how long did you wait?

before TTC? did you both look at each other one day and say 'let's have kids?' how did that happen?

DH and I are 31 and will be married 6 years next month. now is def not a good time for us to TTC for reasons that i won't get into, but i think i am getting close to wanting to try. plus for medical reasons i was strongly advised to have delivered all kids by 35. i asked DH and he was unsure, though he does know he def wants kids.

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We waited until right before our wedding. DH is older than myself, and we've been together for 5 years now. We've lived together for 3, gone on vacations and did what we wanted to do. We knew it was going to take us awhile since I have PCOS, and now dh was told he has a low sperm count. 18 months later and still no BFP, but we are optimistic and know it will happen eventually

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I always had the baby bug, DH didn't. Then for health reasons we weren't able to have kids. I recently had surgery and feel GREAT now. We're married 2 years in Sept and his sister is also pregnant and due in Sept. I just had the talk when I asked him where he was with it. Now that my health is better, we're going to start trying when I'm done with the pill pack. We decided that we are just going to "see what happens" for a few months and then actively start trying. We want to have fun with it before the pressure starts.

My FIL said a long time ago that there is never a "good" time to have kids unless health problems are involved. Other things come up all the time and you never know when something else is going to come up. Someone loses a job, my heart goes out to them but at the same time, you could have a job, start trying, get pregnant and someone loses their job while pregnant.

You will know when you are ready. I used to go back and forth on it and not until I didn't have a doubt in my mind that I was ready did we really sit down and have the baby talk.

Good luck with whatever is going on. And please, try not to think of the time limit. If you aren't ready for any reason, then wait.

how long did you wait?

Too long. I was always ready, DH not so much. Now we've been TTC for a long while and I really wish we had started much earlier. If I knew it would be this difficult, I would have started 3 years ago when we got married.

how long did you wait?

HMMM....I actually don't know the answer to this question. I think we definitely both felt that we wanted to be married at least a year. Then after that we waiting to try and plan to good timing with the school year since we are both teachers. I think we were both ready when we got married and just smart about making sure a few other things were in order first.

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A long time! I didn't actually think I'd ever want kids. We were married 8 years, and had been together 5 years before getting married.

I'm so glad we had a lot of married time together. We got to do so many things just the two of us.

But then we just sort of decided it was time for a new adventure together.

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not long at all....but we dated a very long time prior to engagement and then we were engaged for two years more.... so after our honeymoon i came off bc and started prenatals....we finally decided 100% we wanted to try about 5months after we got married....got pregnant the second month of trying

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If my dh told me on our honeymoon he wanted to start trying, I would have been all for it!! However... he wanted to wait 2 years. By the one year mark though, we went out for lunch and while sitting there he told me he feels like he will want to start sooner. 6 months later, we were trying.... It's been a long road since then, but I am so grateful for the times we had BEFORE we started trying to just be carefree, etc..... He knew that as soon as he was on board, I would be too. Good luck!

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DH and I have been married for 3 years (7/10 ) and this summer we decided to throw our hats into the ring!

I *thought* I was ready last summer but DH wasn't, and I was upset and thought that I could change his mind. But then I felt like he might resent me if I pushed.

Now that we're both ready and talk about our future children, it is the best feeling ever! I have enjoyed our time together of being carefree and doing what we please. But, now is the time and I can feel that we're both ready!

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how long did you wait?

I always say there was a point where our desire to have a baby outweighed any fears we had. We were married just over 2 yrs when we started trying.

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We started trying a year and a half after getting married and it took 8 mos...I was 34 when I finally got pregnant.

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In January we will be together 6 years, we just got married this past September. I wanted to start trying right after we got married but DH was not ready. We finally agreed to start trying this summer even though he was still a little hesitant. But now every baby he sees he is like awwww babies are so cute, I hope we have one soon.

how long did you wait?

even before we got married, DH and I knew we would want to have kids right away. After we came back from our HM, we were in bed one night and we had decided we would start trying in September ('11) but then in August we were just like you know what, eff it, and we threw caution to the wind. I'm glad we didn't wait because i had a feeling we would have trouble with my PCOS and we did.

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Me and dh agreed we wanted to be married for one year before ttc. We got married January 2008 and I was pregnant March 2009.

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DH and I always talked about having kids, but we wanted to know that we were in a good financial situation first. We don't have any family close by so we would need to either be able to sustain a 1 person income or have the money to pay for child care.
In March DH got a huge promotion and increase in salary and that put us in the comfort zone.

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DH and I wanted kids right away. We started actively trying on our honeymoon, (which was 3 months after our wedding) but after 4 months of trying with no success we came into some financial issues and decided to put TTC on the back burner. I am still off of the pill so anything can happen but we don't "try". I figure when God feels we are ready it will happen on it's own. We are going to start "trying" again in January. So hopefully we will get our wish sooner than later.

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We started trying last Nov and then in January, I decided I wanted to switch jobs and stopped trying. I haven't found a new job and I think I want to start trying again in August. DH has been ready...for a while. But easier for him, he doesn't have to carry the baby! lol

ETA: We got married Sept 09, so 3 years

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We were married in July 2011 and knew we wanted to wait about a year - which would be after our condo sold and we were in a house. Then earlier this year we started talking about when the "right" time would be and being that I was on the pill and had to come off, etc... we decided to speed it up even though our condo isn't sold yet and therefore haven't bought a house. But I don't believe that there is never a "perfect" time...there will ALWAYS be life stressors that can throw a monkey wrench into things so we are trying but have faith that it will happen when g-d wants it to for us.
We are both 30 and this will be the first pregnancy so the clock is ticking and we didn't want to wait until everything seems to be in line and then start trying because what happens if we have trouble? So It's been about 3-4 months off the pill now and only really started trying this past month.

how long did you wait?

we both knew we wanted to start a family shortly after we were married (im 31). we hope to have 2-3 kids so one day after we were married we were just casually talking about oh when we have kids etc and it turned into...hmm when will we have kids? so we spoke about timing based on age etc and decided to start ttc a few months later. when that time came up i just reminded him that i would be stopping birth control and he was of course still on board. then it took a few months but we finally got our bfp!
i know i never thought it would take me so long to get my bfp and part of me wishes we started sooner but i am grateful and thrilled it happened when it did.

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We waited about 3 years after getting married. I was the hesitant one, DH was ready before we even got married!! We are due just shy of our 4 year anniversary. And FYI, DH is planning our next one!

how long did you wait?

DH and I have been together for 13 yrs and just got married in Dec. Since June of 2011 we have just kinda been throwing caution to the wind and nothing yet. Last month is the first month I temped and used the CBEFM. I wanted to be done with all my kids by 26 LOL Pipedreams!!