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nbc188
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Honest Opinions- MIL question
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Posted 10/23/07 3:17 PM  |
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ddunne2
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
I'd be annoyed and let MIL know that I had already purchased something and politely suggest she exchange it for another outfit or something specific that your DC will need for the upcoming winter.
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| Posted 10/23/07 3:20 PM |
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LMF123
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
I totally understand how you feel. My MIL was handed down a onesie that looks like a Santa costume and, while it is cute, that is not what i had dreamed he would be wearing on his first Christmas!
Just tell her you have something already but thanks! She could always wear them for other hoilday parties or dinners out during holiday time but not for the actual holidays.
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| Posted 10/23/07 3:22 PM |
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DanaRenee
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
I'd feel the exact same way ... perhaps next time you can say you already picked an outfit out (even if you didnt)!
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| Posted 10/23/07 3:23 PM |
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Gatsbygirl
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
Ugh..I could see my MIL doing this. You are the mom and it's your first Christmas as such. Nothing should take away from your experience of picking your childs outfit.
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| Posted 10/23/07 3:24 PM |
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Eireann
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
No, I would not be OK with that. I would politely tell her that I wanted to pick it out, or that I already had something in mind.
Can she pick out one for Christmas Eve or whatever or another holiday party while you pick out the "main" one? Is that a fair compromise?
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| Posted 10/23/07 3:25 PM |
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LuvMyBoys
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| Posted 10/23/07 3:25 PM |
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2girls4now
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
I would not be and am not ok with this.
edited to remove my personal rant
Message edited 10/23/2007 3:39:41 PM.
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pharmcat2000
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
Honestly, I can see both sides. I understand you being upset, as I would be too. But I can also see that your MIL was probably so happy/excited when she saw the dress she bought, and I wouldn't want to take that away from her either. Maybe your family celebrates Christmas eve as well, and you can put one dress on her for each? If not, I think I would just say thank you and then if you find something you like better just come up with an excuse like she spit up on it this morning, or it didn't fit or something to that effect. Or maybe, you'll be with your family on Christmas anyway and she won't even see your DD?
My MIL bought a dress for my DD for her first Easter and I had already bought one. We didn't see my MIL on Easter so it wasn't an issue. She wore the dress to another occasion and I just showed my MIL pics of her in the dress. What day she wore it was never questioned.
ETA: I'll take down my answer once you take down your question so that if you decide to use one of my excuses, nobody will see it later. 
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SuzyQ
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
Posted by Eireann
No, I would not be OK with that. I would politely tell her that I wanted to pick it out, or that I already had something in mind.
Can she pick out one for Christmas Eve or whatever or another holiday party while you pick out the "main" one? Is that a fair compromise?
I agree.
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MsMBV
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
Yes it would bother me. I would tell her I'm buying the holiday outfit.
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dandr10199
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
You know if the dress was pretty, why not havc her wear two dresses? One for the first ha;f of the day the other for the other half of the day. I know my DD will get her dress messy within a hour of wearing it, or soon after we eat.
Seriously, I can see you wanting to pick out her dress, but will having two dresses really be horrible? Not to be gross but what if your DD has an explosive diaper, or drops food all over it? Use MIL's dress as the "back up dress" and take a few pics with DD in it. Then, send her the pics after Christmas, trust me you will score MAJOR points here. MAJOR POINTS. DH will be happy because he won't feel that he has to referee the fighting, MIL will be happy and you will have a peaceful Christmas. JMHO.
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| Posted 10/23/07 3:55 PM |
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yankinmanc
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I think its sweet. I would make a point to put your daughter in that dress that your MIL bought for you, wear it until she gets food on it or spits up on it, and then change into the dress that you prefer!
Everybody is happy!
One thing I love about my MIL is that teensy tiny little gestures (like what I mentioned above) make her extremely happy...so why not try that.
