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Re: My gut is telling me that my MIL might not come to DD's christening...very long(sorry)

I would call the aunt. What do you have to lose, she gets mad at you? Doesn't sound like she's a big part of your lives anyhow.

Re: My gut is telling me that my MIL might not come to DD's christening...very long(sorry)

I think you should get involved on your MIL's behalf- I know I would. Talk to your FIl and if it goes in one ear and out the other, then call the aunt yourself. Who cares if she gets pissy with you? You said you don't care for her much anyway. Tell her how important it is to you, DH and DD that MIL be ath the cristening, but your concerned she may not come if there are no arrangements for GM. Make her feel guilty as hell until she agrees to watch her own mother for the day.- I don't think that's too much to ask.

Re: My gut is telling me that my MIL might not come to DD's christening...very long(sorry)

I would call the aunt and ask her to do it as a favor. Let her know that it would be a huge regret if she wasn't there to see her grandchild baptised and it would mean so much if she (the aunt) could take grandma for the day.

Just expect for some excuses - we've dealt with this before. You might be pleasantly surprised but in case she says no it'll hurt more if you don't expect it.

Re: My gut is telling me that my MIL might not come to DD's christening...very long(sorry)

I do think you should talk to the aunt also. It's not right for her to go to the Christening and not your MIL. People just annoy me soooo much sometimes! They have no clue!

Re: My gut is telling me that my MIL might not come to DD's christening...very long(sorry)

Good Luck!
I'm going to answer this from a cultural view- calling an already invited "Croatian" aunt,to tell her to stay home and take care of albeit her own mother (but in this case it might as well be any Tom,**** or Harry since she doesn't care anyway) is like saying "YOU ARE DIS-INVITED" be prepared for the phones to start ringing,gossip to be flying to ANYONE who will listen and her own children ( DH's cousins) to bawl your DH out & not come because they are now backing-up their mom.
You,yourself know only your DH can step-up and open his mouth to his aunt. He's blood-related,they will forgive him..but they will never forgive YOU.
If you are the one to tell her to stay home,she will definetly NOT come at all and most likely will not go to take care of her own mother anyway.
BTW: why can't the aid be with GM during the Christening..or can you and DH pay for someone to sit with her? I don't mean a teenage sitter.
Your FIL,MIL or DH have to tackle this one..not you..although,you can gently nudge DH into it.

Re: My gut is telling me that my MIL might not come to DD's christening...very long(sorry)

Posted by jana

Good Luck!
I'm going to answer this from a cultural view- calling an already invited "Croatian" aunt,to tell her to stay home and take care of albeit her own mother (but in this case it might as well be any Tom,**** or Harry since she doesn't care anyway) is like saying "YOU ARE DIS-INVITED" be prepared for the phones to start ringing,gossip to be flying to ANYONE who will listen and her own children ( DH's cousins) to bawl your DH out & not come because they are now backing-up their mom.
You,yourself know only your DH can step-up and open his mouth to his aunt. He's blood-related,they will forgive him..but they will never forgive YOU.
If you are the one to tell her to stay home,she will definetly NOT come at all and most likely will not go to take care of her own mother anyway.
BTW: why can't the aid be with GM during the Christening..or can you and DH pay for someone to sit with her? I don't mean a teenage sitter.
Your FIL,MIL or DH have to tackle this one..not you..although,you can gently nudge DH into it.

Re: My gut is telling me that my MIL might not come to DD's christening...very long(sorry)

Re: My gut is telling me that my MIL might not come to DD's christening...very long(sorry)

Posted by Ang-Rich

Posted by Seles81
Plus GM's latest obession is the bathroom. She will stay in their for 30-45 minutes at a time thinking she has to go and she does this numerious time a day so she really can't be in a public setting.

There you go - you can bring her and just leave her in the bathroom the entire time?

Sorry - I was just hoping to make you laugh a little - I know these things get stressful.