Gifts instead of $$ at a wedding

I'm going to a wedding for a family member and she had a very small shower. A lot of her gifts weren't purchased off her registry. I was thinking of buying a bunch for her wedding. I was thinking of giving her a card at the wedding with a pic of the items I purchased and have them shipped to her apt so she doesn't have to lug them or worry about them breaking in the transporting of them from reception to hotel to home.

I would spend exaclty what I would give in cash.

Good idea? Bad idea? Opinions?

There is a long story behind it too, and I would rather not give money.

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There is no law that you must give money as a wedding gift. If you want to send her gifts, and there's a lot left on her registry, than I think it's a great idea. It's less $$ she'd have to spend in the end anyway, if she had to complete her registry herself.

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I think it's a nice idea- my friend gave me 8 of my glasses- b/c she knew I wanted them- and this way I didn't have to by them for myself

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ok great. that's what i was hoping for!! I mean I probably would have done it anyway, but I wanted to see how people would perceive my idea.

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I'm sure someone will say something in my family...but whateve....

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i think it's a nice idea too... trust me i was very grateful for every penny we received; we needed it... but i also would have loved getting some of my china or crystal - its' just something that we have to go purchase down the line for ourselves anyway. if the stuff's on their registry, it's there for a reason. go for it!

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I think it's a great idea.

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A couple of people bought us gifts off our registry for our wedding - we loved it! They had it sent to us prior to the wedding so they didn't have to worry about getting it home or shipping while we were on our HM.

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I think it's a great idea. Anyone who has something to say can kiss your booty. It's not their gift, so they get no say.

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I think it's a great idea!!

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I think that is a great idea. She may just use the money to get the things she didn't get anyway, so this way she doesn't have too.

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GOOD GOOD GOOD idea!!!!!! I wish more people would have bought off of our reg. Don't get me wrong the money was nice and yea we just went and bought the stuff we needed but there is no sentimental value there. My sister bought us a bottle of wine and some wine glasses. I love them and everytime I look at them I remember when where and who I got them from. I took some wedding money and bought some plates and everyday glasses. They are just plates and glasses. No attachment just another wedding gift. I'm not trying to sound selfish but gifts are very personal and lets face it with money you may not spend it on the honeymoon or off of your reg, but to pay bills or what not. Go with the gifts........It means way more!!

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i think that is nice, bc maybe she wouldnt use the money to buy the things she needs. I received some gifts at my wedding adn i was very happy

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the only thing I would think about is whether they really need the cash or not.

If you think they are not strapped or saving for a house, something like that then I would go with the gift idea.

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I'll just throw another view in.

I didn't buy all of the rest of the things on my registry after the wedding - I reconsidered a lot of things. Also, after the wedding you get 10% off at some places. And you can save shipping fees

just another view, either way - a gift from the registry is thoughtful and generous.

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Personally, I would prefer money. Then she can spend it on the things she really wants/needs.

I understand she registered for these things, but that doesn't always mean she necessarily needs them.

We registered for certain things and our apt was just not big enough for everything we got. Plus - we needed more practical things like furniture.

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I'm all for gifts. That was the norm in the midwest where I grew up, not giving cash or checks, and I was a little disappointed that we had so few packages to open. Like someone said, the sentiment of remembering that a certain item was given by someone is missing when it's purchased yourself with cash they gave.

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I have to say that I love that idea.

we registered for a Kitchen Aid mixer and would have probably not bought it ourselves no matter how much $$ we got as wedding gifts. DH's aunt got it for us as a wedding gift and I am REALLY happy she did! I love that mixer

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Usually at a NY wedding I would only give money but if the situation fits, then go for it!!!

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Someone bought me 2 place settings of my china instead of $$.

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i've done that before

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I think it's a great idea!!!!!