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Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

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BigB
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Stacey

Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

And the kicker is, she is really thinking about trying to work it out! IMO, his butt would so be locked out of my house.

How would you ladies handle this?

BTW, they have been married for 9 years and he told her he doesn't regret doing it and that he hasn't loved her in a long time! W T F?

Posted 8/9/06 8:16 AM
 
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LisaI
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

Oh My... I understand that is hard for her after 9 years, but it seems like he not only crapped on her once by having the affair but tw more times by having a child then by saying he doesn't love her anymoreChat Icon Very sad situation.

Message edited 8/9/2006 8:26:34 AM.

Posted 8/9/06 8:18 AM
 

MsMBV
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

Don't let the door hit you.....Chat Icon

Posted 8/9/06 8:18 AM
 

IrishTracy
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

BYE BYE LOSER!!! The fact that the pig admits that he doesn't love her & he's fine with his decision. She will be better off with out him! She DESERVES better then that!!

Posted 8/9/06 8:20 AM
 

LFitzy79
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

why is she trying to work it out????? I'd change the locks, empty the joint account into an account in a different bank, and donate his clothes to good will....not before calling his parents and telling them what a sc*mbag thier son is......

eta: I'm not having a good morning, so taking my rage out on this guy is helping....

Message edited 8/9/2006 8:21:01 AM.

Posted 8/9/06 8:20 AM
 

dooodles
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

Posted by BigB

BTW, they have been married for 9 years and he told her he doesn't regret doing it and that he hasn't loved her in a long time! W T F?




That alone right there would have me changing the locks Chat Icon What a lovely sentiment for the woman who just bore you a child

Posted 8/9/06 8:20 AM
 

Heather617
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

That would be it for me. Especially if he said he doesn't love her anymore.

Posted 8/9/06 8:33 AM
 

TheLorax
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

Posted by dooodles

Posted by BigB

BTW, they have been married for 9 years and he told her he doesn't regret doing it and that he hasn't loved her in a long time! W T F?




That alone right there would have me changing the locks Chat Icon What a lovely sentiment for the woman who just bore you a child



Seriously I would kick his butt (and then kick his butt to the curb). Chat Icon

Posted 8/9/06 8:38 AM
 

Kissy331
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

OMG, that is the worst! he would be out the door!!!

Posted 8/9/06 8:38 AM
 

Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

Posted by IrishTracy

BYE BYE LOSER!!! The fact that the pig admits that he doesn't love her & he's fine with his decision. She will be better off with out him! She DESERVES better then that!!



I think the fact that he is not remorseful and is sees nothing wrong with what he is doing tells her everything she needs to know.

What an A Z ZChat Icon Chat Icon

If the other woman knows he has a 4 month old... maybe, maybe not then her A Z Z would be GRASS in my book too.

She needs to get all Bruce Lee on himChat Icon

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Posted 8/9/06 8:40 AM
 

LadyMaravilla
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

ok, I would have said work it out. Everyone deserves second chances. But after reading that he doesn't love her & hasn't loved her...how more forward can someone be. If your friend does not get it, then I'm sorry she's in denial! I'm sure it must be rough for her. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 8/9/06 8:40 AM
 

dom-n-nic
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

Posted by BigB

And the kicker is, she is really thinking about trying to work it out! IMO, his butt would so be locked out of my house.

How would you ladies handle this?

BTW, they have been married for 9 years and he told her he doesn't regret doing it and that he hasn't loved her in a long time! W T F?



well by what he said
why would she want to work things out with him> he doesnt love her anymore.

she is prob so in love with him that she will forgive him no matter what but she needs to know that he does not love her anymore so there is no working anything out . if he does stay with her he will still be with his gf on the side.

there is only so mch you can tell and help someone out in a situation like this. i have been through this with people i know and when they are in love withthe person THEY ARE IN LOVE and will try to do anything to keep them together.

Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon for your friend it must be really hard on her right now
you can tell her how you feel and what she should do but only she will know how she feels and what she wants to do . you just have to be there for her

Message edited 8/9/2006 8:42:21 AM.

Posted 8/9/06 8:41 AM
 

curliegirl
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

Wait a secod, who has the 4 month old baby, the wife or the mistress?

Still an a**hole in my opinion either way you slice it....

