Girls, I need your advice

I have 3 more mons of BC Pills left but in all honesty, Im SO done w/ them. I REALLY do not want to refill.

#1. I want to start TTC in Jan/Feb
#2. I always forget to take them

So..... i need some help telling DH. Hes all on board for a Jan/Feb TTC and so am i but Im ready to go off now and if it happens, it happens and gives my cycle time to get "normal" (before BC Pills, I had an abnormal cycle)

Re: Girls, I need your advice

Well January is technically only 3 months away anyway............and most people like to be off BC pills for that long to get it all out before conceiving.

I've been off since January and I only started this month to TTC. Just tell him the longer you are off, the better.

Re: Girls, I need your advice

I would definately go off of them now if you want to start in January. I understand being "done" with them too.

I would explain to him that your body needs a chance to adjust and your hormones need to balance out and it could be months before you are Oing regularly (not probable but a good argument ) and that you will use another barrier method from now until then. There are these vaginal films I used to use but DH said they sometimes numbed him or made him tingly or condoms or just pull and pray. Good luck.

Re: Girls, I need your advice

well, i want to TTC around Feb and i stopped the pill in august

Re: Girls, I need your advice

I think you need to be 100% honest with him. Tell him all of the facts. It is fine to go off of birth control now for Jan/Feb TTC and allow your body to adjust. If he truly wants to start TTC then, then he should be "in the know." Sometimes it can take a man a lil onger to be ready no matter how much info and paper work you show him - trust me I went through the same thing.

In other words, if that is the agreement you came to with him, and he still wants to wait to "officially" begin then, then you should either abstain on your fertile days (assuming you can pinpoint them) or use other methods of birth control. Since you seem to be pretty open with him, he deserves to know what could happen.

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My cycles were messed up so I told my DH that I wanted to come off BCP so my cycles could hopefully go back to normal. I was open and honest with him and for the 1st 3 months we were very careful. My 4th month off BCP we decided to officially start trying.

I would talk with you DH and let him know your thoughts and let him know it could take a few months for your period to become regular and your cycles to become normal.

Re: Girls, I need your advice

it sounds like you have made up your mind about going off the pill. i don't think there's anything wrong with giving yourself a few months to regulate before you offically start TTC. but you and your DH need to be on the same page whether you want to just see what happens or use another type of birth control. you may want to consider charting so that you can figure out when you ovulate. for now, you could avoid BD (or use condoms) leading up to and just after O and then when you decide to TTC, you can get right to it!

Re: Girls, I need your advice

if you are trying jan/feb, now is the time to stop taking pills to let your cycle regulate - everybody is different, i dont think i even ovulated the 1st 2 months, and my first month off was 40 days long!

Re: Girls, I need your advice

Oh Precious….I know you guys both so well….you need to CALMLY and rationally explain that it is a biological fact that your body needs time to adjust after having been on the pill so long. I know that will all the talk you (and i!!!!) do about babies, the husbands are totally freaked out so you need to make sure he believes that you are not doing this to try and get PG 3 months earlier or trick him into something. The most important thing is to be honest with him. He is so honest and virtuous that nothing would make him more upset than to find out you had stopped taking them and not told him…you know that. He just needs to understand WHY. The good thing is, no matter how smart men are, they haven’t got a clue about our bodies so he has no choice but to believe you, especially if you present him with fact. Call me if you need me! I miss you!