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| Posted 10/23/07 3:58 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
It's not something I would ever have to worry about in a million years so I can't even really comment.
If I did have that issue - I would SO have a problem. My child - I pick out what they wear on the holidays. BOTTOM LINE! She can sure suggest cute things if she finds them - but it's not her place to buy all of the outfits your DD wears.
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ABCiverson
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
This just happened to me!!! I was so excited about buying my girls their x-mas dresses. I must admit when I found out the I was having another girl I was at first bummed. But part of what helped me get excited to have her was the idea of getting to dress her and her big sister up for the holidays. That to me is one of the best parts of being a mom to girls. Well my MIL just came to visit and she brought the dresses she bought the girls for x-mas. Even worse they are ugly and are the total oppisite of what I would have chosen. I was so angry. Of course I didn't say anything and now I wish I had. Its my daughters first x-mas. She got to dress her daughters for there first x-mas so why does she have the right to steal this moment away from me??? Ok Sorry I guess I really needed to vent.
To th OP.... Yes I would be mad!
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Stefanie
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
I would be annoyed. I probably would tell her that I want to choose what my daughter wears for her first christmas.
She had her chance to dress her kids. She shouldn't take that first time away from you.
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pmpkn087
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
I would tell her how you feel. Maybe something like "Actually, I wanted to be the one to pick her special outfits. I look forward to it."
To answer your question, no I would not be OK with her picking the outfit.
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nymommy2be
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
Posted by pmpkn087
I would tell her how you feel. Maybe something like "Actually, I wanted to be the one to pick her special outfits. I look forward to it."
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As for me, I wouldn't care. I don't really care too much about clothes. My mom bought Hayden's holiday outfits last year and my MIL buys him clothes all the time. I hardly buy anything.
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mommy0604
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
I would politely tell her that you have already gotten them a dress.
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nbc188
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
Message edited 3/24/2008 9:18:55 AM.
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nbc188
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
Posted by pharmcat2000
Honestly, I can see both sides. I understand you being upset, as I would be too. But I can also see that your MIL was probably so happy/excited when she saw the dress she bought, and I wouldn't want to take that away from her either. Maybe your family celebrates Christmas eve as well, and you can put one dress on her for each? If not, I think I would just say thank you and then if you find something you like better just come up with an excuse like she spit up on it this morning, or it didn't fit or something to that effect. Or maybe, you'll be with your family on Christmas anyway and she won't even see your DD?
My MIL bought a dress for my DD for her first Easter and I had already bought one. We didn't see my MIL on Easter so it wasn't an issue. She wore the dress to another occasion and I just showed my MIL pics of her in the dress. What day she wore it was never questioned.
ETA: I'll take down my answer once you take down your question so that if you decide to use one of my excuses, nobody will see it later.
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Janice
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
I put him in the homemade baptism outfit to be a good sport...but yes, I would be bothered.
I find this goes on a lot. I always sent BIL and SIL money or asked what nieces and nephews wanted. My BIL sent Josh an Easter outfit. I found that weird. If she wants to buy her dress, she should pay for it, but not pick it out.
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SkyzTheLimit
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
I feel for you because I'm going through the same thing right now. It started at Easter time and now it's the winter jacket and on to Thanksgiving and Christmas. The best is my husband told me I think she bought a winter jacket. My repsonse was well did she or didn't she. Oh she did. What color is it?? DH-I don't know. So now I can't buy the hat and gloves. 
I could ask but try to keep my distance and I really would rather not.
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| Posted 10/23/07 6:36 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Honest Opinions- MIL question
Honestly, I know I probably sound like a brat, but I'm not crazy about anyone buying DS clothes. i kow it sounds petty and vain, but I like to dress him the way I like to dress him. Thank goodness noone has try to pawn off any special occasion outfits on me, and I do dress him in gifted clothes when he's going to see the giver, even if I don't like it. My mom has bought DS a couple holiday outfits, but I pick them out and she pays for them.
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