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CaseyGirl
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another daycare situation (not bad though)
So my DH got laid off last November from his corporate job. He found some temporary construction work, which he has a background in, last March. Now yesterday he finds out he is getting laid off from that. I go back to work Monday and just registered DS at daycare (the one we are comfortable with if anyone remembers my thread from Friday). Now DH says maybe we shouldn't enroll him. I said I think we should keep our spot and at least put him in now - I don't want to lose the spot and hopefully he will find something else soon. And also this way DH can go on interviews and not have to worry about finding a sitter forDS or me having to take off. Does this sound rational? I finally found a daycare we both like and if I give that up then when DH does find something I have to go through it all over again. His daycare does not offer part time.
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
This is JUST me, but I always like to plan for a worse case scenerio, and in your situation that would be that DH doesn't find anything. Especially in construction, with winter on it's way and all. I would not do the daycare and save that money.
With the holidays coming up that extra $$ you save will come in handy.
Again this is JMO and how I would handle it. Good luck with you decision
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| Posted 11/3/09 9:34 AM |
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Xelindrya
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
When i moved to TX i had a job but my hubby didnt. Sure he was home but I had my stepmother there for a month too to help take care of AJ if he went out on interviews. Thankfully he only went to one.
But i can honestly say the money saved by not sending her to daycare has lasted months. I am literally still just only now coming to the end of that money I put aside in July for daycare. Every single penny saved has been like fortune found.
So I guess I went both ways. If Jim hadn't found a job within in that month of July then AJ was going into daycare in August no matter what.
How about just asking Daycare if they can hold off a month?
its a tough decision.
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| Posted 11/3/09 9:39 AM |
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babyonthebrain
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
I would not put him in daycare. No one can care for your child better than you or your husband. I would save the money.
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| Posted 11/3/09 9:40 AM |
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CaseyGirl
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
I totally get what you guys are saying...but I am really afraid of losing that spot...
This is so hard. Talk about crappy timing. 
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| Posted 11/3/09 9:43 AM |
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FranM
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
I would keep him home. There are so many people out of work right now - many daycares that had waiting lists in the past have space available.
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| Posted 11/3/09 9:44 AM |
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MrsRbk
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
Mmmm... I'm going to FM you...
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| Posted 11/3/09 9:47 AM |
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Tine73
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
I would send him to daycare. You can always pull him out of you have too and it will give your DH some time to look for work. Good Luck!!
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| Posted 11/3/09 9:49 AM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
Posted by babyonthebrain
I would not put him in daycare. No one can care for your child better than you or your husband. I would save the money.
OMG-totally not the point of her question and not helpful to her situation.
On top of that-when her DH is back to work she clearly plans to use day care so how is this sentiment going to do anything but make her feel even worse?
I guess it was just an opportunity to spread anti-day care/care provider propaganda. Cheap shot.
To actually answer the original question:
Do they have a part time program you could put him in to save his spot and save some money? DH could do interviews on the days DC is in day care.
If not; how difficult is it for DH to arrange for a sitter when he gets a last minute notification for an interview? If it is not difficult, I would probably forgo daycare and save the money since you don't know when something will pull through for DH. Hopefully the spot (or another) will still be open when you need it
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| Posted 11/3/09 9:53 AM |
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MrsRbk
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
Posted by babyonthebrain
I would not put him in daycare. No one can care for your child better than you or your husband. I would save the money.
Wow... way to make Jen feel better about the situation.
It's a no-brainer that no one can care for your child better than a parent. Eventually she IS going to have to put him in daycare.
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| Posted 11/3/09 9:58 AM |
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CaseyGirl
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
Posted by MrsRbk
Posted by babyonthebrain
I would not put him in daycare. No one can care for your child better than you or your husband. I would save the money.
Wow... way to make Jen feel better about the situation.
It's a no-brainer that no one can care for your child better than a parent. Eventually she IS going to have to put him in daycare.
Exactly, thank you guys...that's what I am worried about - I know my DH will find SOMETHING eventually - and I know how he is, he needs to look for jobs during the day and be able to interview - we don't have anyone really nearby to sit for us. That's why we have to do daycare.
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| Posted 11/3/09 10:07 AM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
Posted by MrsRbk
Posted by babyonthebrain
I would not put him in daycare. No one can care for your child better than you or your husband. I would save the money.
Wow... way to make Jen feel better about the situation.
It's a no-brainer that no one can care for your child better than a parent. Eventually she IS going to have to put him in daycare.