Posted 8/9/06 8:41 AM
 

lululu
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

The fact that he told her he doesnt regret it and that he hasnt loved her for a long time leads me to believe that while she may be willing to try to work it out, he probably is not. I think that she should just tell him to leave and not look back.

Posted 8/9/06 8:42 AM
 

LAMGAJ28
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

I guess she's probably still in denial that she says she wants to work things out. This is one of those things that I can't forgive and forget. Some people are able to do it and I commend them for it if they do. And the fact that he said that he does not love her anymore and has no ill feelings towards his behavior should be a red flag for her to know that things are not working out and that she needs to move on. She definitely deserves someone better whom respects and loves her and does not treat her like that especially after giving him a child.

Posted 8/9/06 8:42 AM
 

pinkandblue
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

the fact that he said that he does not regret it and does not love her makes me say she should DEFINITELY kick his arse out !!!

If he was apologetic and saying "I love you, it was a mistake", MAYBE I would try to work it out, maybe

your poor friend....Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon to her

Posted 8/9/06 8:44 AM
 

MikesWife
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

Is it a $$$ issue? It might be financially difficult for her to leave him?
Especially now that they have a 4 month old......

Can she rely on her parents or friends to help her out.

Poor girl.......Chat Icon

Message edited 8/9/2006 8:46:13 AM.

Posted 8/9/06 8:45 AM
 

lovelybride
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

OMG!! that is the worst.. he will be right out the door for real...

Message edited 8/9/2006 8:46:11 AM.

Posted 8/9/06 8:45 AM
 

pugmama
April already?

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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

I understand that she may want to work it out but it takes two and he does not sound intersted in the least. Poor girlChat Icon She needs to get out now!

Posted 8/9/06 9:00 AM
 

LAMGAJ28
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

Posted by dom-n-nic

she is prob so in love with him that she will forgive him no matter what but she needs to know that he does not love her anymore so there is no working anything out . if he does stay with her he will still be with his gf on the side.

there is only so mch you can tell and help someone out in a situation like this. i have been through this with people i know and when they are in love withthe person THEY ARE IN LOVE and will try to do anything to keep them together.

Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon for your friend it must be really hard on her right now
you can tell her how you feel and what she should do but only she will know how she feels and what she wants to do . you just have to be there for her



Do you think that they are in love because they accept behaviors like this? I find that some women that do this actually have low self-esteem and do not value themselves as much or as not as confindent. I always find that you have to love yourself first before you can truly love someone else. I have a friend (we are not as close anymore or we are not in touch as we used to) because she had a similar situation like this. I was there for her but told her how I felt. I think her husband is a scumbag if you asked me. He has been unfaithful to her many times....and the last time that I heard..he has a mistress...put an apartment for her...had a child with her...and this was OK with my friend. Then I guess she forgave him once again so the mistress got pregnant a second time. And she forgave him again. And 9 months ago, my friend got pregnant too and now she has a baby. They already have another child even before this all happened with this mistress. I never liked her husband but I think he stays around because he's waiting for her to get a huge settlement for medical malpractice(millions). I don't understand as to what would possess her to get pregnant again knowing that he has been unfaithful to her and knowing that he doesn't have the commitment for their relationship. So my only explanation is that she has low self-esteem and does not value herself as she should. I don't understand how she can say she's happy...unless she's happy for 2 days(maybe that's enough in her book) and miserable the other days......
I guess the only thing you can do is be there for your friend.

Message edited 8/9/2006 9:05:39 AM.

Posted 8/9/06 9:02 AM
 

SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

Chat Icon that is horrible. I don't understand why people cheat. cheaters are very weak minded selfish people. she would be better off without the SOB.

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Posted 8/9/06 9:02 AM
 

IluvBo
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

Posted by MsMBV

Don't let the door hit you.....Chat Icon



EXACTLY! What a loser!

Posted 8/9/06 9:06 AM
 

2PreciousBlessings
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

Such a loser!

Posted 8/9/06 9:06 AM
 

MrsPornStar
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

If it was me, he would be gone. I couldn't stay with someone who didn't love me or respect me.

Posted 8/9/06 9:07 AM
 

christy
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Re: Friend just found out her not so DH is having an affair and they have a 4 month old baby!

This is such a terrible situation. I hope your friend makes the right decision.Chat Icon

Posted 8/9/06 9:08 AM
 
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