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saraH
happy birthday sweet kate!
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I know that God exsists, I held her in my arms...
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
Hahahaah. I'm convinced the "moms" on Pinterest are actually gay men. #fabulous
Homestly, don't beat yourself up. You are human, not a machine and don't listen to anyone that tells you "Beyoncé has the same hours in a day that we do." ********. She has an army at her disposal and probably doesn't even brush her own teeth. 
Sorry for the angry rant, but I hate seeing moms down on themselves over Pinterest and fb. And FYI my fb feed has turned into a "drink pink post". Makes me insane.
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yelley
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
Posted by Straightarrow
As long I keep us safe, fed and clean I consider it a good day
This is our motto. Everyday that my baby goes to bed healthy, warm, loved and in one piece, we did a fantastic job, lol
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| Posted 6/12/14 1:57 PM |
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missfabulous
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Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
I was just thinking about this.
It's 2:00 in the afternoon and I just took off my DD's PJs to put on regular clothes. She was screaming so I had no time to make my DS a healthy lunch. He had a package of mini muffins for lunch.
I had to find time to eat so I put on an episode of Paw Patrol to keep my 18 month old quiet. Yes, he's still in front of the TV staring at it instead of engaging in learning activities. I need a minute to eat food.
But they are both healthy, clothed, fed, and most importantly HAPPY.
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| Posted 6/12/14 2:27 PM |
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
Posted by missfabulous
I was just thinking about this.
It's 2:00 in the afternoon and I just took off my DD's PJs to put on regular clothes. She was screaming so I had no time to make my DS a healthy lunch. He had a package of mini muffins for lunch.
I had to find time to eat so I put on an episode of Paw Patrol to keep my 18 month old quiet. Yes, he's still in front of the TV staring at it instead of engaging in learning activities. I need a minute to eat food.
But they are both healthy, clothed, fed, and most importantly HAPPY.
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| Posted 6/12/14 2:32 PM |
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mrsboss
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Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
I don't want to be that kind of mom. DD is smart, happy, healthy and evil at times too. I yell, she yells. We have good days and bad days. We aren't making Pinterest crafts, we aren't occupying every min of the day with education. She eats fruit & veggies, and junk too. We watch Toy story 5x a day sometimes. It's fine, it's all fine with me. We are just doing our best to survive, make her a happy kid, and keep our marriage happy. I'm not supermom, superwife, or any of the above. Honestly I think all those mommy blogs, home blogs, Pinterest ... It's all exaggerated crap. Smoke & mirrors. No one's house looks like a model home with children living there. I have zero help, there's no supergranny assisting us, hell we barely have a sitter once and a while. We just do the best we can, while we both work full time, and it works for us.
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lorich
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
Posted by alli3131
You do realize that 99% of moms don't do the things you think they do.
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| Posted 6/12/14 3:05 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
Posted by Annie91606
None of those things matter at all!!!
I feel like a lot of those things are for show. Little babies and kids just need lots of love and affection from Mom and Dad. They do not notice their nurseries.
Do not worry about monthly photos or baby books now. Just try and take as many pictures as you can, you can organize later.
My boys are 6 and 4, and I never did baby books for them yet! I have blank books that still need to be filled.
I was thinking it might be fun for my boys to do them with me, they love seeing their baby pictures.
Don't be tough on yourself. You are working hard and love your children, that is the most important thing!!!
ITA. I beat myself up over stuff like this all the time. Just enjoy your baby. Feed her love her and teach her how to sleep All the rest works itself out
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| Posted 6/12/14 3:39 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
What did our mother's do?
In the days before Pintrest and Blogs and all that shitt?
Oh, that's right, they raised us.
And I think we all turned out ok.
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| Posted 6/12/14 3:42 PM |
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MsSissy
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
Posted by NervousNell
What did our mother's do?
In the days before Pintrest and Blogs and all that shitt?
Oh, that's right, they raised us.
And I think we all turned out ok.
Thank You!
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| Posted 6/12/14 3:46 PM |
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edfilippi
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
I feel like this also.