And, on top of that, choosing the right day care IS caring for your DC. Obviously the OP cares so much for her DC that she wants to make sure they get into the right program.
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| Posted 11/3/09 10:11 AM |
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luvsun27
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
Jen...have you called the daycare and asked if they can hold the spot for 1 month? Or..maybe they don't even have a waiting list, so the spot will be available next month anyway?
If DH is going to be out of work...can you afford to still send Tommy to daycare? Would that be a financial burden? Do you have someone that you could call to babysit at the last minute if DH gets an interview?
My gut tells me that you should hold off on putting him in daycare and let DH care for him while he's out of work to save the money in case DH is out for a few months. But, that all depends on how likely it would be for DH to get interview and for you to arrange for a sitter. And also, if DH gets a job quickly, could you still get into the daycare.
Lots to think about
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| Posted 11/3/09 10:14 AM |
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MrsS2005
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
If you can handle it financially, I'd either put him in daycare, talk to daycare about putting down a deposit to hold the spot for another month or two, or see if daycare will allow you to put DS in there PT with the possibility of switching FT when your DH finds a job.
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| Posted 11/3/09 10:37 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
Posted by babyonthebrain
I would not put him in daycare. No one can care for your child better than you or your husband. I would save the money.
I have to say this...you really should think before you type...HOW IS THIS HELPFUL...sometimes it is better to say nothing....
to the OP, I would put him in if there is a spot
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| Posted 11/3/09 11:01 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
Posted by CrankyPants
Posted by MrsRbk
Posted by babyonthebrain
I would not put him in daycare. No one can care for your child better than you or your husband. I would save the money.
Wow... way to make Jen feel better about the situation.
It's a no-brainer that no one can care for your child better than a parent. Eventually she IS going to have to put him in daycare.
And, on top of that, choosing the right day care IS caring for your DC. Obviously the OP cares so much for her DC that she wants to make sure they get into the right program.
EXACTLY 
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MST9106
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
No brainer...I would definitely keep him home with DH and postpone putting him in daycare as long as possible. Spots will always open up.
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| Posted 11/3/09 11:04 AM |
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MarisaK
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
Posted by MST9106
No brainer...I would definitely keep him home with DH and postpone putting him in daycare as long as possible. Spots will always open up.
It's really not a 'no brainer' - it's a big dilema -
Unfortunately, spots will NOT always open up - especially for a particular age, which is why the OP's concerns are valid.
I think you should send him for the first month and re-evaluate your situation after that - This way, your DH has a month to interview and find something stress free (well, child care/babysitting stress free!) HOPEFULLY you won't have to take it further than a month, but if you DO, you have your optionsopen -
It's VERY VERY VERY difficult to find a daycare you are comfortable with AND one that has a spot for your child - You've obviously done the exhausting and aggravating search many of us have - I wouldn't want to start from square 1 either !!
Good Luck to your DH !!!
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| Posted 11/3/09 11:18 AM |
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Lucky09
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
Posted by MrsS2005
talk to daycare about putting down a deposit to hold the spot for another month or two,
I think this is a good idea if it isn't too tough to find a sitter at the last minute for DHs interviews.
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| Posted 11/3/09 11:23 AM |
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MST9106
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
Posted by MarisaK
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No brainer...I would definitely keep him home with DH and postpone putting him in daycare as long as possible. Spots will always open up.
It's really not a 'no brainer' - it's a big dilema -
Unfortunately, spots will NOT always open up - especially for a particular age, which is why the OP's concerns are valid.
I think you should send him for the first month and re-evaluate your situation after that - This way, your DH has a month to interview and find something stress free (well, child care/babysitting stress free!) HOPEFULLY you won't have to take it further than a month, but if you DO, you have your optionsopen -
It's VERY VERY VERY difficult to find a daycare you are comfortable with AND one that has a spot for your child - You've obviously done the exhausting and aggravating search many of us have - I wouldn't want to start from square 1 either !!
Good Luck to your DH !!!
To ME it is a "no brainer", thank you very much, and my DS is in daycare. To OP, I would maybe speak to your daycare director and explain your situation. See if maybe they can keep the spot open for you for a couple of months and make the decision from there.
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| Posted 11/3/09 11:24 AM |
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MrsRbk
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
Posted by MST9106
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by MST9106
No brainer...I would definitely keep him home with DH and postpone putting him in daycare as long as possible. Spots will always open up.
