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Pray4Baby2010
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Member since 10/09 5796 total posts
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MB
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WWYD regarding shower invite
I have this friend- we'll call her M- she's my sorority sister and we've been friends for about 8 years- but she is kind of one of those people that you dont see often but when you do you pick up exactly where you left off. I actually havent seen her since my wedding- we've made plans to do stuff and one of us always has to cancel.
Anyway, so in May when I announced my pregnancy- she congratulated me via text and also told me she had a miscarriage. I sent a card, she sent me an email thanking me- and we really havent spoken since.
So umm, do I invite her to my shower? I'd love to see her but I dont want her to think I only invite her to things that require a gift and I dont want her to feel bad about the baby she lost 
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mbawnr
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Vanessa
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Re: WWYD regarding shower invite
I have had many miscarriages and I say invite her. She can choose to come or not to come.
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| Posted 7/14/10 4:47 PM |
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Re: WWYD regarding shower invite
I would invite her but say that. . say you are really one of those people that I feel like will always be in my life and I'd love for you to come but as i know that this could be a hard part of your life, I won't be offended at all if it doesn't feel good for you to come but i did want to extend the invitation bc even though we don't see each other I care about you a lot . etc etc. .
or edited to say . maybe all this not necessary and makes a bigger deal out of it than its is and just invite her as the pp says!
Message edited 7/14/2010 4:50:00 PM.
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| Posted 7/14/10 4:48 PM |
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springsandra
Baby girl has a baby brother!
Member since 11/09 7155 total posts
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Sandra
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Re: WWYD regarding shower invite
I would invite her. If she feels like it's only about the gift, she'll just get you something small. I don't think that's a big deal. If she comes, it'll be nice for both of you to hang out. I'm sure she has other friends who are pregnant and are having children -- and hopefully she will be next and you will return the favor!
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| Posted 7/14/10 4:51 PM |
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dbleplay17
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Chrissy
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Re: WWYD regarding shower invite
I would invite her.
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| Posted 7/14/10 5:00 PM |
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LuLu2260
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Member since 7/09 1647 total posts
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Mich
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Re: WWYD regarding shower invite
I would like her deiced. If she doesnt want to come then she wont. Just dont me mad I guess if she cant.
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| Posted 7/14/10 5:15 PM |
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keepingsecrets
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Re: WWYD regarding shower invite
crashing........but......as somebody who has lost 2 babies in the last year, i say definitely invite her. if she doesn't feel ready and rsvp's no then that's ok but give her the option. i recently went to a shower for a friend and mentioned verbally to me that she'd totally understand if i didn't feel comfortable going but that she wanted to send the invite so i would know i am welcome! because she was so understanding, i decided to go and i had a really nice time. HTH 
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| Posted 7/14/10 5:48 PM |
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TnJ2007
Angelina . . . My Lil Angel
Member since 8/08 2196 total posts
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Tricia
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Re: WWYD regarding shower invite
i say invite her.
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| Posted 7/14/10 6:30 PM |
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TheDivineMrsM
2 girls 4 me!
Member since 8/08 7878 total posts
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Mama mama mama....
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Re: WWYD regarding shower invite
You're a good friend to be so considerate of her feelings. I'd send the invite, and say exactly what you told us: you don't want to force into a difficult situation, but would love to see her. Let her decide.
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| Posted 7/14/10 6:46 PM |
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kristin597
Mama!
Member since 8/08 1688 total posts
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Kristin
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Re: WWYD regarding shower invite
Coming from someone who has had a miscarriage in the past - invite her. If it is too hard for her then it will be her decision to decline.
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| Posted 7/14/10 6:58 PM |
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shelby34
Love being a twin mommy!
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Michele
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Re: WWYD regarding shower invite
Definitely invite her. I think she will feel worse if she isn't invited...she'll probably want to celebrate your good news.
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| Posted 7/14/10 7:24 PM |
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