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Forum Opinion Poll
Shortly after birth... 96 87.27%
Early Childhood.. 2 1.82%
Teenager.. 1 0.91%
Let them choose when... 5 4.55%
Dedicate them but not baptism them.. 4 3.64%
Other (please explain) 2 1.82%
 

Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

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Xelindrya
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Veronica

Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

Well are you?
Just wondering..

We aren't. Its something I believe shouldn't be done without a person's knowledge. Though I am considering "Dedication" but I'm still on the fence.

Posted 3/12/08 11:15 AM
 

Preguntas
it's pretty precious

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Lauren

Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

I will have him baptised, and make his communion, and go to religion class. I think that exposing him to the one religion I know anything about is how he will make his educated decision on whether or not to be confirmed.

eta- I would totally support his curiosity on other religions, as well- no matter what his age is.

Message edited 3/12/2008 11:19:51 AM.

Posted 3/12/08 11:19 AM
 

Xelindrya
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

for those who said batism..


are you already set?
if so when'd you start your planning?

Posted 3/12/08 11:19 AM
 

Preguntas
it's pretty precious

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Lauren

Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

I am not set yet at all- though I should call the church I'm sure. But people keep telling me what days I CAN'T do it. Chat Icon Like their busy schedule is really a concern of mine. Chat Icon

Posted 3/12/08 11:20 AM
 

Xelindrya
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

Posted by Preguntas

I will have him baptised, and make his communion, and go to religion class. I think that exposing him to the one religion I know anything about is how he will make his educated decision on whether or not to be confirmed.

eta- I would totally support his curiosity on other religions, as well- no matter what his age is.



sorry but can you explain?

I see baptism as a life changing event. Its a promise. one not to be taken lightly and one to be very serious about (of course)

So what if your baby boy chooses not to be confirmed.. does that sort of null the rest (not that he would Chat Icon )

Posted 3/12/08 11:21 AM
 

LovingLife
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

I'm Christian - and in our church the baby get presented/dedicated as a baby and you are baptized once you are old enough to take the classes and learn what it means to be baptized.

Posted 3/12/08 11:21 AM
 

jambalady
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Holly

Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

We'll probably baptize 2-5 months after birth.

We haven't planned anything yet, but the church has baptisms every 3rd sat, regardless of the number of babies, so I guess we'll see what restaurant availability is like on these days.

Posted 3/12/08 11:23 AM
 

headoverheels
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

DH's family is catholic and my family is jewish (although none of us really practice, DH's family never goes to church, and my family only goes to synagogue on the high holidays, although i have not since i was about 15).

that being said, we have decided to not raise our children either religion, although we will celebrate the holidays with both families, and if our chidlren decide they want to become more invovled (sunday school, religion classes, communion/confirmation, bar mitvah) then we will let them.

Posted 3/12/08 11:26 AM
 

Xelindrya
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

Posted by LovingLife

I'm Christian - and in our church the baby get presented/dedicated as a baby and you are baptized once you are old enough to take the classes and learn what it means to be baptized.



I think all who believe Christ is God's son are technically christian... Chat Icon

Still I get what you're saying.. that's how it was for me and my brother.

Mom was pedecostal (sp?) and dad was catholic. She refused to let us be baptisized and I appreciate that now.

Still as a kid I was religious curious and went to several churches and domonimations (sp?) and the first question they ask is "are you baptized... wanna be?" it felt so cold and ordinary that it turned me off.

Hubby and I have talked and no surprise but I've long ago opened his eyes to my many religious beliefs and he's ok with not baptizing our baby.. still dedication is seemed like an excuse to me when I was a kid and I worry no one will let us if we ourselves are part not of the church.

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I intend our child to go to church (meaning us too, i guess) but several churches to get a full exposure.

my beliefs are strong and sort of strict but easy to follow. I've never found a person who's sat with me to discuss religion who doesn't walk away at least agreeing with me at some point. So it's no surprise if I have a girl, her name will be Jezabel.

Message edited 3/12/2008 11:30:02 AM.

Posted 3/12/08 11:28 AM
 

bicosi
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

We baptized our children at around 6 months. With the anticipation of the births and all the commotion, I wanted to spend that time caring for my kids and not getting all stressed with the planning, so that's why we waited until they were 6 months.

Both DH and I are Catholic.

Posted 3/12/08 11:29 AM
 

sunflowerjesss
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

We are definitely doing a Baptism. DH is Catholic and I am Jewish. But I'm not so much a practicing Jew.

Anyway, not sure after Baptism. Not to offend anyone religious, but we are doing to the Baptism to sort of buy us more time to decide.

The baptism will be super small, no party and just immediate family.

Posted 3/12/08 11:30 AM
 

dapnkap
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

We plan on having our Chat Icon baptized around 3-4 months after she is born.

Posted 3/12/08 11:31 AM
 

MetsGirl07
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

we will have him/her baptized a couple months after birth!