I have a baby book. I have completed up until 5 months (he is 11 now). I take monthly pictures and have printed some photos but not much. I do professional pictures for holiday but never remember/have time to get them printed for family so no one actually has them. We made little crafts for holidays but not on a daily basis he is still young though.
Like everyone said he is happy and healthy. My husband literally just came in to him unraveling a roll of paper towels. He asked if I was going to stop him and clean it up. Why though? He is having fun and I can let him finish and clean it up later.
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| Posted 6/12/14 4:11 PM |
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Pinkisles
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Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
I just do what I can with what I have. My son doesn't have a baby book. I take a zillion pics of him w my iPhone so I feel like that's enough. He's always smiling so I think I'm doing just fine
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| Posted 6/12/14 5:12 PM |
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Naturalmama
Love my boys!!
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
Posted by NervousNell
See, just reading this gives me hives. Like I got itchy and my eczema flared up.
And that is exactly why I aim low. Store bought 100% of the time, if I even bother to participate in bringing something for a school party (it's 50/50 I'd say). So there are NO expectations. I'm a hero if I bring in 2 bottles of Motts for Tots because most times I am too busy and too lazy to even see the sign up sheet on the door asking for items.
But I'm very relaxed. I am well rested and all my hair appotiments etc are up to date!
And DD, well she doesn't know any better. She still says. "Mommy? I love you." every single day.
I feel like the two of us could be friends. I never even got around to bringing cupcakes to day care for my DS's 3rd birthday last month. But, he will never remember and we had a fun party with family & friends and that's all that matters. We do go out a lot on the weekends, but that's more because I can't deal with the boys being home all day because they drive me insane...I would rather them be wild at the zoo or park than in my living room. And pinterest? Forget it. My kids have the most low key birthday parties with a bunch of kids running around like psychos, pizza & juice, and all of the adults enjoying a grown up beverage on the deck.  It is what it is, my way is not better than any other way...ALL that matters is that your kids are happy, healthy, and they feel safe & loved. Kids don't need anything else.
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| Posted 6/12/14 6:04 PM |
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PitterPatter11
Baby Boy is Here!
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
My DS was born the same time as your DC and I also still need to order birth announcements.
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| Posted 6/12/14 7:53 PM |
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wakemeup
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
Posted by Michelle1123
I don't want to be the kind of mom you described (OP) And I'm not saying its a bad thing to be that way, just not something I'm into.
We are much more laid back in my house, and my kids are too. Maybe that's why I'm on baby #5. I make them a lunch for school everyday and play a few games with them. We do crafts for special occasions only or if we're having a friend over for a play date.
I don't have a baby book for any of my kids, just photos backed up online. I keep very few things too.
And even with doing just those few things, my house is still a mess, I'm behind on work (part of job is done at home), I don't sleep, I do laundry once a week and I don't make beds unless its laundry day or someone is coming over.
I'm not very involved in school because I have the little ones home during the day. They each do one activity outside of school (its all we can afford)
My kids are happy and to me that's all that matters.
This is me, and I only have 2 kids!
If someone else wants to be a Pinterest mom, more power to them. I will never be that mom and I am okay with that. The most I will do is buy decorations at Party City. I just can't justify the time or expense of doing anything else, especially since all the kids care about is the cake, the presents, and the memories.
ETA: as far as the day to day stuff, I consider it a win if I don't plop them in front of the TV immediately after school and pictures? My family has to remind me to take them. I haven't used my DSLR since March.
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gina409
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
Posted by maymama
I get caught up in it. then I realize, nothing matter but happy, healthy kids and mom/dad. NOTHING else matters.
This. It took me a long time to accept I can't be the organic no sugar make my own toys drafting all day then we make cookies never watch tv and my kids sttn and are well be haved mom
My house is messy. My kids have eaten mc Donald's and pizza. They fistfight. They cry. Sometimes I cry
The tv is on the laundry still in the dryer and I look like a zombie
But at end of the day we are all alive and happy and that's ok by me
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drpepper318
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
Really you shouldn't feel bad. I am such a complete & total mess! I have a FB friend in particular who is constantly posting the types of pictures you are talking about. I just shake my head & think that's so not me. Nor would I be happy being that way, it's not who I am & that's it. DS doesn't have a completed nursery, I don't have baby books or scrapbooks or any of that stuff, I don't bake or do crafts... most days his clothes don't match & I can barely get the laundry done & dinner prepared, my house is a mess. I just do my best & it'll have to be good enough! Kids don't care or know the difference, they don't need all that anyway.
