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Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
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mommyof3girls
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
I am on of those people who is not religious (I'm pretty much agnostic) but my daughter had a fairly nice communion party. We had it outside and had nice caterers and center pieces etc. she didn't do any of the bride-y stuff though. We did hire a photographer but mostly because I hate stopping to take pictures at a party. I don't really believe in communions but I got into the Pinterest party planning aspect of it. Why? Because my inlaws are VERY religious. It was important to them for my dd to make her communion. It made them very happy and it was not a sacrifice for me to have her maker her communion. Planning the party was fun for me and I focused on that aspect. So even though I am not religious, other people in my family are and it means a lot to them. our children don't belong solely to us they are party of the whole family and just because I don't believe in religion doesn't mean I don't want my DD to have done sort of foundation.
Just like you, I'm not religious but my daughter had a nice communion at a hall and I also took her to take pictures in her dress 2 weeks before her party. I did it for the same reasons. My MIL is very religious. She's one who will go to church everyday, 2x a day if possible. I did it for her because I knew how important this was for her and her family. I also spent a good amount on money on her dress. My daughters dress was very simply with no train, bling or anything bridal looking. It was a dress for a child. Her pictures were of a child. I had a lot of people come up to me and thank me for not dressing her like she was getting married with makeup and all. I did her own hair and she looked gorgeous.
I do agree that some parents go over the top and forget what is it that they are celebrating. Posing like a bride is a bit ridiculous for me but to each it's own. Doesn't make me or break me.
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BlessedMomma
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by NervousNell
Has anyone noticed this?
Maybe it's just me, but i find it a little disturbing.
I just saw some pics from a photographer on Facebook of a 1st Communion shoot she did. Some of the shots were staged to look exactly like this little girl was getting married.
Her gazing up at her dress that was hanging up on a door with her veil on.
Her wearing high heels and kicking up he feet. Her tossing her veil back in a very, I don't know, adult way.
All pics and poses I have in my WEDDING album.
Full face of make up too- very bridal
i have seen girls in rented limos with their friends- ala a bridal party.
I know the dresses and veils tend to look very wedding-ish. And the girls look like little brides because of it.
And lately even more with the elaborate dresses, fancy updos, full faces of makeup, etc.
I don't mind professional pics of the day, but I don't think I'd want my 8 year posed to look like she was about to get married.
I just feel like it's a religious event, for a very young child, and what it has turned into is a bit much.
I guess I'm not a fan of little girls looking and being posed like adults...
Ive noticed this as well and I find it disturbing. Im also finding the parties themselves are becoming more and more over the top like a wedding. There's a dance with their father
HUGE elaborate over the top candy tables (like venetian hour)
HUGE elaborate halls, decorated to the nines
HUGE tired cakes
HUGE floral arrangements
DJs
Like all of it just feels very wedding esq and I didnt know things were THIS big. Ive been to a few that were def lower key and I thought more appropriate.
In general kids are acting, dressing and doing things that I do not think are appropiate. And Im so not uptight about things like that...
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| Posted 5/30/16 4:46 PM |
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StarsStripes
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by LuckyStar
Makeup?? My mom put my hair in pink sponge rollers the night before my communion.
These over the top parties are just ridiculous. I went to a christening last year where the baby made a wedding-like entrance and had a first dance in a popular wedding venue. DH is Jewish and the look on his face was priceless. He kept asking me if we had to have a baby wedding when we had kids. I had to explain that there was nothing normal about this!
Lol me too with the sponge rollers!!
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| Posted 5/30/16 6:04 PM |
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bunnyluck
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Communions- when did they become
This makes me glad to have boys!
Id find photos like that a tad disturbing too.
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| Posted 5/30/16 7:32 PM |
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LIRascal
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by BlessedMomma
Posted by NervousNell
Has anyone noticed this?
Maybe it's just me, but i find it a little disturbing.
I just saw some pics from a photographer on Facebook of a 1st Communion shoot she did. Some of the shots were staged to look exactly like this little girl was getting married.
Her gazing up at her dress that was hanging up on a door with her veil on.
Her wearing high heels and kicking up he feet. Her tossing her veil back in a very, I don't know, adult way.
All pics and poses I have in my WEDDING album.
Full face of make up too- very bridal
i have seen girls in rented limos with their friends- ala a bridal party.