Posted 3/12/08 11:32 AM
 

NewlyMrs
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

Posted by Preguntas

I will have him baptised, and make his communion, and go to religion class. I think that exposing him to the one religion I know anything about is how he will make his educated decision on whether or not to be confirmed.

eta- I would totally support his curiosity on other religions, as well- no matter what his age is.



ITA!

The purpose of a Confirmation is for him/her to make her own choice. But for now, she is to be raised under our beliefs.

We just went to a Baptism "class" this week. All we need to do now is pick the godparents. Once they have their paperwork in we can pick a date (sometime in June)

Posted 3/12/08 11:37 AM
 

JP826
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

I as well as DH was born & raised Catholic. We plan on baptising our baby shortly after birth, and will strive to raise him the way we were raised.

Posted 3/12/08 11:44 AM
 

Preguntas
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Lauren

Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

Posted by Xelindrya

Posted by Preguntas

I will have him baptised, and make his communion, and go to religion class. I think that exposing him to the one religion I know anything about is how he will make his educated decision on whether or not to be confirmed.

eta- I would totally support his curiosity on other religions, as well- no matter what his age is.



sorry but can you explain?

I see baptism as a life changing event. Its a promise. one not to be taken lightly and one to be very serious about (of course)

So what if your baby boy chooses not to be confirmed.. does that sort of null the rest (not that he would Chat Icon )



No problem. I should clarify that my husband and I are both Roman Catholic. There is nothing about Baptism I take lightly. My faith is very important to me, and I plan to raise my son within that faith. The same way I was. As an adult, when he is faced with confirmation, which is his final commitment to this religion, then he is free to make a choice should he not want to commit to the beliefs he has been properly educated on. This is why the confirmation ceremony exists. I don't really think that anyone younger than a 13 or 14 year old is really very qualified to make such an important decision, nor would I realisticaly expect an 8 year old to take it on himself to go to church or any other house of worship on his own accord. All I can do, as a mother and as a spiritual guide, is expose him to what I know, and encourage him to make the decision on his own.

Message edited 3/12/2008 11:51:24 AM.

Posted 3/12/08 11:50 AM
 

Christina
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

Posted by SIBride06

I as well as DH was born & raised Catholic. We plan on baptising our baby shortly after birth, and will strive to raise him the way we were raised.



Same here.

Posted 3/12/08 11:52 AM
 

Rycois
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

We are baptising DC in June. I am due later this month.

Posted 3/12/08 12:19 PM
 

LovingLife
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

Posted by Xelindrya

Posted by LovingLife

I'm Christian - and in our church the baby get presented/dedicated as a baby and you are baptized once you are old enough to take the classes and learn what it means to be baptized.



I think all who believe Christ is God's son are technically christian... Chat Icon




I completely agree...I was trying to say I attend a Christian church (Primitive Christian Church) where in my opinion is a simple way to have a relationship with God....we believe what's important is to have a personal relationship with God and no one can define your interpretation of a relationship with Him. There is no pressure to become a member, get baptized, participate in Holy Communion....ect....everything you do there is done because you decided to do it.

That being said...I agree with you..I was raised Catholic..went to Catholic school for 9 years...but I never felt a connection...I want my child/children to feel a connection whether it will be in my church or another is not my choice in the end...but while am I their guide I will raise them to have a relationship with God.

Edited to add...I have nothing against the Catholic Church...they are the foundation that made me a Christian...I just didn't feel a connection and there are some things that I disagree with..which is why my Christian Church is perfect for me.

Message edited 3/12/2008 12:49:41 PM.

Posted 3/12/08 12:47 PM
 

mcl916
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

We will baptize the baby within a few months of the birth. In the Catholic faith, the purpose of Baptism is to cleanse original sin, not to seal the child into the religion. The purpose of Confirmation is for you to make an adult decision that you wish to practice the faith as an adult. I would support my child if s/he wanted to explore other religions, but I want to raise them with the values and beliefs my husdband and I were raised with.

Posted 3/12/08 12:53 PM
 

MelToddJulia
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

Julia was 2 months when she was baptized, this baby will be the same age. I don't like to wait long.

Posted 3/12/08 1:00 PM
 

Glowie
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

We plan on having the baptism this summer which would make DS about 6 months old.

Posted 3/12/08 1:07 PM
 

Preguntas
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Lauren

Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

I just want to add, that according to my religion, an unbaptised baby does not go to heaven. Thusly, many hard core believers would want the baptism ASAP.

Posted 3/12/08 1:08 PM
 

NewlyMrs
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

Posted by Preguntas

I just want to add, that according to my religion, an unbaptised baby does not go to heaven. Thusly, many hard core believers would want the baptism ASAP.



Yep, that is why I am hoping to have her baptised by the time she is 2months old!

Posted 3/12/08 1:24 PM
 

jennyb
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Re: Bored.. Poll.. Baptism

yup - she'll be around 3 months old.

Posted 3/12/08 1:29 PM
 
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