It's really not a 'no brainer' - it's a big dilema -
Unfortunately, spots will NOT always open up - especially for a particular age, which is why the OP's concerns are valid.
I think you should send him for the first month and re-evaluate your situation after that - This way, your DH has a month to interview and find something stress free (well, child care/babysitting stress free!) HOPEFULLY you won't have to take it further than a month, but if you DO, you have your optionsopen -
It's VERY VERY VERY difficult to find a daycare you are comfortable with AND one that has a spot for your child - You've obviously done the exhausting and aggravating search many of us have - I wouldn't want to start from square 1 either !!
Good Luck to your DH !!!
To ME it is a "no brainer", thank you very much, and my DS is in daycare. To OP, I would maybe speak to your daycare director and explain your situation. See if maybe they can keep the spot open for you for a couple of months and make the decision from there.
The thing is (I know where Jen is looking) around here, they will not keep a spot open (maybe with a deposit, but that's up the centers discretion), they are hard to come by. As an example, after I enrolled DD in the daycare she is currently in, I was told our office was moving (this was before I went back to work). I immediately called the daycare that I originally wanted to put her but was alot more $$ and she was put on a wait list. That was in JUNE and there STILL are no spots open (and I'm now working PT, no longer FT, so I only need 2 days per week). Even with 2 days per week, there are no spots. The really good daycares around here are hard to come by with availability.
Jen - you already know my stance on the situation!
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| Posted 11/3/09 11:29 AM |
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TaraHutch
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
ugh I'm sorry the daycare situation continues to give you so much stress I hope talking to the daycare and explaining your situation will help!
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| Posted 11/3/09 11:33 AM |
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MST9106
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
Posted by MrsRbk
Posted by MST9106
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by MST9106
No brainer...I would definitely keep him home with DH and postpone putting him in daycare as long as possible. Spots will always open up.
It's really not a 'no brainer' - it's a big dilema -
Unfortunately, spots will NOT always open up - especially for a particular age, which is why the OP's concerns are valid.
I think you should send him for the first month and re-evaluate your situation after that - This way, your DH has a month to interview and find something stress free (well, child care/babysitting stress free!) HOPEFULLY you won't have to take it further than a month, but if you DO, you have your optionsopen -
It's VERY VERY VERY difficult to find a daycare you are comfortable with AND one that has a spot for your child - You've obviously done the exhausting and aggravating search many of us have - I wouldn't want to start from square 1 either !!
Good Luck to your DH !!!
To ME it is a "no brainer", thank you very much, and my DS is in daycare. To OP, I would maybe speak to your daycare director and explain your situation. See if maybe they can keep the spot open for you for a couple of months and make the decision from there.
The thing is (I know where Jen is looking) around here, they will not keep a spot open (maybe with a deposit, but that's up the centers discretion), they are hard to come by. As an example, after I enrolled DD in the daycare she is currently in, I was told our office was moving (this was before I went back to work). I immediately called the daycare that I originally wanted to put her but was alot more $$ and she was put on a wait list. That was in JUNE and there STILL are no spots open (and I'm now working PT, no longer FT, so I only need 2 days per week). Even with 2 days per week, there are no spots. The really good daycares around here are hard to come by with availability.
Jen - you already know my stance on the situation!
Totally understand. I guess it also depends if it would make sense financially. I know for me, it just wouldn't make sense to keep DS in daycare if DH was home for more than a month or two.
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| Posted 11/3/09 11:38 AM |
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
It sounds perfectly rational. I'd rather him interview & concentrate on getting another job. If he takes his "new job" as interviewing & sending out resumes, he's more likely to get a job.
If it becomes an extended thing, then I'd consider taking him out.
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| Posted 11/3/09 11:44 AM |
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LJSMommy
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Re: another daycare situation (not bad though)
Posted by CaseyGirl
I totally get what you guys are saying...but I am really afraid of losing that spot...
This is so hard. Talk about crappy timing.
If the $$$ is there to pay for it, keep the spot.
Our babysitting needs when I went back to work were 2 weekdays & every other Saturday.
So when I went back to work, DH was off 2 weekdays & I was off 1 weekday. We had initially agreed on 3 days a week with the sitter.....but DH easily could have kept him home & we could have done only 2 days during the week.
I am glad we kept him going to the sitter all 3 weekdays so as to make it worth the $$ for her....plus get him used to being there & with her....because eventually DH no longer had BOTH of those days off.
I say keep DS in if you have a place you like.....if he finds work you may be back to square one.
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