Can You Hear Me Now: Getting Your Point Across Poignantly

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By Mi

We’ve all been in the same, or at least a similar situation at one point in time or another. You know asking your mate or your child/children to do something, trying to get through to a friend or coworker, only to find that your words end up on deaf and often “uncaring” ears. In fact, it may frequently seem that if you want something (done right or done at all) you likely have to tackle it yourself.

Yet, according to experts, being heard and affecting change can be all in the presentation. And, they add it all starts with kindness and respect. And, that may mean listening to things you don’t agree with or putting up with opinions and conversations that go completely against your grain.

According to experts most of us are inclined to resort to “fear tactics” to get our point across, especially when you are convinced, if not assured we are right. And, yes, this method often “does” get results, but they are frequently not long-term results, with most going back to their old way of doing things or thinking. And, some (experts) suggest that while this approach may be successful (for some), it typically rarely changes someone’s life. In fact, it may be more likely that the person feel so degraded that he or she shrinks away avoiding any future exchange of ideas and dialogue.

Plus, this approach often affects how your speak, both in tone and words you choose, mostly, according to experts, demeaning and debasing the person you are trying to “loving” prod along or correct. And, once you steal a person’s dignity, unless they can see and realize your good intentions, through perhaps a “not-so-good approach”, they are not likely to want to hear any thing more you have to say, even if it is for their own good. So, if you want to get through, controlling your own behaviour is the first, fundamental step.

Still, experts add, that you too should take a stand when one is called for, but without being insulting or offensive. If you have been clear about something and the other party continues to show little or no respect or regard for YOUR needs and requests, you may have to simply remove yourself from the toxic environment and situation. And, if they find “this” behaviour “offensive”, simply be ready, willing, and able to explain, again keeping your “cool” at all costs.

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