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| Posted 6/12/14 9:16 PM |
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allIwant
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
I call pinterest ...the website of $@it I don't have time for !!
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| Posted 6/12/14 9:20 PM |
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Leb
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Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
Haha this thread has me hysterical. I don't even get Pinterest. Why would I want to waste time hunting down random items and transforming them into beautiful spray painted holiday wreaths or whatever it is people do. You do whatever it is you have to do to get by!
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| Posted 6/12/14 10:00 PM |
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Agape08
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
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Posted by NervousNell
See, just reading this gives me hives. Like I got itchy and my eczema flared up.
And that is exactly why I aim low. Store bought 100% of the time, if I even bother to participate in bringing something for a school party (it's 50/50 I'd say). So there are NO expectations. I'm a hero if I bring in 2 bottles of Motts for Tots because most times I am too busy and too lazy to even see the sign up sheet on the door asking for items.
But I'm very relaxed. I am well rested and all my hair appotiments etc are up to date!
And DD, well she doesn't know any better. She still says. "Mommy? I love you." every single day.
See and as much as I drive myself crazy, my anxiety would go through the roof if my kids back to school supplies and backpacks for September weren't purchased yet ( they were) or if I didn't have my holiday photos taken and ready to be ordered by the end of October.
hair appointments... I get my hair cut once a year... twice if I'm lucky. I color it myself in my bathroom ( usually after midnight) to save time and money.
I type this post while wrapping goody bags for the Pre-k graduation party I am throwing for my DC and the entire class. I'm the youngest mom in the class and probably look the oldest
Nice to know there is someone else like me out there! As I sit here wide awake at 3:46am bc my mind is racing with everything that needs to get done. For me it's mostly work stress though. I know it's not worth it - like every other poster has said - but I completely get it. It's just our personalities.
I am also that mom. Birth announcements are in peoples hands within 30 days of birth - and they have to be professionally done. October is when we take our Xmas photos bc I need back the cards from the photographers so I can have them out the day after thanksgiving! I nurse for a year while working full time in the city. I don't go out with friends until i put them down to sleep at night. I never want them to feel like I left them with a sitter so I can go have fun without them. I've never had a sitter! I don't vacation without my kids. The second they are born I book two vacations - one Summer and one winter. 40 days after birth I hAve their baptisms all booked (same as planning a wedding). I attend all classmates bday parties and make sure I need to take a mortgage to buy gifts for all other events I just can't say no to (a little exaggerated lol).
The only thing I don't do are the monthly photos and I am not creative one bit so no Pinterest worthy anything for me lol. Thank god I only have boys hahaha
Btw Groovebook is the best app invention. Definitely takes care of all my iPhone photos.
I wish us both luck and hope we don't have heart attacks lollllll
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mnmsoinlove
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
Posted by NervousNell
What did our mother's do?
In the days before Pintrest and Blogs and all that shitt?
Oh, that's right, they raised us.
And I think we all turned out ok.
my mom is always saying motherhood in the 80's & 90's was much easier than it is now because of social media. Everyone is always competing and looking up stuff on the web trying to find out what's normal and what's not . It's making motherhood even harder than it already is. We are driving ourselves crazy!
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jgl
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
I think i fall somewhere in the middle.
Yes i try out some things on pinterest. Yes im the mom who took pics of her sons 1st/last day of nursery school with a challboard sign. But it took 30 mins of my time. I keep up with photos and photo books and keep track of milestones (phone app) but its bc i know i would regret it if i didnt so i force myself.
