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Stefanie
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For mommies with more than one child
I don't know how you do it. My dh and I talk about having another one but lately I'm not so sure. I feel like I won't be able to handle the stress of two. Somedays I feel like I can't even handle my screaming 2 year old...how am I going to deal with 1 more?
So I  you...all the mommies with more than one.
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Re: For mommies with more than one child
It's not as hard as it looks. You manipulate the first by making him
the helper".
You manipulate the second into wanting to be a big kid like her brother.
That being said....   to make the decision for you!
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| Posted 8/9/07 11:13 AM |
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It is great having a sibling for your child
I was an only child and it was pretty lonely I love that my girls have eachother to play with and hopefully they will be close as they grow older
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| Posted 8/9/07 11:14 AM |
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I worry about this also since I having #2 in 11 days.
Ryan is so used to DH and I always around when he needs us. He never has to share his time or wait for us since its just him. I like that he is more independent now and can "help" mommy and daddy with the new baby and will adjust quickly to not being the "baby" anymore since he is so young (18 months). But it will be hard when it is just me alone and he is crying because he is hungry or in a bad mood AND the baby is crying because she is hungry also. I will have to learn to juggle my time and adapt quickly- and also to multi-task!
It will definitely be a big adjustment for all of us!
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| Posted 8/9/07 11:22 AM |
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Re: For mommies with more than one child
Posted by nrthshgrl
It's not as hard as it looks. You manipulate the first by making him
the helper".
You manipulate the second into wanting to be a big kid like her brother.
That being said.... to make the decision for you!
ITA! And if you have more than 2 you move into the "ZONE DEFENSE!"
Right Barb!
I have to say it's tough bu once you have a routine down things move much smoother. Having 2 and then 3 really changes the way I looked at the world. I don't sweat the little things as much and when they start to get on my last nerve I remind myself how lucky i am to have 3 healthy children and that there are bigger things than their screaming, whining, etc.. to worry about. I'm sure you'll do fine! 
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| Posted 8/9/07 11:27 AM |
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PatsBrat
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Re: For mommies with more than one child
As they get older, it seems to me that having 2 becomes easier than having just 1. My 2 boys will now play together for long stretches of time, freeing me up to do other things. We have a reached a very nice point!
(until they start fighting over something... )
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| Posted 8/9/07 11:28 AM |
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MrsSchwags
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Re: For mommies with more than one child
it's really not as bad as everyone makes it to be!!
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| Posted 8/9/07 11:29 AM |
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Re: For mommies with more than one child
Posted by Stefanie
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I don't know how you do it. My dh and I talk about having another one but lately I'm not so sure. I feel like I won't be able to handle the stress of two. Somedays I feel like I can't even handle my screaming 2 year old...how am I going to deal with 1 more?
So I you...all the mommies with more than one.
I could've written this post myself!!
to all the moms of more than one!
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| Posted 8/9/07 11:32 AM |
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mommy2bella
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Posted by Stefanie
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I don't know how you do it. My dh and I talk about having another one but lately I'm not so sure. I feel like I won't be able to handle the stress of two. Somedays I feel like I can't even handle my screaming 2 year old...how am I going to deal with 1 more?
So I you...all the mommies with more than one.
I could've written this post myself!!
to all the moms of more than one!
another one with applause here with every month that passes I like the only child thought more and more...
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Re: For mommies with more than one child
I agree!!
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Re: For mommies with more than one child
I agree with what Barb said.
All the stress of having 2 kids make it worth it when I see Jayden light up and laugh whenever he sees Nate. Also when Nate holdc/hugs Jayden or kisses him bc he's crying.
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| Posted 8/9/07 12:52 PM |
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Posted by MrsSchwags
it's really not as bad as everyone makes it to be!!
I agree and they are 15 months apart. For the first month are so they baby is sleeping so much anyway.
You just have to think postive about it and everyday it will get a little easier. When my MIL left I was a mess and cried for almost 2 hours until Dh came home. The next day I was alone first time and I made a promise to myself that I can't feel sorry for myself and that I will be fine and can do this. A month later I still wake up the same way. I also make it a point to take a shower everyday while they nap and I also get out every other day. I might not accomplish anything but it will kill an hour out of my day. It takes longer to get things done but I don't think it is any different than having one.
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| Posted 8/9/07 2:46 PM |
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LuvMy2Girls
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Re: For mommies with more than one child
Posted by MrsSchwags
it's really not as bad as everyone makes it to be!!
ITA!! Mine are 14 months apart and after a month I'm almost in my groove!
Like Seles81 said, I also make a point of showering, getting fully dressed and trying to get out even for 15 mins everyday and I don't have a car either.
