The Queen Of The Castle: Treating Your Woman Right

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By Mia Bolaris-Forget

There are a few things that most people want and that is love and appreciation. And, women, whether they are out in the work force or stay-at-home spouses and moms are no different.

And, according to experts, it’s that lack of respect that women long and yearn for, and the need to be made to feel sexy and special that results in problems in their self-esteem, personal lives and relationships.

While most men “can” be pretty cleaver about wooing a woman prior to establishing a relationship, they often forget to continue that passionate “pursuit” when they’re actually in one.

Let’s fact it, it’s not likely that you (our) guys, as well-mannered as you are and were growing up, grew up saying thanks to mom for everything she did. In fact, it was probably almost “expected”. And, once in a serious relationship/marriage want, perhaps expect the same nurturing you got “at home” but only with a few extra perks. And, since you were probably rarely home all day, (similar to today’s scenario), you probably never got a good idea of how much work housework really and actually is.

Yet, when most of us look at all the tasks and chores that wives/mothers accomplish in a mere eight to twelve hours, experts assert that we can actually place a monetary value on their worth.

Housekeeping $13,000 (20 hours a week for 52 weeks)
Nursing $1,300 (an hour a week for 52 weeks)
Cook $21,840 (3 hours a day, seven days a week for 52 weeks)
Psychologist $36,400 (an hour a day, seven days a week for 52 weeks)
Taxi $21,840 (3 hours a day, 7 days a week for 52 weeks)
Tutor $3900 (an hour a day 5 days a week for 52 weeks)
Party planner $22,500 (ten times a year spending 10 hours each party)
Sec./Receptionist $17,472 (3 hours a day seven days a week for 52 weeks)
Annual Total $138,252

And, they suggest that one of the best ways to show your love, admiration and appreciation is by showing her a little R-E-SP-E-C-T.

1. Lighten Her Load: Moms/wives rarely get any downtime as there is always something to do or someone to get ready before she, herself, can get ready. Give the woman of your home a hand by picking up the “slack” giving her an opportunity and some time to slack-off. Consider making Her breakfast (with some help for the kids), a romantic dinner, or even readying and packing lunches for the next day. You may also want to give her a day off, tell her to go out, or better yet, away with the girls. Perhaps even send her to a refreshing day or weekend spa and spend the time away tidying up the house, and help maintain it when she gets back.

2. Give More Than You Receive: Women (moms/wives) are the one most people in the family turn to and lean on. But, who do THEY or can THEY lean on? Pitching in around the house, taking her or giving her a special night out and/or surprising her with something special, the best gift you can give mom is planning something you can ALL do together, and/or actually sitting down and talking, listening to and encouraging her thoughts and ideas, seeking (willingly and voluntarily) her opinion and valuing her input (by actually taking her advice and following through).

3. Keep Up The Good Work: Follow your mate’s example in the way she does things or runs the house without her nagging or asking. Remember, women put a lot of energy and effort into making a house a home and into creating a warm and welcoming environment. Rather than disregard her efforts find ways to live up to her standards and take some of the burden off her shoulders. Also allow, support and encourage her to reach for and go for her ambitions and other things that are important to her. Let her know you want to see her soar and prove it. Even encourage her to do things alone, away from the family, or with positive peers who will empower her as a wife, mother and individual and remember not to drop the ball around the house when she’s not there.