anyone DH not want to have another baby?

i am 40 and my husband is 47 we have a almost 3 year old son and I really want another baby but DH thinks we are to old. I really want another one especially since we are older for my sons sake ? anyone have any advice?

thanks!

Re: anyone DH not want to have another baby?

No advice but I definitely think you guys are not too old. DH was on the fence too about another but we will be starting our second cycle next month

BTW: I was literally just thinking of you. I was going through some old threads not even an hour ago and was wondering how you were. We were cycle buddies.

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i remember and I was thinking of you too recently we are glad your trying again good luck for another successful cycle! keep me updated!!

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DH says hes done too, but I am NOT!!!!
The best to do is to talk to him and hope he will change his mind!

Re: anyone DH not want to have another baby?

You let me know how you uys talk your DH's into it

At 41.5 (had Ann at 40.5), I feel like we should not wait if we are going for #2 but it's kinda hard to do anything when I'm the only one wanting to go for #2!! (DH will be 44).

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i am in the same situation.. i said i didn't want anymore either after the twins were born.. but i am having a change of heart.. my DH says absolutely not.. 2 is enough.. ( i do feel blessed , we had a long journey)
so he feels that he is getting old too.. i dont think so at all

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First you are not too old. In this day and age where so many people wait to start families, I dont think a say 68 yo with a 20yo child is going to be outside the norm.

To the pp I lost my mom when she was 63, however my dad is still kicking at a very young 71. Nothing in life is for certain. I think the avg life expectancy is in the late 70-80s so why cut your life short by thinking " I could die when my DC is XX years old".

Anyway back to the question. My DH would have been content with just 1. He kept making comments to me about just having 1 giving away our baby stuff etc. THen one day I had enough and I said stop. I am having another child....do you want to be involved or not is up to you. But after losing my mom I feel its important for my child to have a sibling. I want him to be able to look to someone who shares his memories should anything happen to DH or I. My DH understood what I was saying.

We talked alot about it but just recently he got back on board and we are TTC.

GL!

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Me and my dh are in agreement we dont want anymore children. We have one dd. I am 35 and dh is 38 I think the age thing is more of an issue for me than dh

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Hi Amy!!!! How are you??

We both wanted another and did an IVF cycle last summer. It didn't work. I just turned 44, so we are done. I didn't have to talk DH into it tho, so I guess I don't have any advice. Except to just remind him that you don't have much time to decide.....

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We have two and I would LOVE another one but DH is over and back - when the kids are all angelic and sweet he is like "yeah lets have another one" but when they are screaming he is like "we are done".....I 100% feel I have another little soul out there waiting for us so I am hoping to help change his mind so he is 100% on board too as I would only go for it if he was fully committed to it.

About the age thing - I had DD when I was 34, DS when I was 38 and would hope to have a third no later than 40. I think there are a lot of "older" parents out there nowadays.

For me I think it would be easier on my kids if anything were to happen to DH or myself and they had each other to support but again that is just how I feel.

Good luck with your decision

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Your not too old. My mother had my brother at 41 and he was fine. I know she isn't a good example but I happen to be reading People magazine and Michelle Duggar is 43 and they are talking about having more children not that I think she should but my point is...your not too old, I wouldn't wait too long though..I think over 36 puts you an elevated risk so if you are going to have another I would want to soon JMO. Good luck!

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I am 35 (just turned 35 in July) and pregnant with #2, due Dec 25.

I always thought I just wanted 2, but I really want a third. DH is happy with the 2 we are going to have.

Honestly if $$$ wasn't an issue and I didn't have to work, I think I we would start TTC for a third next summer and see what happens.

We'll see, I need to see how we handle a 2nd child first before thinking about a 3rd, LOL!!