Nap time IS MOMMY time, everything else can wait.
The logistics are what is the hardest with 2, you have to come up with a whole new way of organizing and planning.
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| Posted 8/9/07 2:56 PM |
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Mine are 2 years apart. There are good days and bad days... I can't really complain. I often entertain the thoughts of 1 more, DH says it won't be with him 
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MrsSchwags
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Re: For mommies with more than one child
The only thing I know now is it takes 10 minutes to load up the car and get out bymyself instead of 2 or 3 minutes with 1.
I also take advantage of nap time. I am always showered, dressed and ready to go.
I get out a few times a week, even if it is walking around Target - although that has become financially dangerous lately!
So many people in the store look at me, like this was an accident and say "Oh you have your hands full" "good luck" or whatever else, and when I say "I planned this!" They look at me like I have 10 heads or something!
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Re: For mommies with more than one child
Well if you got pregnant now he'd be 3! lol
Since DH is gone way too much and with no family around my saving grace will be that DS will be in preschool 3 mornings a week. Also honestly not gaining a boatload of weight has made this pregnancy so easy. I truely don't understand how I gained SO much with DS and I'm nearly 25 weeks and below 129 and it has made a world of difference in being able to chase my little man and stay really active. I'm nearly 7 months and don't even feel pregnant yet compared to him. So I know for me the lack of added weight which hopefully I will barely have after this birth will help alot. I think I'm in the best shape of my life right now.
But the truth of the matter is the 4 miscarriages between DS and soon to be DD really took there toll on me and no matter how bad it gets I feel so blessed to be pregnant again and give him a sibling that I think on my darkess days that will help me out alot.
And since DH will most likely be deployed for the birth and it will just be me and DS those dark days might start on Day 1 but I truely feel prepared and lucky.
I also look at the way that you know how sometimes the worst dog just needs a buddy because he'd bored and then you have the two best dogs in the world because they entertain each other and look foward to each other even if its just to annoy and pester each other well that's how I feel about siblings.
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Re: For mommies with more than one child
I'm totally in the same boat as you... the decision pendulum keeps swaying back and forth!
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Re: For mommies with more than one child
Posted by steph4777
I agree with what Barb said.
All the stress of having 2 kids make it worth it when I see Jayden light up and laugh whenever he sees Nate. Also when Nate holdc/hugs Jayden or kisses him bc he's crying.
Awww! That's so sweet!
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| Posted 8/9/07 3:43 PM |
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antoinette
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Re: For mommies with more than one child
same boat over here
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I think it just takes more planning. I can't speak from comparison b/c I've only ever had two, but really - instead of feeding one, I feed two. Instead of changing one, I change two - no biggie. 
And best of all, when you see them interact, or show affection for one another, you heart will melt.  Good luck with whatever you decide!
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Posted by Stefanie
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I don't know how you do it. My dh and I talk about having another one but lately I'm not so sure. I feel like I won't be able to handle the stress of two. Somedays I feel like I can't even handle my screaming 2 year old...how am I going to deal with 1 more?
So I you...all the mommies with more than one.
I feel the same way 
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Eireann
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Re: For mommies with more than one child
Thank you! But like others have said, it really is much easier than you would think--not that we don't have our days
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| Posted 8/9/07 4:22 PM |
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I think it just takes more planning. I can't speak from comparison b/c I've only ever had two, but really - instead of feeding one, I feed two. Instead of changing one, I change two - no biggie.
And best of all, when you see them interact, or show affection for one another, you heart will melt. Good luck with whatever you decide!
What Laura said
Everyone is always saying
"Godddddd Bless You", (I say, thanks he/she has... TWICE")
"Oh, my God, I don't know how you do it", (I do it, I don't know any other way)
"How are you awake?", (I'm lucky, they sleep)
"Oh, they must be a lot of work," (Anything in life that's really worth tends to be a lot of work)
Definitely takes more planning and strategizing but it's more than possible.
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Diana1215
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Re: For mommies with more than one child
I can barely handle a baby and a dog. I give all of you moms with two lots of
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2girlsforme
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Re: For mommies with more than one child
I agree with all the posters that said you just do it. But to offer another perspective, my kids are five years, two months apart. The first 2 1/2. Years I was on the fence, not about if, but about when and how it would all work. Then I had some trouble holding a pregnancy (totally a surprise because my first was an all around easy conception and pregnancy). If I had to do it again, I would have gotten off the fence quicker. Although I am truly blessed to have two and my family is complete, I did find it hard to go back to "babyland" when I had a child entering school full time.
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