportive of you
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| Posted 12/13/07 10:12 AM |
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DRMom
Two in Blue
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Melissa
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Re: I hate my family
Posted by Domino
My family doesnt quite get it either. I tell her about my bloodwork and the PCOS and the not ovulating and then she says something like "You two just need to 'do it every day'". I feel like she's not even listening to me. If it was that simple I wouldnt be PUTTING myself through this
DH on the other hand thinks he's being supportive by saying I love you no matter what and I didnt marry you to have children I married you because I love you" And I know what he's trying to say but its not helpful. I want him to say We WILL have a baby. No room for failure!!!!
I think people just dont know what to say and really dont understand
There is nothing worse than people who have no idea what they are talking about giving you advice
To the OP I am sorry...people are insensitive..
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| Posted 12/13/07 10:27 AM |
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JsWife
His laugh, Her smile
Member since 12/06 2902 total posts
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Patricia
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Re: I hate my family
Posted by Gertyrae
Wow....that's amazing
I think your mom's response is the most shocking.
ITA!!
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| Posted 12/13/07 11:51 AM |
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Diane
Hope is Contagious....catch it
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Re: I hate my family
Posted by JsWife
Posted by Gertyrae
Wow....that's amazing
I think your mom's response is the most shocking.
ITA!!
I also agree
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| Posted 12/13/07 12:00 PM |
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Red
spring is in the air
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helen
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Re: I hate my family
I would be more upset at their responses than the situation at this point - and you have done sooo much for all 3 of them
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| Posted 12/13/07 12:45 PM |
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Re: I hate my family
I'm sorry thats how they are - I know my family would be the same way if I told them this as well...
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| Posted 12/13/07 6:51 PM |
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justshir
LIF Adolescent
Member since 8/05 692 total posts
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S
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Re: I hate my family
my MIL's comments weren't so nice either. what's wrong with these people?! jsut try to forget about their retarded comments adn focus on what needs to be done. what a bunch of effers!!!!!!
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