I know the dresses and veils tend to look very wedding-ish. And the girls look like little brides because of it.
And lately even more with the elaborate dresses, fancy updos, full faces of makeup, etc.
I don't mind professional pics of the day, but I don't think I'd want my 8 year posed to look like she was about to get married.
I just feel like it's a religious event, for a very young child, and what it has turned into is a bit much.
I guess I'm not a fan of little girls looking and being posed like adults...
Ive noticed this as well and I find it disturbing. Im also finding the parties themselves are becoming more and more over the top like a wedding. There's a dance with their father
HUGE elaborate over the top candy tables (like venetian hour)
HUGE elaborate halls, decorated to the nines
HUGE tired cakes
HUGE floral arrangements
DJs
Like all of it just feels very wedding esq and I didnt know things were THIS big. Ive been to a few that were def lower key and I thought more appropriate.
In general kids are acting, dressing and doing things that I do not think are appropiate. And Im so not uptight about things like that...
I love parties. I used to do favors, I make people floral centerpieces etc. and I love candy tables and the idea of planning something like that.
However, I have to agree that I think the over-the-top and we have to one-up each other thing has to stop. What's wrong with having a party at a restaurant or at home with family? You can still have favors and centerpieces, but it's much more low-key.
It's a religious sacrament, and I am not sure where the dancing/DJ comes in.
My cousin lives in a very sheeshee neighborhood where they attend a lot of bar mitzvahs etc. Sheexplained that since we don't have a big bar/bat mizvah, we use the communion for that excuse.... um, ok
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| Posted 5/31/16 1:07 AM |
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blessedmama
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by LIRascal
Posted by BlessedMomma
Posted by NervousNell
Has anyone noticed this?
Maybe it's just me, but i find it a little disturbing.
I just saw some pics from a photographer on Facebook of a 1st Communion shoot she did. Some of the shots were staged to look exactly like this little girl was getting married.
Her gazing up at her dress that was hanging up on a door with her veil on.
Her wearing high heels and kicking up he feet. Her tossing her veil back in a very, I don't know, adult way.
All pics and poses I have in my WEDDING album.
Full face of make up too- very bridal
i have seen girls in rented limos with their friends- ala a bridal party.
I know the dresses and veils tend to look very wedding-ish. And the girls look like little brides because of it.
And lately even more with the elaborate dresses, fancy updos, full faces of makeup, etc.
I don't mind professional pics of the day, but I don't think I'd want my 8 year posed to look like she was about to get married.
I just feel like it's a religious event, for a very young child, and what it has turned into is a bit much.
I guess I'm not a fan of little girls looking and being posed like adults...
Ive noticed this as well and I find it disturbing. Im also finding the parties themselves are becoming more and more over the top like a wedding. There's a dance with their father
HUGE elaborate over the top candy tables (like venetian hour)
HUGE elaborate halls, decorated to the nines
HUGE tired cakes
HUGE floral arrangements
DJs
Like all of it just feels very wedding esq and I didnt know things were THIS big. Ive been to a few that were def lower key and I thought more appropriate.
In general kids are acting, dressing and doing things that I do not think are appropiate. And Im so not uptight about things like that...
I love parties. I used to do favors, I make people floral centerpieces etc. and I love candy tables and the idea of planning something like that.
However, I have to agree that I think the over-the-top and we have to one-up each other thing has to stop. What's wrong with having a party at a restaurant or at home with family? You can still have favors and centerpieces, but it's much more low-key.
It's a religious sacrament, and I am not sure where the dancing/DJ comes in.
My cousin lives in a very sheeshee neighborhood where they attend a lot of bar mitzvahs etc. Sheexplained that since we don't have a big bar/bat mizvah, we use the communion for that excuse.... um, ok
They have them to make the money to pay for the parties.
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| Posted 5/31/16 12:28 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Yes, I noticed this too. My DD just made her Communion last month and some of the girls, while beautiful, looked SO over the top. Very elaborate, beaded, jeweled gowns with huge puffy skirts and heels, gloves, huge done up hair. I thought it was a bit much for the occasion but to each his own I guess.
I kept things very simple, I found my DD's dress at Burlington, I did her hair myself, and we just had a small gathering after at the house with catered deli food. I didn't go crazy, I don't really think this type of event warrants it but that's JMO. Communions weren't a huge, elaborate deal in my family.
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