Gender "blues"

Hi all, New here:)
Pregnant with my second girl! My husband and I are so incredibly excited but others are making us feel horrible about it. Ive gotten everything from sad looks to questions...
"Are you going to keep trying for a boy?"
"Is your husband ok with it?"
"You're not having anither shower bc it's another girl, right?"
Etc etc etc!

It's driving me crazy and also making me sad.

Just wondering, did anyone else ever have this happen to them?

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Those are just silly things people say. I'm sure you heard a lot of pregnancy remarks with your first. People feel like they have to say something...A lot of it is probably said more jokingly than you realize.
Two girls are great! I have three.

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Yes. I have two girls and the moment we told people our second was a girl we would get the you're trying for a third for a boy, right?!

Umm no. I'm very happy and blessed to have what we have and I don't feel incomplete bc I don't have a boy.

Ignore the idiots. People say stupid sht

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Thank you thank you! I feel like I'm going crazy over here! I feel so blessed and then people keep saying these horrible things and making me sad. It's awful.
Means so much that it's not just me ??

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I have two boys and I get the comments all the time. When I tell them I am perfectly happy with my boys and don't feel the need to 'try for a girl' they usually don't believe me. It's almost like they WANT me to be disappointed about not having a daughter. I don't know, people are weird. I still don't get it!

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Oh I'm so sorry! It's so mean and I just don't get it, personally I would never say that to anyone!!

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I just had twin boys everyone said to me when I was pregnant and nowncontinues to say so your going to have a 3rd to have a girl right? I tell them hell no and just because you have another doesn't mean it will be the opposite gender trying for the opposite gender should never be a reason to have a child! I shut people down so fast

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When I tell people I'm having my third boy, I get:
-looks of disappointment
-looks of shock/disgust/horror
-"oh too bad!"
-"your husband must be excited though" (but not me???)
-"well it's not the worst thing" (did I say that it was???)
-"you're still young... keep trying" (I prob will have more but not to try for a girl in particular... like any future boys I may have aren't worth trying for unless I have girls too... hate that implication)
-"it's your husband's fault" which actually makes me
-stories about how wonderful it is to have a daughter... ok why are you telling me that if you know I'm having a boy?

People are ridiculous!!!!! I just grin & nod, or roll my eyes right at them.

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Yes, I got this kind of crap from both family and strangers when pregnant with my DC2, my second boy. I know how bad it feels, but I would try not to let it bother me. People can be so rude when you're pregnant! I'd usually say "If only we can place orders for our children," because honestly, I did want one of each very badly.

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All the time. When I say I'm pregnant people immediately ask if I'm hoping for a boy or dh must so want a boy. When I say nope it's a girl and we are so happy then people say are you going to try for a boy next. I then say dh is getting neutered which makes them give me even more horrified looks.

My uncle told me I'm unmanning dh. I cracked up and said yeah let me have major surgery while dh can have a wick outpatient surgery that's reversible. Haha.

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Oh and then they go on and tell me how rough my life will be with two girls because boys are so much easier.

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Urghhhh! You have to shut them down! How awful! It just never ends!!!! Thanks for sharing your story!!!

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Unreal!!!!!!! These stories are insane! We are also done.and very happy with our two same gender kids! Let it go people!

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Oh yes! I've heard all of those! How insane! Just keep smiling right!? Ahhhhh!

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I completely understand!!!!!

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People will always have comments about the sex of your children, the number of kids you have, the spacing between them, etc. Just ignore them. Some people are just jerks and others don't think before they speak.

I have 2 boys and since people have learned that I'm pregnant with my third within the past week or two (we're Team ), all I've heard have been comments about hoping it's a girl. Of course, I'd love a girl, but I'd be happy with another boy too. It's not like I have any control over the sex and we weren't trying for a girl. As my BIL said, we'd probably have to have 20 kids before we had a girl. We always planned on having 3 kids and we're done no matter what after #3.

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People are the worst! I HATE the notion that a man is disappointed to have daughters. I have a little sister and even though she's a lot younger than me (8 years), the bond is unbreakable. They'll be lucky to have each other! Congrats on the pregnancy!

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WTF is wrong with people.

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People are awful. Sometimes the only way to deal is to flip the script. Like,

"See...it's so funny. People feel badly for ME for having 2 girls, and I feel badly for people whose daughters will never have a sister. SO FUNNY."

I don't know why people try to stoke jealousy and bad feelings, but they need to be shut down.

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Yup, i am expecting boy #3 and i get it all the time! I just tell people I am thrilled, as long as the baby is healthy I am happy!!!

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Honestly, you get it no matter what. I had a DS and then a DD. People always say, oh good, now you're done! I mean, we are, but it has nothing to do with our children's genders!

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Posted by Momma2015

People are the worst! I HATE the notion that a man is disappointed to have daughters. I have a little sister and even though she's a lot younger than me (8 years), the bond is unbreakable. They'll be lucky to have each other! Congrats on the pregnancy!

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Sooo true!
Congrats on your pregnancy! Wishing you a happy healthy baby GIRL OR BOY!!!!
:)

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Posted by J9-13

Posted by TwinMommyToBoys

I just had twin boys everyone said to me when I was pregnant and nowncontinues to say so your going to have a 3rd to have a girl right? I tell them hell no and just because you have another doesn't mean it will be the opposite gender trying for the opposite gender should never be a reason to have a child! I shut people down so fast

I was just about to say the same!
I have twin girls and pepole assume that if/when we have another it will be to try for a boy. WRONG!
I would be over the moon to have a third girl as would my husband.


People just don't think! Also, people have this obsession with the idea that a family is only complete when you have at least one of each gender.