Ds1 school bday i bought cupcakes but did make rescue bot toppers for them. I do fun activities with them but other days we do nothing lol Ds #1 ate a choc chip muffin for lunch this week (wasnt worth the fight). I stick both in front of the tv so i can eat or get things done.
Im def not super mom lol
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RSquared0907
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Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
I'm definitely in the middle. Pinterest isn't my favorite, but I DIY'd my wedding well before pinterest, so I'm pretty sure I'm just wired to be this way.
For "big" things, I probably go a bit crazy. Did I perhaps throw DD a 1/2 bday party, complete with a homemade 1/2 cake and theme specific decorations? Maybe. For her 1st bday, did I perhaps spend hours making my own "chalkboard" stats sign and throw a fiesta party where I made all the food and decorations myself, including a cactus cake and sombrero cookies? All while working FT in NYC and still nursing and DD still not STTN? Sure. Was I exhausted afterwards? You better believe it.
But day to day? Ain't nobody got time for that.
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NervousNell
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
Posted by allIwant
I call pinterest ...the website of $@it I don't have time for !!
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| Posted 6/13/14 8:47 AM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
Posted by jgl
I think i fall somewhere in the middle.
Yes i try out some things on pinterest. Yes im the mom who took pics of her sons 1st/last day of nursery school with a challboard sign. But it took 30 mins of my time. I keep up with photos and photo books and keep track of milestones (phone app) but its bc i know i would regret it if i didnt so i force myself.
Ds1 school bday i bought cupcakes but did make rescue bot toppers for them. I do fun activities with them but other days we do nothing lol Ds #1 ate a choc chip muffin for lunch this week (wasnt worth the fight). I stick both in front of the tv so i can eat or get things done.
Im def not super mom lol
I'm just like you, I fall somewhere in the middle. Certain things I'm crazy about because if I wasn't it would bother me and other things I'm totally laid back about because everything can't be perfect and "just so" ALL of the time.
Personally, I absolutely adore Pinterest. Like, LOVE it. There are so many fun ideas, crafts, recipes, etc. But in general, I've always loved that stuff. I love to cook, I'm crafty, I enjoy putting the effort into certain things.........it's just fun for me. I'm not looking to impress anyone, I really do the things I do because I just find it to be enjoyable.
I'm the person who has made homemade banners, decorations, etc. for my kids birthdays. I tend to cook everything myself, even for big parties. I love making homemade gifts for teachers, family, friends etc. And I also took pics of my DD on the first day of Kindergarten holding a little sign.
But that's just my personality. 100%. I tend to go all out on certain things simply because I love planning and organizing, trying new things, decorating, cleaning, etc. So for me..........Pinterest is pure heaven.
All that being said, I don't think that if you DON'T go crazy it makes you a bad mom or that you should feel bad about yourself. Different people are into different things and we all have our own way of going about things. No mom is doing it 100% perfect but who cares..........as long as you're enjoying the ride, you're content, and your kids are happy and healthy you're totally nailing it!!!! 
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| Posted 6/13/14 9:11 AM |
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ml110
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Re: Am I the only one? Mommy fail... daily
not at all!!! I'm a SAHM. DS is 3.5, our only child and very active. BEcause hes an only child, he wants ME to play with him and entertain him. We have no family or help in the area... and some days I just can't do it. Somedays he'll watch Cars 3 times in a row, or watch about 5 episodes of PAw Patrol, or stay in his PJs until 1 PM.
Whatever! hes smart, social, happy, healthy... its not gonna kill him  in fact, it makes me a better mom to get those breaks.
I can see how you would want to do more stuff like that with your DC though-- its hard not to when you see what other people are (supposedly) doing with their kids.
What I would do it pick something that's important to you and do that. Is it important for you to do the crafty stuff with your kids? Just do that. Is it important for you to do family outings? do that instead of the crafty stuff.
For me, pictures are important. So I stay up late working on shutterfly photo books or spend time going to walgreens or wherever to get pictures printed to frame. I do that instead of the Pintrest crafts or whatever.
so it makes me feel better that I'm at least doing some of "THAT" stuff for my kid LOL
but don't stress... you're fine, your kid is fine, life is good!
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