Can I vent for a moment?

I just need a quick b!tch session.

For the past 2 weeks we have had parties to attend. I understand that my SD is "pre-teen" and doesn't want to play at parties anymore but she just sits there with a miserable face and it's embarrassing. At one party, all of her cousins were there. She told me she would rather sit at the table and be bored then play with them. Fine. You go ahead and do that then. Whatever floats your boat.

Then, at the other party, the kids repeatedly invited her to join them to play basketball, dodgeball, manhunt, making smores, etc. She refused to participate b/c she was "exhausted". It was so rude! All of the kids were having a blast with the exception of this one.

We have another party coming up and I don't want her to come. I am fully aware that is a terrible thing to say. But she hangs on me or DH, whining and being rude, and ruins the party for us! Not that DH would EVER reprimand her...he's too busy making excuses for her. UGH! I'm going to pull my freaking hair out! She has never acted like this before. I don't know what her problem is!

Okay. I'm done. Thank you.

Re: Can I vent for a moment?

Keep in mind, the harder you push the more resistance you'll encounter. Just let her be and in time she'll come around.

Re: Can I vent for a moment?

My SD used to be like this as well when she was younger ( couldn't tell you how she is now since we rarely get to see her ourselves let alone bring her to parties )

It was quite frusturating because all the other kids would be playing and just being "kids" and she always hung around the adults...I used to think it was an attention getting thing because everyone would keep asking her "whats wrong ? why aren't you playing?" etc...Finally we started to tell people not to call attention to it, and eventually she got bored of the adults and hung out with the others her age...

I 'think" part of it at your SD's age is the "coolness" factor, being too cool for things and sulking...I vaguely remember doing that myself

Hang in there hopefully it will pass

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You are both totally right. I need to remember what it was like to be that age. Ugh, was I this annoying to my mother? I'll have to make it up to her this mother's day